Can I have sex?

[Anonymous]

Soon after I separated, I went on a bunch of online dates and ended up sleeping with a couple of them. One guy was recently separated, one was never married but had broken off an engagement, and one was widowed. None of us were looking for anything long term, just a connection and physical intimacy. And I'm actually still friends with them, without benefits. They're good guys.

I also had a one night stand with a younger guy I met at a conference.

Sometimes sex is just sex. I knew I wasn't ready for a relationship then, but it was fun to blow off steam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you going to make the emotional connection that I hear women need before they want sex?

+1
(Getting popcorn ready as this should be really interesting)

Emotional connection is important in a long term relationship. I think op is looking for something different here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

BE_Jack wrote:

Anonymous wrote:oh god. Men are so pathetic. You don't even know what she looks like or if she's fun, but you smell blood in the water and begin to circle like sharks.

Yet you say nothing about the woman advertising she wants sex after a recent breakup? Now that's pathetic.

No, it's not. She's going to go online and search for what she wants, not hit on faceless posters on a non-dating site.

I'm willing to provide her with whatever she wants, including pics and meeting public at first. Maybe not all men are pathetic and are actually sick of playing the online dating dance crap game and wants to meet someone who has clear expectations upfront if there is mutual sexual attraction?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oh god. Men are so pathetic. You don't even know what she looks like or if she's fun, but you smell blood in the water and begin to circle like sharks.

There is an endless supply of horndogs out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the big upside to divorce getting to sleep around? Or is only divorced men who think like this.

I can assure you that getting laid on the regular is a huge upside to getting separated and divorced. And many women think like this, myself most enthusiastically is included in this group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the big upside to divorce getting to sleep around? Or is only divorced men who think like this.

I can assure you that getting laid on the regular is a huge upside to getting separated and divorced. And many women think like this, myself most enthusiastically is included in this group.

I agree. I've had more sex in the last year than in my entire marriage - or close! I'm in casual relationships with three guys (yes, protection is a must) and have sex at least twice a week but not with each one! After years of feeling undesirable it is a joy to feel the exact opposite. I'd love to get back into a LTR and I'm now very confident in the bedroom skills I can bring to the relationship. My ex made me feel like a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the big upside to divorce getting to sleep around? Or is only divorced men who think like this.

I can assure you that getting laid on the regular is a huge upside to getting separated and divorced. And many women think like this, myself most enthusiastically is included in this group.

I would say that the hook up culture is probably 20% of people, even on college campuses. The Sex and The City, I got divorced and date five people at once crowd is not the majority, even for men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

BE_Jack wrote:

Anonymous wrote:oh god. Men are so pathetic. You don't even know what she looks like or if she's fun, but you smell blood in the water and begin to circle like sharks.

Yet you say nothing about the woman advertising she wants sex after a recent breakup? Now that's pathetic.

No, it's not. She's going to go online and search for what she wants, not hit on faceless posters on a non-dating site.

I'm willing to provide her with whatever she wants, including pics and meeting public at first. Maybe not all men are pathetic and are actually sick of playing the online dating dance crap game and wants to meet someone who has clear expectations upfront if there is mutual sexual attraction?

But she didn't post here saying, "hey, guys, looking for a lay! Anyone interested?" She wanted to talk about her thoughts and feelings. And then a bunch of mopes rush in saying, " 'sup?" This isn't a dating site; let her have this as a safe space to talk about, not do it.

[Anonymous]

Do you live in a college town? Can you hire a student for some domestic help and then, one day, greet him in a nightgown holding a glass of wine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the big upside to divorce getting to sleep around? Or is only divorced men who think like this.

I can assure you that getting laid on the regular is a huge upside to getting separated and divorced. And many women think like this, myself most enthusiastically is included in this group.

I would say that the hook up culture is probably 20% of people, even on college campuses. The Sex and The City, I got divorced and date five people at once crowd is not the majority, even for men.

Good lord, is sleeping with multiple people that uncommon? Since my separation, I've had sex with 8 people. One of them is an ongoing FWB, so I'm usually seeing the other people in close timing to being with him.

I like sex. I'm reasonably attractive. I don't have hang-ups about hooking up. I'm safe and I get tested.

I have a new guy I recently met who I think will be #9.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes it pretty clear that the whole "women need emotional connection to want sex" trope is untrue.

Woman here. In my opinion, it depends on what the woman is looking for at that time. If she wants a relationship or an emotional connection, she needs to build an emotional connection with that man. If she just wants to have fun, she does not need an emotional connection. Then it is just sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes it pretty clear that the whole "women need emotional connection to want sex" trope is untrue.

Woman here. In my opinion, it depends on what the woman is looking for at that time. If she wants a relationship or an emotional connection, she needs to build an emotional connection with that man. If she just wants to have fun, she does not need an emotional connection. Then it is just sex.

So then why do women make the men they love jump through hoops while they'll have wild sex and f*ck feasts with men they don't care about? Seems to me this is one f*cked up notion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dumbest question ever
Most of the reponses are equally dumb
OP: yes

Why does this place seem like a magnet for spoiled, entitled women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes it pretty clear that the whole "women need emotional connection to want sex" trope is untrue.

Woman here. In my opinion, it depends on what the woman is looking for at that time. If she wants a relationship or an emotional connection, she needs to build an emotional connection with that man. If she just wants to have fun, she does not need an emotional connection. Then it is just sex.

So then why do women make the men they love jump through hoops while they'll have wild sex and f*ck feasts with men they don't care about? Seems to me this is one f*cked up notion.

Because they're mentally ill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes it pretty clear that the whole "women need emotional connection to want sex" trope is untrue.

Women will drop their panties in a heartbeat for the rock star or jock but for someone they claim to want a "real relationship" with they'll put them through the ringer.