Calling a Ph.D "Doctor"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a co-worker that insists on being called Dr. when she has a PhD from an online university. lmao

One of my proudest moments was talking a coworker out of getting an online PhD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Ph.D wife always says: unless you're ready to say "yes" when someone yells "IS ANYONE ON THIS PLANE A DOCTOR?" then just don't.

Got her Doctor Who tshirt that said "Not that kind of Doctor..."

Haha, perfect! I work in health care and we all roll our eyes when patients or family members who are PhD's asked to be addressed as Dr. It's is actually confusing and a little dumb because in the hospital setting the staff are then going to assume you are a 'real' doctor and speak to you accordingly. Then, you won't understand what is being said, and be left with tons of questions.

[Anonymous]

From a standpoint of someone who doesn't have a phd, I found that some coworkers who would introduce themselves as doctor this or that didn't really contribute much to the things that I did at work. And in some ways just got in the way. There were some ones that I enjoyed working with and would sometimes forget that they had a phd until seeing the degree on their wall.

We know a couple where the husband is a phd and the wife a stay at home wife. She always insists that he gets addressed as Dr. Don't know his specific feelings about it but think that for her it just contributes to the view that she's on the snobby side that some people already had.

One of the worst was something that I just heard recently. Where I heard someone told them something along the lines, "No offense but I have a phd and I don't get as many benefits as you..." If I was there when they said that, there would've been a whole bunch of things that I would've said about that comment. But I try to be nice.

It just kind of shows the mentality of some people I guess though.

[Anonymous]

I work with a guy who got a PhD from an online school and calls himself "Dr."

[Anonymous]

I'm married to a Ph.D. scientist who goes by his first name unless he's writing a grant. Otherwise, it sounds obnoxious in the workplace. Our neighbors don't even know he has a Ph.D. Your colleague is pretentious, and insecure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So there's the idea that it's nice to call people what they prefer to be called... regardless of whether you think their title is undeserved, or doesn't deserve respect, or they're crazy to insist on it...

There's also the idea of not condescendingly correcting your colleague like a pompous ass.

It is not condescending or pompous to let your colleagues know what you prefer to be called.

It's like asking about and correctly using someone's designated pronoun in order to show respect for their identity, which I'm told the kids all do these days.

This isn't the same as saying, "Oh, I actually go by James instead of Jim" or "Actually I identify as a woman, please call me Karen". This is someone trying to assert superiority by having OP refer to her as "Dr. Smith" while she continues to call OP by her first name.

And as everyone else on this thread has pointed out, when PhDs do that, it is extremely comical.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What entails respect? Earning potential or the ability to excel/specialize in a field/ area of interest ? Acquiring a Phd reqyuires perseverance and passion for knowledge. I think that deserves respect. Being hung up on titles is a whole another thing

OP here. I'm a lawyer involved in litigation and am trying to get documents from her. I'm not saying a PhD is worthless by any stretch.

I hope you wrote her and signed off as Esq.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So there's the idea that it's nice to call people what they prefer to be called... regardless of whether you think their title is undeserved, or doesn't deserve respect, or they're crazy to insist on it...

There's also the idea of not condescendingly correcting your colleague like a pompous ass.

It is not condescending or pompous to let your colleagues know what you prefer to be called.

It's like asking about and correctly using someone's designated pronoun in order to show respect for their identity, which I'm told the kids all do these days.

This isn't the same as saying, "Oh, I actually go by James instead of Jim" or "Actually I identify as a woman, please call me Karen". This is someone trying to assert superiority by having OP refer to her as "Dr. Smith" while she continues to call OP by her first name.

And as everyone else on this thread has pointed out, when PhDs do that, it is extremely comical.

Sure it is the same. Being a PhD is part of their identity - and obviously, a very important part to them, since they spent 6 to 10 years obtaining it.

It is not an assertion of superiority to ask someone to use the correct title that you prefer them to use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is insane and ppl like this drive me nuts. When we got married, we sent DHs brother and SIL the invitation (both PhDs) addressed to Mr and Mrs. They returned the envelope with the mr and Mrs crossed out and replaced with "Drs." Needless to say, we aren't close.

lol, love this

[Anonymous]

Our neighbor has a PsyD and insists people address her as "Doctor X". She hasn't seen a patient in at least 20 years. A total wackjob.

-PhD

[Anonymous]

Joe Biden always addressed his wife as Dr. Jill Biden and insisted others do the same even though her academic credentials peaked with her teaching one class at Northern Virginia Community College. Go figure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So there's the idea that it's nice to call people what they prefer to be called... regardless of whether you think their title is undeserved, or doesn't deserve respect, or they're crazy to insist on it...

There's also the idea of not condescendingly correcting your colleague like a pompous ass.

It is not condescending or pompous to let your colleagues know what you prefer to be called.

It's like asking about and correctly using someone's designated pronoun in order to show respect for their identity, which I'm told the kids all do these days.

This isn't the same as saying, "Oh, I actually go by James instead of Jim" or "Actually I identify as a woman, please call me Karen". This is someone trying to assert superiority by having OP refer to her as "Dr. Smith" while she continues to call OP by her first name.

And as everyone else on this thread has pointed out, when PhDs do that, it is extremely comical.

Sure it is the same. Being a PhD is part of their identity - and obviously, a very important part to them, since they spent 6 to 10 years obtaining it.

It is not an assertion of superiority to ask someone to use the correct title that you prefer them to use.

Then please henceforth refer to me as "Your Majesty"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So there's the idea that it's nice to call people what they prefer to be called... regardless of whether you think their title is undeserved, or doesn't deserve respect, or they're crazy to insist on it...

There's also the idea of not condescendingly correcting your colleague like a pompous ass.

It is not condescending or pompous to let your colleagues know what you prefer to be called.

It's like asking about and correctly using someone's designated pronoun in order to show respect for their identity, which I'm told the kids all do these days.

This isn't the same as saying, "Oh, I actually go by James instead of Jim" or "Actually I identify as a woman, please call me Karen". This is someone trying to assert superiority by having OP refer to her as "Dr. Smith" while she continues to call OP by her first name.

And as everyone else on this thread has pointed out, when PhDs do that, it is extremely comical.

Sure it is the same. Being a PhD is part of their identity - and obviously, a very important part to them, since they spent 6 to 10 years obtaining it.

It is not an assertion of superiority to ask someone to use the correct title that you prefer them to use.

Hahaha. It is obvious from your dogged defense of this that you, too, so this. Pro tip: it's backfiring. We are all rolling our eyes at you, rather than being any sort of impressed. You sound ridiculous

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My Ph.D wife always says: unless you're ready to say "yes" when someone yells "IS ANYONE ON THIS PLANE A DOCTOR?" then just don't.

"Why, does someone have a question about medieval French politics that needs immediate answering?"

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Joe Biden always addressed his wife as Dr. Jill Biden and insisted others do the same even though her academic credentials peaked with her teaching one class at Northern Virginia Community College. Go figure.

Yep. Ridiculous.