Wanted big family but think we can only handle two kids. Sad.

[Anonymous]

I am one of five and never, ever wanted a big family. I think OP is wise for understanding her limits.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a big family and it's not the perfect fantasy you imagined. I was a happy child but the family dynamics can be a challenge. It took a toll on my parents to raise so many kids and not all of us were close to each other. Now as adults I'm only close to one and we rarely are together as an extended family.

Put your energy into what you have. And I love what others have said about pets & friends. Redefine what "family" means for you. I only have two kids and perfectly happy. We have an amazing group of friends with kids and its like our extended family. We get together for holidays, birthdays, vacations and it's what you probably imagine of a big family. Fun, choas, excitement, and most importantly good memories for our kids (without the extra sibling rivalry!!)