Why do parents let their 13-15 year old girls take Uber home from concerts at midnight?

[Anonymous]

Two girls were killed in Charlottesville by a mam who worked as a cab driver.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to be 18 to use Uber, right? Anyway a 16 yr old daughter of a friend was propositioned by an Uber driver. And when she told her parents and they complained, their account was dropped.


Parents today are even less involved in their kids lives than ever before. We are the laziest generation of parents ever.

THIS. There is no way in hell I'm letting my under-18 y.o. kids use Uber.

Exactly. NEVER. I take Uber myself a lot. First, you are putting your tween/young teen in a stranger's car. Yes they track it, but only AFTER something happens. Tracking the drivers can't prevent a thing.

Second, I can't believe some of the lunatics who drive me. I had one guy who drove through every red light he could find. Another one got into a road rage incident with another driver. And a few weeks ago, one guy told me he hated everything about this country. I said, "Well, hopefully not all the people!" He said, "Yes, I hate the people too."

And he meant it. He hit the wheel for emphasis.

People here need to start re-reading PROTECTING THE GIFT. Don't put a tween or young teen in a car with people you don't know.

[Anonymous]

try googling "uber driver crimes." As a parent, you will practically throw up reading the stories. Hundreds of them.

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If Uber's so dangerous, why are you all taking it?

[Anonymous]

I'm unaware of teens ubering late at night in my community. An Uber pickup from school on 1/2 days in a gaggle of 3-4 girls is pretty common.

My older DD and friends always had a parent or two drive. I got the best naps in stadium parking lots over the years. Better sleep than once they were old enough to drive themselves or to take Metro!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't a thing. 14 yo girls don't go to concerts ending at midnight alone. If they go at all they go in groups.

It is a thing. They may go in groups and yes alone but some take Uber home. What time do you think concerts end if it starts at 8pm with a headliner?

My DD who is 14 asked me can she go to a concert with her friends. She said X's mom is taking us. I inquired about the venue, called the mom and found out she would drop the girls off, she wasn't planning on staying and the girl's would take an Uber back to her home where we could pick them up. I told my daughter absolutely not. First, she isn't going to a concert by herself. In my book when a parent says she is taking her 14 year old daughter and her friends to concert that means she will be physically in the same building the entire time and then she will drive them back to her house, not an Uber.

I am not trying to be snarky but why didn't you offer to do a leg of the trip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Just want to say, predators go where the prey is, and especially where the prey is unprotected by another. This goes for lions looking at calves at the watering hole, and for human predators.

So by way of analogy, the lion does not choose just any calf. She chooses the lamb that is the easy mark, maybe away from its mother or mother and calf are a little away from the herd.

Likewise, human predators find jobs where they will have access to prey, in particular, unrestricted or unmonitored access (e.g. teacher/coach/priest/camp counselor) They are not hanging out in the wilderness, they are in the watering holes of schools or the mall. (Unless the wilderness is the unmonitored bike trail where prey jogs along alone.)

And yes, kids are more likely to be abused by someone they know, but hello, it's because someone they know is more likely to be given unrestricted, unmonitored access to the kid.

I mean people, just think about it. Yes, everything can be construed as a danger to our kids, but some set-ups are more dangerous than others. Unmonitored access is the problematic set-up.

Here in LA there have been girls/young women raped by Uber drivers and it has been underreported. Two LAPD officers told some parents/kids this in a drug awareness program a few months ago. There is a story about one of them in the local news now.

I don't let my 14 y.o. DD uber, mostly because our lives are not set up so she has to uber places. But if she were to uber, it would not be alone. A gaggle of girls is safer than one alone.

+1,000,000!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes being a good parent is a drag. Sit outside the venue or go to a nearby restaurant. There will soon come a day when you never have to do that again. This goes for boys and girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes being a good parent is a drag. Sit outside the venue or go to a nearby restaurant. There will soon come a day when you never have to do that again. This goes for boys and girls.

Sometimes we have different ideas of what "being a good parent" means.

[Anonymous]

we let our kids use uber/lyft. youngest started at 14 and is now 16. the notifications go to my account. seems way safer than a taxi to me, because there's a record of the trip and it's instantly saved to the cloud.

really don't see the big deal. we let them walk outside BY THEMSELVES TOO if you can believe it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes being a good parent is a drag. Sit outside the venue or go to a nearby restaurant. There will soon come a day when you never have to do that again. This goes for boys and girls.

Sometimes we have different ideas of what "being a good parent" means.

I think ensuring that young teens get home safely is pretty standard for good parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes being a good parent is a drag. Sit outside the venue or go to a nearby restaurant. There will soon come a day when you never have to do that again. This goes for boys and girls.

Sometimes we have different ideas of what "being a good parent" means.

I think ensuring that young teens get home safely is pretty standard for good parenting.

Yes, but the discussion here is about HOW to do that.

[Anonymous]

I didn't take a taxi until I was a college student, but parents driving me to and from concerts as a young teen didn't prevent me from being high off my ass on pot. For whatever that's worth. They didn't have a clue because we didn't reek of smoke, and they were likely tuned to smelling for alcohol anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't take a taxi until I was a college student, but parents driving me to and from concerts as a young teen didn't prevent me from being high off my ass on pot. For whatever that's worth. They didn't have a clue because we didn't reek of smoke, and they were likely tuned to smelling for alcohol anyway.

Be grateful that your clueless parents drove your high ass home, then. Some parents on here apparently would be fine with their high young teens taking an Uber or taxi home. And those high kids would be exceptionally vulnerable to that stranger who had complete control over that ride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't take a taxi until I was a college student, but parents driving me to and from concerts as a young teen didn't prevent me from being high off my ass on pot. For whatever that's worth. They didn't have a clue because we didn't reek of smoke, and they were likely tuned to smelling for alcohol anyway.

Be grateful that your clueless parents drove your high ass home, then. Some parents on here apparently would be fine with their high young teens taking an Uber or taxi home. And those high kids would be exceptionally vulnerable to that stranger who had complete control over that ride.

I don't think that anybody on this thread has said that they are fine with their 13-year-olds getting high and then taking Uber home.