Why do parents let their 13-15 year old girls take Uber home from concerts at midnight?

[Anonymous]

Hell no. Alone in a car with a stranger late at night.

I wouldn't even put a young teen in one during the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to be 18 to use Uber, right? Anyway a 16 yr old daughter of a friend was propositioned by an Uber driver. And when she told her parents and they complained, their account was dropped.


Parents today are even less involved in their kids lives than ever before. We are the laziest generation of parents ever.

Really? Most parents I know are WAY over involved in their kids lives.

This falls into the category of do what works for you and let other people decide what works for them.

[Anonymous]

No reason to say YES to concerts for young teens. Not without a parents. Unfortunately parents are too lazy to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the original poster. My 14 old DD is not allowed to use Uber but her friends use it all the time. She thinks I am being too strict and I told her in this case I am protecting my child from being placed in a situation she shouldn't be. I will not go into further details about her friends and these Uber drives but only to say it's very concerning to me and my husband. Maybe we are too conservative but being able to follow your child's Uber ride on GPS and texting during the trip does not keep them safe if the texting stops and the GPS shows your child going in a different direction than home or the driver is behaving inappropriately. I guess you can call the police. There are plenty of cases of assault and even assault of a 13 year old girl but I am not sure why someone needs an incident like this to justify whether or not to let their young daughter or son ride with Uber alone.

https://pilotonline.com/news/local/crime/uber-driver-charged-with-raping-passenger-in-virginia-beach/article_1e5017ff-ce21-5ea6-b725-c38bd3c1c2bf.html

http://wtkr.com/2017/05/04/uber-driver-accused-of-assaulting-high-school-passenger-in-court/

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/05/09/florida-uber-driver-arrested-for-kidnapping-rape.html

http://www.nbcmiami.com/news/local/florida-uber-driver-sex-assault-teen-422121384.html

There are more incidents.

So the point is that women shouldn't use uber, not that minors shouldn't use uber. Right? Because violence was committed against women of all ages.

Should I also not let my children go to church or school? I saw some news stories about teachers and clergy molesting children. Far more than the uber articles, in fact.

OK, Uber driver, we get it. Is there a way for you to let your Uberlords know you're defending the company so well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to be 18 to use Uber, right? Anyway a 16 yr old daughter of a friend was propositioned by an Uber driver. And when she told her parents and they complained, their account was dropped.


Parents today are even less involved in their kids lives than ever before. We are the laziest generation of parents ever.

Really? Most parents I know are WAY over involved in their kids lives.

This falls into the category of do what works for you and let other people decide what works for them.

The DCUM parenting forums generally don't do so well on this concept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the original poster. My 14 old DD is not allowed to use Uber but her friends use it all the time. She thinks I am being too strict and I told her in this case I am protecting my child from being placed in a situation she shouldn't be. I will not go into further details about her friends and these Uber drives but only to say it's very concerning to me and my husband. Maybe we are too conservative but being able to follow your child's Uber ride on GPS and texting during the trip does not keep them safe if the texting stops and the GPS shows your child going in a different direction than home or the driver is behaving inappropriately. I guess you can call the police. There are plenty of cases of assault and even assault of a 13 year old girl but I am not sure why someone needs an incident like this to justify whether or not to let their young daughter or son ride with Uber alone.

https://pilotonline.com/news/local/crime/uber-driver-charged-with-raping-passenger-in-virginia-beach/article_1e5017ff-ce21-5ea6-b725-c38bd3c1c2bf.html

http://wtkr.com/2017/05/04/uber-driver-accused-of-assaulting-high-school-passenger-in-court/

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/05/09/florida-uber-driver-arrested-for-kidnapping-rape.html

http://www.nbcmiami.com/news/local/florida-uber-driver-sex-assault-teen-422121384.html

There are more incidents.

So the point is that women shouldn't use uber, not that minors shouldn't use uber. Right? Because violence was committed against women of all ages.

Should I also not let my children go to church or school? I saw some news stories about teachers and clergy molesting children. Far more than the uber articles, in fact.

OK, Uber driver, we get it. Is there a way for you to let your Uberlords know you're defending the company so well?

You must be a taxi driver, since you're hating on uber so much.

See how stupid that argument is? Uber isn't specifically dangerous for children. Half of the linked stories were about adult victims. We all know children are far more likely to be victimized by someone they know. The chances of being victimized by an uber driver are pretty slim. Sorry if logic hurts you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the original poster. My 14 old DD is not allowed to use Uber but her friends use it all the time. She thinks I am being too strict and I told her in this case I am protecting my child from being placed in a situation she shouldn't be. I will not go into further details about her friends and these Uber drives but only to say it's very concerning to me and my husband. Maybe we are too conservative but being able to follow your child's Uber ride on GPS and texting during the trip does not keep them safe if the texting stops and the GPS shows your child going in a different direction than home or the driver is behaving inappropriately. I guess you can call the police. There are plenty of cases of assault and even assault of a 13 year old girl but I am not sure why someone needs an incident like this to justify whether or not to let their young daughter or son ride with Uber alone.

https://pilotonline.com/news/local/crime/uber-driver-charged-with-raping-passenger-in-virginia-beach/article_1e5017ff-ce21-5ea6-b725-c38bd3c1c2bf.html

http://wtkr.com/2017/05/04/uber-driver-accused-of-assaulting-high-school-passenger-in-court/

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/05/09/florida-uber-driver-arrested-for-kidnapping-rape.html

http://www.nbcmiami.com/news/local/florida-uber-driver-sex-assault-teen-422121384.html

There are more incidents.

So the point is that women shouldn't use uber, not that minors shouldn't use uber. Right? Because violence was committed against women of all ages.

Should I also not let my children go to church or school? I saw some news stories about teachers and clergy molesting children. Far more than the uber articles, in fact.

OK, Uber driver, we get it. Is there a way for you to let your Uberlords know you're defending the company so well?

You must be a taxi driver, since you're hating on uber so much.

See how stupid that argument is? Uber isn't specifically dangerous for children. Half of the linked stories were about adult victims. We all know children are far more likely to be victimized by someone they know. The chances of being victimized by an uber driver are pretty slim. Sorry if logic hurts you.

Oh, you busted me! Yes, I drive a taxi. Most every day since I had a kid 16 years ago. Because I expect to act like a parent and know who's driving my child. Lots of other adults drive her at times, but not strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Oh, you busted me! Yes, I drive a taxi. Most every day since I had a kid 16 years ago. Because I expect to act like a parent and know who's driving my child. Lots of other adults drive her at times, but not strangers.

DP. I think you missed the point.

Here's the point: you're not a taxi driver, and the PP you were responding to doesn't drive for Uber. You're just two different people with two different opinions on the subject of teenage girls taking Uber.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Oh, you busted me! Yes, I drive a taxi. Most every day since I had a kid 16 years ago. Because I expect to act like a parent and know who's driving my child. Lots of other adults drive her at times, but not strangers.

That's not necessarily my definition of parenthood. But it's ok! You do what you think right, and I'll do what I think right.

I'm not the PP you're responding to.

[Anonymous]

My teens take Uber. I think it is an important life skill.

They rarely take it alone.

They go to concerts in groups and generally have st least 1 person sleep over so they are not alone.

Also, they have called me late at night and I have had a drink and I am modeling don't drink and drive and don't drive when you are sleepy.

Also as they got older their designated driver will drink or they will go to a party with drugs and if they need to get out of a bad situation you can UBER.sure u can cal mommy but kids are more likely to bail a bad situation with uber.

When my kids uber alone it's usually a short drive and he has a phone and sometimes we talk during the ride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I feel like I can't be there for every single thing my children do. I want them to be independent and have their own experiences. I can't do background checks on every adult they interact with. I do my best to set them up for success, talk about safety, give them the tools they need to excel.

But everything is dangerous. One of the most dangerous things we do is drive or be passengers in cars. Yet no one bats an eye at that because it's so common.

Sometimes the choice isn't pick my kids up myself or let them uber home. Sometimes the choice is let them uber home or don't let them go at all. Sometimes the experience is worth the (tiny) risk.

I wonder how many of the posters criticizing allowing teens to use uber are parents whose children aren't teenagers yet, considering this is on GP instead of the teen board. I know when my dd was 3, I couldn't imagine letting her ride with a stranger or use public transportation alone. But she grew, and we're growing. And now she's 14, a rising sophomore, and in 3 short years she'll be moving away to college. All I can do is hope I've taught her how to manage safely on her own. For me, part of that is realizing that if I daddy get her to adulthood in a bubble and never let her take any calculated risks, I haven't taught her how to live in the real world.

This is the most sane post here yet.

For those arguing that they want to shield their child from a "crime of opportunity," I'm sorry, but the only way to do that is to never let them leave your sight, ever. Which is obviously completely ridiculous. Since the dawn of time, assaults and sex crimes have been committed on women and children by: family members, strangers, teachers, service workers, clergy, coaches, friends, siblings and families of friends, neighbors, their own friends, and I'm sure here are many more classes of people I could name. So by your logic, to prevent them from falling victim to any crime of opportunity they must never be alone with any of the above named individuals.

[Anonymous]

I didn't allow my daughter to Uber alone until 16. She was allowed to take it with friends as long as they were both getting dropped at the same location when she was 14.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to be 18 to use Uber, right? Anyway a 16 yr old daughter of a friend was propositioned by an Uber driver. And when she told her parents and they complained, their account was dropped.


Parents today are even less involved in their kids lives than ever before. We are the laziest generation of parents ever.

Oh no! Their account was dropped! Whatever will they do?

I would not bet money that uber will exist in 5 years. Bad company on many fronts.

[Anonymous]

Maybe parents do not like daughters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I feel like I can't be there for every single thing my children do. I want them to be independent and have their own experiences. I can't do background checks on every adult they interact with. I do my best to set them up for success, talk about safety, give them the tools they need to excel.

But everything is dangerous. One of the most dangerous things we do is drive or be passengers in cars. Yet no one bats an eye at that because it's so common.

Sometimes the choice isn't pick my kids up myself or let them uber home. Sometimes the choice is let them uber home or don't let them go at all. Sometimes the experience is worth the (tiny) risk.

I wonder how many of the posters criticizing allowing teens to use uber are parents whose children aren't teenagers yet, considering this is on GP instead of the teen board. I know when my dd was 3, I couldn't imagine letting her ride with a stranger or use public transportation alone. But she grew, and we're growing. And now she's 14, a rising sophomore, and in 3 short years she'll be moving away to college. All I can do is hope I've taught her how to manage safely on her own. For me, part of that is realizing that if I daddy get her to adulthood in a bubble and never let her take any calculated risks, I haven't taught her how to live in the real world.

This is the most sane post here yet.

For those arguing that they want to shield their child from a "crime of opportunity," I'm sorry, but the only way to do that is to never let them leave your sight, ever. Which is obviously completely ridiculous. Since the dawn of time, assaults and sex crimes have been committed on women and children by: family members, strangers, teachers, service workers, clergy, coaches, friends, siblings and families of friends, neighbors, their own friends, and I'm sure here are many more classes of people I could name. So by your logic, to prevent them from falling victim to any crime of opportunity they must never be alone with any of the above named individuals.

Yeah. I too want my underage daughter to have the experience of being hit on by leacherous men, so she can know what the real world is like and then we can go to Starbucks for a latte and havea hear to heart.