Referring to the father of your child inclusively

[Anonymous]

Sure she sounds silly and overwhelmed, but what is there to do about it? Just ignore and unfollow. This is what happens when you engage in ons. You don't know the quality of the people.

[Anonymous]

Not sure why the hate. Let's be real; if this was other posters' brother, there'd be opinions just as well. Human nature. Posters need to cut the bs.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a real jerk, I hope she got lipo with his money.

Money will never make up for his absence in his kids life, no matter how you spin it.He should feel grateful it's a kid and wasn't HIV, herpes, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

It is petty. I don't have much respect for this woman because she's using the child support to stay at home and bankroll her lifestyle while her kids are in school full time. It's frustrating that my brother is holding up his end of the bargain but it's never enough for her.

Here is the thing: my brother is not a responsible person in his personal life. He's been notoriously single and hasn't had positive relationships. She knew this going in but wanted him to change. I think she expected him to change once she got pregnant and he didn't, in fact it may have gotten worse. I suspect she had feelings for him and wanted more than a one night stand but he couldn't give that to her so she's resentful and takes it out on him by calling him a deadbeat.

That being said, I've been judgemental. I only know my brothers side of the story. My niece is pretty awesome and I may feel differently if I put in effort to developing a relationship with the mother of his child.

Op I'm not sure you understand the meaning of one night stand. Do you seriously think she tracked her fertility then seduced him and got him to sleep with her once while she happened to be fertile? Not impossible but highly unlikely. I think your brother is not telling you the whole story.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

It is petty. I don't have much respect for this woman because she's using the child support to stay at home and bankroll her lifestyle while her kids are in school full time. It's frustrating that my brother is holding up his end of the bargain but it's never enough for her.

Here is the thing: my brother is not a responsible person in his personal life. He's been notoriously single and hasn't had positive relationships. She knew this going in but wanted him to change. I think she expected him to change once she got pregnant and he didn't, in fact it may have gotten worse. I suspect she had feelings for him and wanted more than a one night stand but he couldn't give that to her so she's resentful and takes it out on him by calling him a deadbeat.

That being said, I've been judgemental. I only know my brothers side of the story. My niece is pretty awesome and I may feel differently if I put in effort to developing a relationship with the mother of his child.

Op I'm not sure you understand the meaning of one night stand. Do you seriously think she tracked her fertility then seduced him and got him to sleep with her once while she happened to be fertile? Not impossible but highly unlikely. I think your brother is not telling you the whole story.

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Sounds like they knew each other prior to the one night stand. At least from the OP I don't see a claim that the girl got knocked up to trap the guy but once she found out she was pregnant she thought she could leverage that into some sort of relationship with the guy.

[Anonymous]

^wish I could edit...I thought the quoted part was the OP but it's not. I see in the OP where she said she thought the girl got pregnant to trap him...seems unlikely.