Adopting newborn at 52 years old?

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I read she has already had breast cancer. Not sure adopting is such a great idea at her age. Only time will tell.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have just been chosen by a birthmother to adopt her baby boy due in 5 weeks. We are 48 and 50. This is after a long process of miscarriage and IVF. We are healthy, take care of ourselves and have the means. Are we too old? As far as we can tell the pregnancy is healthy and so is our soon to be little boy. We've gotten medical records and have email exchanges and Skype meetings with our birthmother.

Congratulations!! (hugs)

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have just been chosen by a birthmother to adopt her baby boy due in 5 weeks. We are 48 and 50. This is after a long process of miscarriage and IVF. We are healthy, take care of ourselves and have the means. Are we too old? As far as we can tell the pregnancy is healthy and so is our soon to be little boy. We've gotten medical records and have email exchanges and Skype meetings with our birthmother.

It's not about the pregnancy or infant being healthy, it's about *you and your husband* being healthy, of course. You're being obtuse.

Its actually about both. If child turns out to have SN and needs life long care and parent/s die at 70 when child is 20 how is that for the child. Its an issue.

We were told we were getting a healthy child. We have medical records and much much more. Reality is birthfather is a huge drug addict (they lied about it) and who knows if/what the birthmom used. Child has SN. We are very grateful for him but we spend every day in expensive therapies. I cannot work because of it. Adoption is't always as you are told. It was not for us. We had what seemed like the perfect adoption. Its far from that when the truth came out. I'd do it again for this child, but just know things are not always as they appear (sometimes they are).

We were 51 and 46 when our twin children (via donor egg) were born. Our parents were 85, 80 and 79 when the children were born and are still alive, healthy and supportive at 91, 86 and 85 (my father in law passed away from a genetic heart disorder that was not passed on to any of his children). We have a healthy, long-lived family. I used to work with a guy who died of a heart attack at age 45 when his daughter was 12. His family had a history of heart issues and his father also died before the age of 50. If you evaluated him at at 33 when his daughter was born vs me when my children were born, I think my family health history makes me a far safer candidate to live to my children's adulthood than him.

It's not always about age. It's about the parents' health and family history. That will give you a better picture of if a parent is more likely to be around until the child's adulthood.

That said, another issue is that if the child were to end up with SN, an older wealthy parent is also going to be a better choice than a younger, less financially stable parent. SN often needs resources to help treat and/or manage the SN. Having enough financial resources to afford expensive specialists, treatments, equipment, or conveniences without budgetary concerns can significantly help in raising a SN child.

Wish we could connect in real life PP. I had my twins days shy of my 45th b'day. Would be great to have a true peer!

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Anonymous wrote:"Thoughts?". You are stupid, a horrible person or both.

Yes, the op is so stupid or horrible for questioning if this was in the best interest of the child.

[Anonymous]

Hoda is 52....??!

Wow she looks 35!

Just based on that fact alone then I think adopting a child for her is doable.

Didn't Madonna just adopt two four yr old twins as a single mom?
She is like fifty eight.

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Hoda is only 52?!?

I thought she was in her low 60s.

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I think 50 is fine to have a baby or adopt.

By the time your kid is 18, you'll only be 68 which really isn't OLD nowadays because people no longer smoke, go to the gym, and do other stuff to prevent old age.

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I honestly thought she was like Oprahs age...early 60s. Regardless its the single part that is the most risky. Takes two healthy people in their mid 50s and the likelihood of one of them lasting till mid 70s as healthy adults is high. Take that down to one adult and your really taking a risk. Take that down to one adult who has already had cancer and your really really playing with the odds.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoda is 52....??!

Wow she looks 35!

Just based on that fact alone then I think adopting a child for her is doable.

Didn't Madonna just adopt two four yr old twins as a single mom?
She is like fifty eight.

Are you like 90?

Hoda does not look 35, not even close.

She looks about 60-65.

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Anonymous wrote:The only annoying thing about this to me is that it's her fame/money that made this happen. You and I would never be able to adopt a healthy newborn as a single person at 52.
I have several friends waiting for newborns for years and years and they're under 40 and married and financially stable. It's exceedingly difficult to adopt a healthy newborn in this country.

My friend adopted a healthy, beautiful infant at the age of 50. Although she has a partner, she was single for all practical adoption paper purposes. The kid is now 8, and my friend 59. At the time of the adoption, she was nearing her 51st birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:The only annoying thing about this to me is that it's her fame/money that made this happen. You and I would never be able to adopt a healthy newborn as a single person at 52.
I have several friends waiting for newborns for years and years and they're under 40 and married and financially stable. It's exceedingly difficult to adopt a healthy newborn in this country.

My friend adopted a healthy, beautiful infant at the age of 50. Although she has a partner, she was single for all practical adoption paper purposes. The kid is now 8, and my friend 59. At the time of the adoption, she was nearing her 51st birthday.

^ and no, my friend is neither famous nor wealthy. She is An UMC white woman who adopted from an Asian country that is now closed to all adoptions.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have just been chosen by a birthmother to adopt her baby boy due in 5 weeks. We are 48 and 50. This is after a long process of miscarriage and IVF. We are healthy, take care of ourselves and have the means. Are we too old? As far as we can tell the pregnancy is healthy and so is our soon to be little boy. We've gotten medical records and have email exchanges and Skype meetings with our birthmother.

There's 2 of you, and the younger is 4 years younger than Hoda, which isn't insignificant. It would still be too old for me personally, but I think it's much more reasonable when there are 2 parents. I wish you nothing but the best - congratulations!!

Bingo. It's all about you. I'm sure you do plenty of things that others would consider insane.

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Anonymous wrote:The only annoying thing about this to me is that it's her fame/money that made this happen. You and I would never be able to adopt a healthy newborn as a single person at 52.
I have several friends waiting for newborns for years and years and they're under 40 and married and financially stable. It's exceedingly difficult to adopt a healthy newborn in this country.

Hoda's baby appears to be African-American, which I'm guessing has would mean less waiting than trying to adopt a white newborn.

Not if he is healthy. Healthy babies of any race are the first to go. Older AA children in the foster care system are hard to place for adoption.

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Anonymous wrote:She looks like she is in great health, probably has financial stability/to great wealth. George Clooney is 55. Are you questioning his ability to parent twins??

She fought breast cancer about 5 years ago.0

Which means the cancer will likely come back...in her bones and will be deadly.

Nobody talks about how common it is for breast cancer patients to have it come back a handful of years later.

Wow, it doesn't always reoccur. I have a girlfriend who is twenty years in remission.

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Anonymous wrote:Adoptive parents here. Never considered adopting an embryo. There are so many kids out there already that need good homes, I dont see the need to artificially create one.

Second this sentiment, word for word.