What would you do if you found out your spouse lied about having a college degree?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well a lot of people do bend the rules to reach the top.

We've ALL heard the stories from (now) successful people who claim they fudged a bit to get to the level of success they are at now.

So I am stuck on the fence.

You have to lie to your WIFE to get to reach the top?

Yeah, I'd pretty much freak.
But you must not know him very well at all somehow to not know this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh lied about graduating high school. He got a GED and now seems to collect advanced degrees (that I've been around for, so I know they are legitimate) but really... in his case, it was an embarrassment thing. I hate stupid lies but I can understand.

My husband got his GED in high school and never lied about it.
Lying about this kind of thing is weird...

[Anonymous]

My husband sort of lied about having a college degree before we got married. I say "sort of" because he assumed he was finished when he actually had 3 credits remaining. We were in our late twenties at the time. I kept asking about why he hadn't gotten his diploma in the mail (we moved across the country at the end of what I thought was his last semester in order for me to start a job) and after a few months I eventually pushed him to call the school to find out what was going on-apparently was short 3 credits. He admitted to me that he had a feeling that he hadn't really finished but didn't want to admit it to himself or deal with it. Around the same time I found out that he had $10,000 in credit card debt that he was hiding from me. I was furious and came very close to ending the relationship. However, I loved him and he was very contrite. He got into a payment program with CCS to get rid of the debt and the next semester he took the class he needed to finish. Eventually we ended up getting engaged and married and are still together now (we're in our early 40's) but there's a little part of me that still does not trust him completely. I've also caught him in some little lies over the years (claiming that he hadn't been smoking cigarettes or drinking when he was) but nothing recently (knock wood). I have a hard time understanding why he does it-the lie itself always makes me much angrier than what he has lied about if that makes any sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband sort of lied about having a college degree before we got married. I say "sort of" because he assumed he was finished when he actually had 3 credits remaining. We were in our late twenties at the time. I kept asking about why he hadn't gotten his diploma in the mail (we moved across the country at the end of what I thought was his last semester in order for me to start a job) and after a few months I eventually pushed him to call the school to find out what was going on-apparently was short 3 credits. He admitted to me that he had a feeling that he hadn't really finished but didn't want to admit it to himself or deal with it. Around the same time I found out that he had $10,000 in credit card debt that he was hiding from me. I was furious and came very close to ending the relationship. However, I loved him and he was very contrite. He got into a payment program with CCS to get rid of the debt and the next semester he took the class he needed to finish. Eventually we ended up getting engaged and married and are still together now (we're in our early 40's) but there's a little part of me that still does not trust him completely. I've also caught him in some little lies over the years (claiming that he hadn't been smoking cigarettes or drinking when he was) but nothing recently (knock wood). I have a hard time understanding why he does it-the lie itself always makes me much angrier than what he has lied about if that makes any sense.

So he sacrificed his education in support of your career. You should be grateful to have a husband that supports you in this way.

[Anonymous]

Just make sure the lies don't run too deep:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jean-Claude_Romand

[Anonymous]

That's a big lie which would have me conclude what else do they lie about. I had a friend who passed away, who had a great job for many years. I found her LinkedIn and about fell out of my chair. She claimed to have a B.A. in business. I knew she didn't have her associates degree, but she stupidly put the school which only gives associate degrees. Thinking back I did catch her in other lies, sad way to live imo.