What would you do if you found out your spouse lied about having a college degree?

[Anonymous]

He works in a white-collar management position that does not necessarily require a degree. It's unknown if he lied to his employer about it.

[Anonymous]

It would depend if you are early in your relationship or have you been together many years? Nowadays employers are verifying degrees because so many have lied.
I seem to recall several high level people stepping down in industry the last few years because they didn't have the degrees they claimed.
Years ago no one bothered checking. The critical thing to me would be if he lies about other things. Then it is a real problem.

[Anonymous]

That's so weird. Not sure what I would think.

[Anonymous]

Weird. Did the spouse go to college at all-it would be more understandable to me if the person was close to finishing, but never got those last credits. In any case, I would strongly encourage my spouse to take the necessary steps to actually get the degree.

[Anonymous]

How did you find out? I can't really a situation where I would be verifying my husband's credentials.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird. Did the spouse go to college at all-it would be more understandable to me if the person was close to finishing, but never got those last credits. In any case, I would strongly encourage my spouse to take the necessary steps to actually get the degree.

OP here. I think this is the case. He was definitely taking night classes but I just have a hunch he never finished even though he said he did. I've submitted a formal degree search but it will take a few days because it was back in the early 90's. We've been together a long time. There's no evidence of other lying and it's not something I'd leave him over.

[Anonymous]

Mary Richards.

[Anonymous]

My fiance' at the time lied about having a certain college degree on his resume and in a job interview. The lie was uncovered and the job offer rescinded. It was with a major corporation. I remember being shocked and disappointed in him at the time. Learned later that that he lied easily about many things and our relationship ended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My fiance' at the time lied about having a certain college degree on his resume and in a job interview. The lie was uncovered and the job offer rescinded. It was with a major corporation. I remember being shocked and disappointed in him at the time. Learned later that that he lied easily about many things and our relationship ended.

This. People who can lie easily are sociopaths. No sweating, very believable. They are frozen and rotten inside. Avoid like the plague.

[Anonymous]

So you don't know that your husband lied, but you think he did? You don't have any proof? Is there a reason you think you lied about this?

[Anonymous]

This depends, did he lie to me? Did you know that he did not have a college degree? If so, did you assume his employer knew?

[Anonymous]

I also would not leave over this but would encourage him to finish discretely. In some nonpublic way.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe people will actually lie about this? Is it really that serious?

[Anonymous]

An ex-boyfriend lied to me about having a college degree and a job. Everything fell apart when he said things about applying to grad school that I knew to be inaccurate. I called him on it and he confessed. It ended up being the tip of the iceberg of his problems.

[Anonymous]

I would feel very betrayed. I'm not sure what I would do, but I would find it hard to trust him in the future and would wonder what else he had lied about. I don't think it would be a good thing for my marriage at all.