Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a niece and nephew who have every toy under the sun. I always ask my brother for suggestions of what to get them at Xmas. Last year they asked for Disney gift cards since they are planning a trip to Disney world. I guess it's a little different because they are family, but is it that big of a deal? It's not like they can use Disney gift cards to pay for a plane ticket or hotel, so what's the harm?

The difference is that YOU asked. You weren't told.

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Are they asking for gift cards for souvenir shops at Disney or actual contributions to pay for plane tickets and hotels? If it's the latter, I think it's very tacky, but the former not so much.

[Anonymous]

If my child was good friends with the birthday kid I'd suck it up and donate. If not, we'd just decline the party and do something else fun together another time.

[Anonymous]

I would secretly judge, but comply with the gift card request and be happy I was getting the kid something they wanted/needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, the child goes to a private school and the family is fishing for financial help for a trip to Disney? Any way you cut this it is beyond rude and tacky. Go to the party, bring a small gift. It's not the birthday child's fault that her parents are idiots.

so, therefore, OP should completely waste money on a gift nobody wants, instead of spend it on something the kid wants?

The protest move here is to get no gift. Not to get a gift that wasn't asked for and essentially poke this family in the eye with your opinion of their behavior as well as waste money.

I frankly don't care what the family asks for, as it is rude and crass. Since when is this acceptable? My child would go to the party and take a small gift that the child would like. Presumably, my DD is friends with the birthday child and would know what she likes.

[Anonymous]

Disney GCs can be used for so many things at Disney, who knows if the parents aren't collecting them to use for meals, etc. If you're tacky enough to ask for a specific GC, then I a guess I am tacky for questioning the motive.

[Anonymous]

It's totally tacky & weird - but seriously, what's the harm in giving them a small Disney gift card? Rise above!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The request is strange, but I think you should get the Disney card and take your kid to the party. Maybe the parents really need the help and stuck their necks out by putting this out there. Don't punish the kid because of the parents' invitation.

???

I grew up lower middle class but went to private school. I've never been to Disney. We went on vacations we could afford-- say, camping. I can understand how it would be fully plausible for a student at private school to come from a poor family that occasionally really need help making ends meet...but nobody "really needs the help" to go to Disney. Nobody needs to swallow their pride and go begging so that their child's Disney dreams come true.

With that said, I've gotten plenty of rude "invitations" in the mail (I put it in quotes b/c the most recent was an invitation to buy "marriage" gifts off the registry of a couple who are not having a wedding), and you can't get up in a dither over them, OP. They give us something to talk about and feel superior to, and isn't that the most wonderful thing?

[Anonymous]

I really hope this child's name is not really Larla ... IF IT IS, then OP is the tacky one ... How dare anyone post this kind of the thread and identify the child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really hope this child's name is not really Larla ... IF IT IS, then OP is the tacky one ... How dare anyone post this kind of the thread and identify the child

You're not from around here are you?

[Anonymous]

Just get the gift card and make the kid happy. Hey, at least you have a gift idea! Makes it easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many petty, judgmental women here. Sure it was tacky but frankly what I find truly objectionable is OP who choose to use this board as a way to gossip. She knew exactly what she felt about the bday invite. She wasn't seeking guidance. She just want to share how overblown sense of indignation and outrage over something minor in hopes of hearing a resounding chorus of "you're right." What a small person.

Exactly.
OP, just stick with what you were planning to do which was be passive aggressive and get the poor kid a two-sizes-too-small Mickey Mouse t-shirt and call it a day.

love it! You know that's what op wants to do! Probably has an old one with the tags still on it that op was too good for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really hope this child's name is not really Larla ... IF IT IS, then OP is the tacky one ... How dare anyone post this kind of the thread and identify the child

Bwahahahahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course it's tacky, but give her a gift card.

+1

[Anonymous]

Better than getting a bunch of junk you really don't want or need