Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks. I'll have to mull it over. I'm more irritated by it the more I see the invite.

[Anonymous]

It's tacky, but I can actually see how the parents heads could have cluelessly gone there. "Larla has so much stuff already, so we don't want piles of stuff. She's getting big enough for gift cards, and we're going to Disney, so let her have some thing to use when we get there. That can be a helpful suggestion". The problem is it should have been a suggestion for when asked, not put on the invite.

So while I don't really like being instructed to buy things, I'd also be happy to know what to get that's easy.

[Anonymous]

i would write a check. why bother to get a gift card?

[Anonymous]

That's bad. Amen to the Disney related gear as a gift.

[Anonymous]

Yuck. Reminds me of a friend's 50th bday party. Her sister whom I didn't know, asked for $100 contribution for a gold necklace. I did not oblige. Instead, I bought a more personal gift and worth more than $100. I did not go to party. Instead, doing something one on one.

[Anonymous]

Hmm, I wonder if the request is really to fund their vacation or, like PP above suggested, to give their DD something fun to have and spend while there. When I was younger and went to Disney they had "Disney dollars" - actual bills with the characters' faces on them in various currency ($1, $5, etc.). I'm not sure if that is still a thing, but if so you could give that to ensure the birthday girl actually gets to use the money during her vacation (you can use the"cash" to buy stuff at the parks), and that the money is not being used to fund the vacation itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd get a teeshirt for Disney World.

<--- I'm With Stupid

[Anonymous]

I guess I'm the oddball, but I would welcome someone telling me what gift to buy their DC. What do you care? Obviously your DC is a friend of this DC and was going to the party anyway, so buy the Disney gift card.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yuck. Reminds me of a friend's 50th bday party. Her sister whom I didn't know, asked for $100 contribution for a gold necklace. I did not oblige. Instead, I bought a more personal gift and worth more than $100. I did not go to party. Instead, doing something one on one.

Wow. You are an AMAZING person, PP.



(I assume that is the response you wanted after that post?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd give a Disney-related toy - maybe a Disney backpack with Disney playing cards or something else in it. Or Disney PJs.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yuck. Reminds me of a friend's 50th bday party. Her sister whom I didn't know, asked for $100 contribution for a gold necklace. I did not oblige. Instead, I bought a more personal gift and worth more than $100. I did not go to party. Instead, doing something one on one.

Didn't you start a thread about that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yuck. Reminds me of a friend's 50th bday party. Her sister whom I didn't know, asked for $100 contribution for a gold necklace. I did not oblige. Instead, I bought a more personal gift and worth more than $100. I did not go to party. Instead, doing something one on one.

Wow. You are an AMAZING person, PP.



(I assume that is the response you wanted after that post?)

Why thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Need some advice on how to handle this birthday invite.
My DC received an invite to a classmates birthday party. On the invite, it stated that the family was taking a vacation to Disney World this year. In lieu of gifts, please give Disney gift cards to make Larla's Disney dreams come true.
I cannot decide whether this is super tacky and I should be bothered; or just let it go. Do I fund their vacation and give a gift card, ignore the request and let my DC pick out an appropriate gift, or just skip the party all together? We are at a private school with 20 kids in the class if that factors at all.

Thoughts?

It's tacky but I would do it - we try to be thoughtful in gift giving (giving something we think the friend might actually want/play with based in their interests). If Disney fun is what Larla wants, fine so be it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm the oddball, but I would welcome someone telling me what gift to buy their DC. What do you care? Obviously your DC is a friend of this DC and was going to the party anyway, so buy the Disney gift card.

This is me too. I hate trying to pick out gifts for kids I don't know.

[Anonymous]

So you hate what the parents did, I get that. But damn, I can't believe how many of you want to punish the kid for the parents behavior. Will it kill you op, to get the kid a Disney gift card? No! Buying a gift card is much easier.