My boyfriend loves me...but sports seems to come first

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Anonymous wrote:Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well .

People should be spending that time discussing art. Pro sports are a big yawn and a giant marketing tool.

Lol!

I was serious. I understand the idea of a neutral topic to discuss, but the fact that sports hero worship is bigger than the arts is sad.

[Anonymous]

You sound incompatible with him, if his enjoyment of sports bothers you this much. Imagine how much it will bother you in 20 years. Break up.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is a huge sports fan. I'm fine with it, because it's a less expensive/destructive/time consuming hobby than others.

We have an agreement: I am understanding of big games/his teams and make it as easy as possible for him to watch them, and he is understanding that he can not spend his life watching sports.

For instance, His college team made it into the ncaa tourney so he wanted to watch that and i supported it. He is a redskins fan so I'm cool with him watching the skins games every week. Hockey and basketball I am also supportive of his watching his teams. Baseball is another story since there are so many fucking games. So, it depends on who his team is playing, the standings, importance of the game, etc.

However I draw the line at filler sports. A random baseball game from 1987 being replayed on the classics channel is a no go. So is a random inning of the little league World Series. Teams he doesn't follow are off the list.

Do you carry your husband's balls in your purse?

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I can not even imagine being interested in a male that wasn't a sports fan. In my house, I don't even watch TV unless it's sports. And my husband watches stuff like Downton Abbey. We're sort of role-reversed, I guess BUT, he still likes sports. He's watching basketball right now, actually.

My thoughts are: sports are HUGE for those of us who are sports fans. If you are not one of those people, and can't find a way to spend your time while your partner watches sports, then find a guy who isn't into sports. They are out there.

But honestly, March Madness is a few hours out of the year, and IDK about your partner, but filling out a bracket and all that goes with it doesn't take THAT long. The first week, sure, there are tons of games Thurs-Sun, then the following week, you have some more Thurs-Sun, then you have Sat and the finals on Monday. It's not that much time. If your partner has ANY hobby, I would think that's a reasonable amount of time to spend on a hobby in the course of a year.

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Women hate anything and everything in which men find pleasure that doesn't require them to participate. Thus, most women hate March.

March is awesome. Hockey and basketball and the weather getting warmer. Doesn't get much better.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a sports fan, so it works for us. It only became an issue when we had a baby and we couldn't both watch the games together. I could see how it would be an issue if only one person in the relationship likes sports. You can either find a way to deal, or you may want to look for someone else with similar interests to yours.

Why can't the 3 of you be in the FR watching the game? DH was great on the couch or floor with them when games were on. He still watches sports on TV-harmless hobby.
I hate sports and only liked it when my kids were playing.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well .

People should be spending that time discussing art. Pro sports are a big yawn and a giant marketing tool.

Lol!

I was serious. I understand the idea of a neutral topic to discuss, but the fact that sports hero worship is bigger than the arts is sad.

My DH has done the watching for decades-no hero worship. Enjoys sports. Also enjoyed Downton Abbey and Madmen and Game of Thrones. We did some fun TV marathons-binges like breaking bad and mad men [came to them many seasons into the run]. Yes-March is a pain because it's on every day. I preferred it when NFL was only Sunday and Monday. There are things I enjoy that he does not so it's ok.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well .

Yes, and it sucks. As the only female among my peers, I often feel left out when the guys blab about sports on and on and on. It is kind of sad that people I work with have nothing else to talk about. Then again, I don't work with brain surgeons or space scientists, so it's my own fault, I guess

You sound like a genius yourself.

+1. People who are interesting have things to talk about beyond sports. If I meet some personally or professionally who wants to discuss sports, I dismiss them, because sports are mindless. If they want to talk about something else, then we can continue.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well .

People should be spending that time discussing art. Pro sports are a big yawn and a giant marketing tool.

Lol!

I was serious. I understand the idea of a neutral topic to discuss, but the fact that sports hero worship is bigger than the arts is sad.

Arts are far more important, and always will be, than sports. Sports are for those who can't succeed otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well .

People should be spending that time discussing art. Pro sports are a big yawn and a giant marketing tool.

Lol!

I was serious. I understand the idea of a neutral topic to discuss, but the fact that sports hero worship is bigger than the arts is sad.

Just tell everyone about how you don't own a TV, read Proust, and listen to post-1970 jazz.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well .

People should be spending that time discussing art. Pro sports are a big yawn and a giant marketing tool.

Lol!

I was serious. I understand the idea of a neutral topic to discuss, but the fact that sports hero worship is bigger than the arts is sad.

Arts are far more important, and always will be, than sports. Sports are for those who can't succeed otherwise.

You sound like someone who is resentful that they never were a great athlete. I know many people--myself included--who are highly successful in their fields and were also great athletes. I can't imagine it has anything to do with the skills you learn as a competitive athlete, like teamwork, discipline, and time management.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well .

People should be spending that time discussing art. Pro sports are a big yawn and a giant marketing tool.

Lol!

I was serious. I understand the idea of a neutral topic to discuss, but the fact that sports hero worship is bigger than the arts is sad.

Arts are far more important, and always will be, than sports. Sports are for those who can't succeed otherwise.

You sound like someone who is resentful that they never were a great athlete. I know many people--myself included--who are highly successful in their fields and were also great athletes. I can't imagine it has anything to do with the skills you learn as a competitive athlete, like teamwork, discipline, and time management.

Here is data:
http://www.gallup.com/opinion/gallup/189227/female-student-athletes-win-big-great-jobs-lives.aspx

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Anonymous wrote:I can not even imagine being interested in a male that wasn't a sports fan. In my house, I don't even watch TV unless it's sports. And my husband watches stuff like Downton Abbey. We're sort of role-reversed, I guess BUT, he still likes sports. He's watching basketball right now, actually.

My thoughts are: sports are HUGE for those of us who are sports fans. If you are not one of those people, and can't find a way to spend your time while your partner watches sports, then find a guy who isn't into sports. They are out there.

But honestly, March Madness is a few hours out of the year, and IDK about your partner, but filling out a bracket and all that goes with it doesn't take THAT long. The first week, sure, there are tons of games Thurs-Sun, then the following week, you have some more Thurs-Sun, then you have Sat and the finals on Monday. It's not that much time. If your partner has ANY hobby, I would think that's a reasonable amount of time to spend on a hobby in the course of a year.

My brother does not like sports at all, never has, and he has been married for over 10 years to a non sports watcher.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well .

People should be spending that time discussing art. Pro sports are a big yawn and a giant marketing tool.

Lol!

I was serious. I understand the idea of a neutral topic to discuss, but the fact that sports hero worship is bigger than the arts is sad.

Sports, like movies, are an escape from real life for a few hours.

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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sports are very important. They are something many people have in common to socialize and talk about without being controversial. It is almost required of men in the business world. If you get into a conversation about politics or personal stuff you can turn people off or make upset . Men can always talk sports and enjoy the conversation ... Even strangers can chat. Men and sons can enjoy something together as well . [/quote]

People should be spending that time discussing art. Pro sports are a big yawn and a giant marketing tool. [/quote]

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I was serious. I understand the idea of a neutral topic to discuss, but the fact that sports hero worship is bigger than the arts is sad. [/quote]

Arts are far more important, and always will be, than sports. Sports are for those who can't succeed otherwise.[/quote]




You sound like someone who is resentful that they never were a great athlete. I know many people--myself included--who are highly successful in their fields and were also great athletes. I can't imagine it has anything to do with the skills you learn as a competitive athlete, like teamwork, discipline, and time management. [/quote]

Here is data:
http://www.gallup.com/opinion/gallup/189227/female-student-athletes-win-big-great-jobs-lives.aspx[/quote]

Very interesting article. It looks like sports (as well as arts) are important for all, particularly females. I think hero worship for artists, actors, athletes, etc. happens with many people.