Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My sister sucks the air out of the room, too. She has a hard time with her life, because such high expectations were set for her. Ironically, the rest of us did quite well because of her being favored. All the pressure and attention was on her; and I and the other siblings became very self sufficient - almost overly so, if that is possible. I would NOT want to be her. She has had to resort to compulsive lying (self promotion) as a way of life, as if she is perpetually making excuses for herself. The rest of us have our own accomplishments and merits, and she constantly compares herself, instead of bettering herself. She ends up wallowing in self pity and martyrdom. It is a train wreck.
Let that be a lesson to you parents- favoritism:enabling:bad news!
This part is definitely true. Every person I know who has had this odd personality trait has been enabled and/or favorited, throughout their life. They seriously lack self awareness, and tend to be somewhat "helpless" (or behave as if they are). SIL used to always bring herself up, no matter the situation/event discussion, so I started communicating (only to her) that way. Not sure if she got the hint, or if someone told her to stop, but she has been not doing it quite so much, thankfully. She does tend to pick on people, single them out, or have bullying tendencies, toward one person. It is really quite odd. Being the center act is definitely her preference.