DD caught me with AP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have friends who have caught their parents with APs like this and it really screwed them up. They never felt okay in future relationships and had commitment phobia. One said it was the shock that her parent's stable marriage was all a lie. She didn't think anyone could be faithful in a marriage.

I doubt it was ALL a lie. There were lies, but most was probably true and some was lies.

To a child, it makes them feel like everything stable and everything they thought they knew about their parents (and mother in particular) was a lie. Kids don't shrug their shoulders over this. It's a terribly betrayal. My father did something similar. There are 3 of us kids and none of us have a relationship with him. When their marriage fell apart, we fiercely protected and sided with our mother. His flagrant affair cost him his children. Obviously, it is not only the affair that destroyed our relationship, but anyone who does something like that, has serious character flaws that permeate their entire lives.

I agree that he has character flaws that he decided not to address. If the OP addresses her character flaws she can probably salvage her relationship with her daughter.

I am not saying it is not a punch to the stomach. But a family can get through this with counseling. Your father sounds like he took no responsibility in the matter and the result is kids that don't have a relationship with him.

How do you know the OPs DHs character flaws?

All we know is that OP is a predictable cheater. She blames her spouse for her behavior. He has driven her to cheat and he deserves it. Blah blah blah. Same sad story.

The OP starts a thread about her daughter and quickly uses it as a forum to bash her DH. She actually seems to have very little care that she is whoring it around her child other than the fact that she got caught, not the fact that she is a cheater and exposed her child to it. She's the lowest of the low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clearly this is troll post to pit the ultra conservative and the sluts.

I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Clearly this is troll post to pit the ultra conservative and the sluts.

I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

Hot. Does your DH get any action or is it just you?

[Anonymous]

OP, why does your DH even stayed married to you? You have been cuckolding him for a while. Must be because you make a lot of money. Do the two of you even still have sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Clearly this is troll post to pit the ultra conservative and the sluts.

I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

Hot. Does your DH get any action or is it just you?

I'm bisexual and normally it is him and I with another woman, or if he is lucky getting a sneak peek at me with another woman. I'm much more discontent with monogamy than he is.

[Anonymous]

Death of A Salesman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. This is not a troll post. I don't know what gives that impression. I am really really sorry this happened. When I came clean with DH, this is what he told me. He is not sure what he wants to do at this moment. It is very clear and has been clear for some time that our marriage has been broken. The kiss is a symptom of this, not a cause. The cause, he says, is our inability to effectively and constructively deal with intractable differences that revolve around careers and money. Every fight we seem to have are around those two things - oh, and housework. He also says that he knows that I've probably been seeing this guy on and off for some time, and that it is very poor judgement on my part to have brought him home. "You f**ked up," he said, "And now it is on you to repair whatever relationship you want to have with our daughter." He is coming back from his latest business trip this Friday, says he is not sure whether he wants me to pick him up at the airport, not sure whether he wants to celebrate Easter as a family. He told me I need to get into therapy and fix myself and figure out how to go about fixing relationship with DD.

I asked this on a prior page and you have yet to answer.

How did the husband know you were having an affair to begin with?

Smart husband. That's what I would do then get things in order to dump the cheater. It's over imo once someone cheats because you can't ever trust that person again. Plus I would view that person as contaminated and they contaminated the marriage.

Record of texts on our cell phone bill. Lots of texts back and forth to the same number, unexplained long absences from home, "late" work, etc. Also, once said he left his cell phone in my car and was able to track it to an address which was a hotel.

Smart husband. That's what I would do then get things in order to dump the cheater. It's over imo once someone cheats because you can't ever trust that person again. Plus I would view that person as contaminated and dirty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Clearly this is troll post to pit the ultra conservative and the sluts.

I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

You already have and are no better. If you two didn't have kids, another matter because you both agree. You have no right to do that with children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly this is troll post to pit the ultra conservative and the sluts.

I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

You already have and are no better. If you two didn't have kids, another matter because you both agree. You have no right to do that with children.

Come again? Coherently this time.

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I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

She made a mistake. Cut her some slack. She fucked up, big time. Have you never fucked up???? Realllllly?

OP, good luck. Let your DD know how sorry you are and how much you love her. Full stop. Deal with your marriage independently of dealing with your daughter.

[Anonymous]

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I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

She made a mistake. Cut her some slack. She fucked up, big time. Have you never fucked up???? Realllllly?

OP, good luck. Let your DD know how sorry you are and how much you love her. Full stop. Deal with your marriage independently of dealing with your daughter.

NP here but no I have never fucked up like that and I would never intentionally hurt another human being in a significant way. Which is what you do to your kids when you cheat on your partner.

[Anonymous]

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I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

She made a mistake. Cut her some slack. She fucked up, big time. Have you never fucked up???? Realllllly?

OP, good luck. Let your DD know how sorry you are and how much you love her. Full stop. Deal with your marriage independently of dealing with your daughter.

Your marriage includes your kids. If you cheat on your spouse you cheat on your family so it's not independent.

It's not a mistake. A mistake is forgetting to carry the 1 in an addition problem or something similar. Cheating is planned, and destroys families and yes children's lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly this is troll post to pit the ultra conservative and the sluts.

I'm not even ultra conservative. I'm in an open marriage and think the OP is disgusting. I'd NEVER expose my kids to my sex life. Never.

You already have and are no better. If you two didn't have kids, another matter because you both agree. You have no right to do that with children.

Come again? Coherently this time.

It was clear. if you have a open marriage with kids you've already involved your children in your deviant lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

I would absolutely never forgive myself if I cheated and my child found out. It would change her life story forever and no penis is worth that.

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If I was DH, I would remain calm and pretty much do what he did. Behind the scenes I'd be getting my shit in order. Hiring a lawyer, transferring funds to an account that's private, consulting financial advisors about the best options in selling the home to maximize my income and then serving divorce papers. Chances are this has been going on a while and this isn't the first time. Your brazen behavior suggests to me you didn't think you'd get caught.

inwouldnt waste time either. I'd be at the attorney's office the next morning.