Should you ever tell other parents when you learn their kids are into hard drugs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please tell me if my child is doing hard drugs. Please.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would approach the parents and tell them that you are helping them to save their child's life but you don't want to risk the relationship with your own child. I would tell them to keep your daughters identity confidential, it's not an important factor anyway.

This will not work. I once told a friend that her husband was cheating on her, and asked her not to tell the husband the source of the information. What did she do? She promptly told him, and it caused considerable problems for me.

In the heat of the moment, this parent will tell their child who told them, and the takeaway for your child will be to not tell things like this in the future.

It would be better to call the school counselor and tell them what you suspect. See if they would be willing to talk to the student and possibly the family. That would take you, and your child, out of the mix.

I 100% but sending up something truly anonymous and suggesting a drug test is pretty straight forwards. If the parents have their head in the sand then nothing happens. If parents drug test and the child has not done drugs within a reasonable amount of time then nothing happens. If parents test AND kids doing hard drugs then the parent know what is happening and can address it as they see fit.

Not to hijack this post but I give my kids a drug test twice a year, fall/winter and spring/fall. I let all of their friends know that I drug test and that provides my children with an excuse not to try drugs.

This is an interesting strategy. I may try it! Thanks for sharing.

Call me naive, but I would never drug test my kids twice a year. I think that teaches that you don't trust your child. I think it also sends a message that won't go forward into adulthood.

[Anonymous]

I would want to know, so yes, let the parents know.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely want to know and would be very grateful to the messenger. This is lifesaving. At least tell the guidance counselor so they can pass on the info?