Overheard mother in law insult my family

[Anonymous]

The problem is op's husband not mil. Where does everyone think she got the idea that op's brother is a loser. There is a lot of misplaced anger here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is op's husband not mil. Where does everyone think she got the idea that op's brother is a loser. There is a lot of misplaced anger here.

He is clearly part of the problem, but there is no excuse for MIL's behavior. It's just not necessary for an adult to call anyone a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is op's husband not mil. Where does everyone think she got the idea that op's brother is a loser. There is a lot of misplaced anger here.

He is clearly part of the problem, but there is no excuse for MIL's behavior. It's just not necessary for an adult to call anyone a loser.

If that is the way op's husband refers to his bil, then that is likely how the mil will refer back to her son. The root of the problem is the husband who rightly or wrongly views his bil as a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is op's husband not mil. Where does everyone think she got the idea that op's brother is a loser. There is a lot of misplaced anger here.

He is clearly part of the problem, but there is no excuse for MIL's behavior. It's just not necessary for an adult to call anyone a loser.

MIL is a mean woman and it will come back to her when she is old and needs DIL's help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is op's husband not mil. Where does everyone think she got the idea that op's brother is a loser. There is a lot of misplaced anger here.

He is clearly part of the problem, but there is no excuse for MIL's behavior. It's just not necessary for an adult to call anyone a loser.

If that is the way op's husband refers to his bil, then that is likely how the mil will refer back to her son. The root of the problem is the husband who rightly or wrongly views his bil as a loser.

How odd that you think this. If I referred to my sister-in-law as a "loser" to my mother, she would remind me that she raised me to be a kind and compassionate person. She would ask me if I thought that was a very Christian thing to say. She is a well-mannered, kind-hearted adult who doesn't enjoy putting other people down. If your mother would behave otherwise, I feel sorry for your.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Send her an email. I was in the car, heard what you said about my brother and I'm offended. You're an important part of our life, as is my brother, and i'd appreciate it if you refrained from saying such hurtful things about the people I love.

Way to create one hell of a mess. MIL thought she was having a private conversation with her son, who in all likelihood is the one who said your brother is a loser-she didn't come up with that one on her own. In reality, what difference does it make. I love my brother, but he is a mess. BFD.

yea, that is kinda how i would feel too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is op's husband not mil. Where does everyone think she got the idea that op's brother is a loser. There is a lot of misplaced anger here.

He is clearly part of the problem, but there is no excuse for MIL's behavior. It's just not necessary for an adult to call anyone a loser.

If that is the way op's husband refers to his bil, then that is likely how the mil will refer back to her son. The root of the problem is the husband who rightly or wrongly views his bil as a loser.

How odd that you think this. If I referred to my sister-in-law as a "loser" to my mother, she would remind me that she raised me to be a kind and compassionate person. She would ask me if I thought that was a very Christian thing to say. She is a well-mannered, kind-hearted adult who doesn't enjoy putting other people down. If your mother would behave otherwise, I feel sorry for your.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That wasn't nice of her. But your husband should have told her she was on speakerphone.

+1

Or you! "Hey, Norma, you're on speaker! John's doing great, thanks for asking!"

That would have been fantastic!

This is what I would have done. Call her on it, don't sulk.