Friend is driving from DC to Baltimore to visit a married man who she says is "just a friend "

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Update:

Yes she went. They went out. Had a great time and she said for a minute she almost fell for him. But then realized what makes a him a good dealmaker is seduction. She did spend the night in his room because she was too drunk to drive back. Said nothing happen and that they ordered room service had w few drinks and stayed up talking and watching tv until 3. I can almost now guarantee he slept with her knowing her. Just a touch of validation from a man and she's already picking out baby names.

Who gives a shit. Now can you go on with your life?

This.

x1000. You seem obsessed with her.

Agree. Has your requirement for superiority been filled now
OP? I really hope you don't keep hounding her about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I'm very happily married. However, I've been having to "save her" from bad male decisions since college. Whether is almost going home with a random creepy guy from a bar in college or wanting to marry the first guy who says yes. And when she does go home with the guy she blames me the next day! So yes I'm the mother hen but I also have to be.

After years of saving her it would seem you might have had minor victories but she has yet to surrender to your better judgement and taken control of her life in a positive way. Based on that sometimes the best thing you can do is let go. It does happen that when you let go they actually begin to take care of themselves. Can they in fact sink lower? Sure. But just like an alcoholic, you can't save them, they have to do it for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I'm very happily married. However, I've been having to "save her" from bad male decisions since college. Whether is almost going home with a random creepy guy from a bar in college or wanting to marry the first guy who says yes. And when she does go home with the guy she blames me the next day! So yes I'm the mother hen but I also have to be.

After years of saving her it would seem you might have had minor victories but she has yet to surrender to your better judgement and taken control of her life in a positive way. Based on that sometimes the best thing you can do is let go. It does happen that when you let go they actually begin to take care of themselves. Can they in fact sink lower? Sure. But just like an alcoholic, you can't save them, they have to do it for themselves.

X10000. Some people need to get 3rd degree emotional burns before they realize.