Friend is driving from DC to Baltimore to visit a married man who she says is "just a friend "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised so many people thought this was no big deal.

What is the big deal? A married man can't have dinner with an unmarried female friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised so many people thought this was no big deal.

What is the big deal? A married man can't have dinner with an unmarried female friend?

If it were on the up and up - the wife knows. I guarantee this is not the case, I don't know if OP could get that info but it would be telling if wife didn't have a clue about this guy's new buddy.

[Anonymous]

OP, she's going to make her own choices. You told her what you think. You can be there for her, if you want to, when it goes wrong. Or you can pull back a bit if you are feeling fatigued.

[Anonymous]

As her friend, you can advise her that she may be flirting with disaster if she goes, and tell her your reason(s) why, however in the end she is an adult and will do what she wants to do no matter what.

Just be there for her when the chips fall instead of telling her, "I told you so."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised so many people thought this was no big deal.

What is the big deal? A married man can't have dinner with an unmarried female friend?

If it were on the up and up - the wife knows. I guarantee this is not the case, I don't know if OP could get that info but it would be telling if wife didn't have a clue about this guy's new buddy.

New buddy? The OP states they've known each other since college. Save your guarantees for people you actually know.

[Anonymous]

An hour to have a meal with an old friend does not = sex. Back away, OP, you're way too obsessed/invested here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised so many people thought this was no big deal.

What is the big deal? A married man can't have dinner with an unmarried female friend?

If it were on the up and up - the wife knows. I guarantee this is not the case, I don't know if OP could get that info but it would be telling if wife didn't have a clue about this guy's new buddy.

New buddy? The OP states they've known each other since college. Save your guarantees for people you actually know.

So what? OP made it sound like it was a flurry of new contact after having not been in contact. If it was they were buddies all along why would meeting now mean anything?

Really reaching ....... I still don't think the wife has been clued in "hey I looked up this hot OLD buddy from college and I've been chatting her up. Now we're catching up over dinner while I'm out of town ...... Yeah right .......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I texted her will night last night and no response. She still hasn't reutned my texts or calls and its almost 10am. Even if she convinced me she didn't sleep with him I know she spent the night there.

OP, your friend is ignoring you because you annoy her. Last night's nightmares came true - they slept together and probably enjoyed every minute of it. Meanwhile, you're neurotically checking your iphone for a response while you eat breakfast with your "happily married" DH. Sad, really.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised so many people thought this was no big deal.

What is the big deal? A married man can't have dinner with an unmarried female friend?

If it were on the up and up - the wife knows. I guarantee this is not the case, I don't know if OP could get that info but it would be telling if wife didn't have a clue about this guy's new buddy.

New buddy? The OP states they've known each other since college. Save your guarantees for people you actually know.

So what? OP made it sound like it was a flurry of new contact after having not been in contact. If it was they were buddies all along why would meeting now mean anything?

Really reaching ....... I still don't think the wife has been clued in "hey I looked up this hot OLD buddy from college and I've been chatting her up. Now we're catching up over dinner while I'm out of town ...... Yeah right .......

Yes, you are really reaching.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Update:

Yes she went. They went out. Had a great time and she said for a minute she almost fell for him. But then realized what makes a him a good dealmaker is seduction. She did spend the night in his room because she was too drunk to drive back. Said nothing happen and that they ordered room service had w few drinks and stayed up talking and watching tv until 3. I can almost now guarantee he slept with her knowing her. Just a touch of validation from a man and she's already picking out baby names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Update:

Yes she went. They went out. Had a great time and she said for a minute she almost fell for him. But then realized what makes a him a good dealmaker is seduction. She did spend the night in his room because she was too drunk to drive back. Said nothing happen and that they ordered room service had w few drinks and stayed up talking and watching tv until 3. I can almost now guarantee he slept with her knowing her. Just a touch of validation from a man and she's already picking out baby names.

Who gives a shit. Now can you go on with your life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Update:

Yes she went. They went out. Had a great time and she said for a minute she almost fell for him. But then realized what makes a him a good dealmaker is seduction. She did spend the night in his room because she was too drunk to drive back. Said nothing happen and that they ordered room service had w few drinks and stayed up talking and watching tv until 3. I can almost now guarantee he slept with her knowing her. Just a touch of validation from a man and she's already picking out baby names.

Who gives a shit. Now can you go on with your life?

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Update:

Yes she went. They went out. Had a great time and she said for a minute she almost fell for him. But then realized what makes a him a good dealmaker is seduction. She did spend the night in his room because she was too drunk to drive back. Said nothing happen and that they ordered room service had w few drinks and stayed up talking and watching tv until 3. I can almost now guarantee he slept with her knowing her. Just a touch of validation from a man and she's already picking out baby names.

I bet the wife is cool with having co-Ed drunk sleep overs in his hotel room. To all the posters who said this was all so innocent...... Please give the wife my best.

[Anonymous]

Babe... you got what I need; but you say he's just a friend...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Update:

Yes she went. They went out. Had a great time and she said for a minute she almost fell for him. But then realized what makes a him a good dealmaker is seduction. She did spend the night in his room because she was too drunk to drive back. Said nothing happen and that they ordered room service had w few drinks and stayed up talking and watching tv until 3. I can almost now guarantee he slept with her knowing her. Just a touch of validation from a man and she's already picking out baby names.

Who gives a shit. Now can you go on with your life?

This.

x1000. You seem obsessed with her.