Hanging around poor friends (low hhi)

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP in that tbere is nothing wrong with keeping economic classes within their own confines if that is what one chooses for their own life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, you're seriously considering ending friendships with people because it "lowers your economic expectations?" Please tell me this is a troll.

What if your friends didn't want to hang out with you because you're a SAHM and you're "lowering their professional expectations."

You sound obnoxious OP. Why do you have to compare your HHI, which you're not even earning by the way, with others. Make your financial decisions off yourself and don't worry so much how others are doing.

+1
Count your blessings - financial AND social. Things can always take a turn for the worse. Either your DH or his income could disappear.

Agree with pp who mentioned your in the world pals vs hanging out with someone who hangs out around the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does this change your spending habits? I'm conflicted as to whether or not I should continue to hang around those with a low hhi - I feel like it lowers my economic expectations.

We make 500k a year and are ivy educated. My husband is a biglaw non equity partner and I'm a sahm - former psychologist.

How does your lifestyle budget change with your human surroundings? We feel ashamed to spend money on a bugaboo when the locals use graco. Whole foods prepared lunches versus local groceries. Prestigious clothing versus hand me downs.

Does anyone else deal with these psychological trappings of success?

The items listed above are TANGIBLE goods, not psychological.

What makes you think in polar opposites -- prestigious clothing vs hand me downs. There is plenty of middle room. And what exactly makes a skirt, say, prestigious? Its label? What is so frickin' good about buying prepared food from WH versus local groceries? Frankly, I'd prefer to go out to eat instead of either option. Have you ever considered where top chefs get their supplies? Most prefer local to trucked in or flown in from everywhere.

[Anonymous]

OP - your HHI is so much lower than ours and for that, you are the one that we don't want to socialize with
Doesn't feel good, right? Try to take some of that 'high' HHI and invest in some etiquette classes.... Just saying....

[Anonymous]

We do well. When I hang our with friends that I know are struggling, we usually do something simple like coffee at Starbucks or Panera and we can talk for two hours there. I don't enjoy that any less than going with a friend to fancy restaurant or going on a shopping spree. I still have the same friends I've had for years and years and I hope to keep it that way!

[Anonymous]

When your judgment day cometh, May God say welcome to hell.

Anonymous wrote:Does this change your spending habits? I'm conflicted as to whether or not I should continue to hang around those with a low hhi - I feel like it lowers my economic expectations.

We make 500k a year and are ivy educated. My husband is a biglaw non equity partner and I'm a sahm - former psychologist.

How does your lifestyle budget change with your human surroundings? We feel ashamed to spend money on a bugaboo when the locals use graco. Whole foods prepared lunches versus local groceries. Prestigious clothing versus hand me downs.

Does anyone else deal with these psychological trappings of success?

[Anonymous]

You all realize that the OP was writing satire, don't you? don't you????