Hanging around poor friends (low hhi)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope by psychologist you don't mean therapist, because I'd you're seriously considering cutting ties with "friends" due to income you should never advise anyone of anything. Yikes!!

It's got to be a troll!

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll.

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll, but a really funny troll.

[Anonymous]

Those of you responding are data for a psychology experiment.

[Anonymous]

LMAO !!!

This fits DCUM to the core !

[Anonymous]

You can't judge a book by its cover. You don't know other peoples' incomes and how they spend their money. Who cares what other other people earn or don't earn? Just mind your own business. My boss makes $2M+ a year and wears cheap-looking, poor-fitting suits. I, on the other hand, wear custom suits, but make a fraction of what he makes...because I like nice stuff. He's a hell of a lot richer than I, but he doesn't dress like it... On the surface, he looks "poor," but he's far from it...

[Anonymous]

OP, you are every bad stereotype of a psychologist. Neurotic as fuck and a snob to boot. Your friends are too good for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't judge a book by its cover. You don't know other peoples' incomes and how they spend their money. Who cares what other other people earn or don't earn? Just mind your own business. My boss makes $2M+ a year and wears cheap-looking, poor-fitting suits. I, on the other hand, wear custom suits, but make a fraction of what he makes...because I like nice stuff. He's a hell of a lot richer than I, but he doesn't dress like it... On the surface, he looks "poor," but he's far from it...

PP, you are never going to be able to maximize your earnings if you are gullible enough to believe that OP is not a troll! Get on this!

[Anonymous]

OP makes no sense. i can't even fathom the logical jump it takes to get from having lower income friends to having low income "expectations" for yourself.

I agree this is probably trolling. If not, I would suggest the OP see therapist about sled worth issues...

[Anonymous]

self worth issues

[Anonymous]

We have HHI in the low 7 figures. While our professional and local neighborhood social circle tend to gravitate towards more successful people like doctors, lawyers, and other business owners, we still hold on to many friends from back when we made much less. Also, our kids attend good public schools, and their classmates mostly come from families far lower in HHI. Play dates, birthday parties, summer cookouts and pool parties, are all cases where we interact with a broad spectrum of families. I find that if you treat people with the respect they've earned based on their actions and not how much they make, you won't feel awkward because they will respect you in return.

[Anonymous]

You will be wealthier if you "lower your economic expectations."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does this change your spending habits? I'm conflicted as to whether or not I should continue to hang around those with a low hhi - I feel like it lowers my economic expectations.

We make 500k a year and are ivy educated. My husband is a biglaw non equity partner and I'm a sahm - former psychologist.

How does your lifestyle budget change with your human surroundings? We feel ashamed to spend money on a bugaboo when the locals use graco. Whole foods prepared lunches versus local groceries. Prestigious clothing versus hand me downs.

Does anyone else deal with these psychological trappings of success?

OP, thanks for this. I have a low HHI and attended a state school, so it's reassuring to know that rich, Ivy-educated people are much less intelligent than me.

[Anonymous]

OP, I totally understand. In fact if I was not so filthy rich, I would totally hang with you. But, alas, I cannot do that because it will lower my economic expectations!

As you know, "poorness" is contagious!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does this change your spending habits? I'm conflicted as to whether or not I should continue to hang around those with a low hhi - I feel like it lowers my economic expectations.

We make 500k a year and are ivy educated. My husband is a biglaw non equity partner and I'm a sahm - former psychologist.

How does your lifestyle budget change with your human surroundings? We feel ashamed to spend money on a bugaboo when the locals use graco. Whole foods prepared lunches versus local groceries. Prestigious clothing versus hand me downs.

Does anyone else deal with these psychological trappings of success?

When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas. Your disgusting, OP.