Playdates while (trying to) work from home

[Anonymous]

Everything should be fine just as long as you plan on being there.

I am quite sure they do not expect you to be actively engaged or to have your eye on the kids the whole day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The girls are here - 4 of them - and in DD's room, helping her pick out clothes. I am working at the dining room table, so totally accessible, but not in the way. Other than DD letting them in, I have yet to hear anything.

I already set up morning snacks and will have a pizza delivered for lunch, so minimal effort on my part. DD knows how to get drinks and plates.

I'll keep you posted. (Honestly, I probably waste more time on DCUM than watching these kids )

So far, I settled one (minor) argument and cleaned up 2 spills and they havent turned on the tv yet (though I think they basically opened every single art/craft set we own and there are beads and rubber bands all over the floor). Lunch around noon and maybe a movie after lunch. Work is going fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Are PPs serious about needing to closely monitor 6 yos?? We let 4 yos play in the play room at parties, and every so often, one of the parents pops their head in to check, but we don't sit and watch them the whole time.

Agreed. I'm fairly sure the poster who posted all the CPS quotes was either kidding or trolling though. There's a massive difference between a parent who's home and available if the kids need something and child neglect which would be leaving kids in this range home alone while the parents went in to work and were not available to the kids.

We do exactly what you posted above, have since around the same age as your kids, and I suspect that's the norm for most families.

[Anonymous]

OP- if I was one of the moms, I would be grateful you opened your home to my DD today. You are going to make sure she is safe, fed, and having unstructed play with her friends. All the things that the developmental experts say our kids need. And you're not charging me.

If the tv goes on, so be it. I won't judge. At the end of the day I'll say thank you. And I'll text you during the day--- what would you like me to bring your family for dinner? My way if saying thank you for taking care of my daughter today.

[Anonymous]

I do not supervise 6 year olds on playdates for the entire time! Many times my DD and her friend will play in her room while I watch my toddler son in the playroom. I pop in every 30 minutes or so and offer snacks, make sure they are playing well but I am not hovering over them at that age.

[Anonymous]

Posts like this make me wonder what exactly our workers are doing during telework. It also leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I also will be sure to look at school days off and telework requests. I hope OP is honest with her employer on her work life balances.

[Anonymous]

As a parent I would appreciate you giving me a heads up that you are working and may need to rely on a movie. I have had friends do this and I appreciate the honesty. I do believe you can get work done and watch the kids. As long as you are being honest with your work, I do not see what people are complaining about.

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Anonymous wrote:As a parent I would appreciate you giving me a heads up that you are working and may need to rely on a movie. I have had friends do this and I appreciate the honesty. I do believe you can get work done and watch the kids. As long as you are being honest with your work, I do not see what people are complaining about.

You must do work that doesn't require much thought or concentration

[Anonymous]

OP again,

So I have been interuppted a few times - to help with lunch, "force" them to play outside before we put on a movie, fix a bead/string thing, but definitely no more so that I am interuppted by co-workers on the days I am in the office when they come in to chit-chat about whatever,

I hope to finish up a couple hours tonight but otherwise, it was a fairly productive day considering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again,

So I have been interuppted a few times - to help with lunch, "force" them to play outside before we put on a movie, fix a bead/string thing, but definitely no more so that I am interuppted by co-workers on the days I am in the office when they come in to chit-chat about whatever,

I hope to finish up a couple hours tonight but otherwise, it was a fairly productive day considering.

Oops, "interrupted". I do know how to spell, although apparently my work doesnt require any thought

[Anonymous]

I would love to know what kind of work and income OP does so I can suggest it to my over burdened spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to know what kind of work and income OP does so I can suggest it to my over burdened spouse.

bump

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Posts like this make me wonder what exactly our workers are doing during telework. It also leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I also will be sure to look at school days off and telework requests. I hope OP is honest with her employer on her work life balances.

Yes, this is part of why we don't have a telework option - there is no way to deal effectively w/ those who abuse it without harming those who don't.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Posts like this make me wonder what exactly our workers are doing during telework. It also leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I also will be sure to look at school days off and telework requests. I hope OP is honest with her employer on her work life balances.

Yes, this is part of why we don't have a telework option - there is no way to deal effectively w/ those who abuse it without harming those who don't.

Says the person who is apparently on DCUM during the work day....

My mom ran a business out of our home while we were growing up. It took her twice as long to get her work done on days when we were home from school, but she got the damned work done, even if she had to stay up past midnight doing it, because that was how she put food in the table. I see no reason to just assume that OP isn't getting her work done or assume that her boss doesn't know the situation for this particular day, especially since she already stated that she is planning on working more later to get done what didn't get done during the day. And I don't see how it is that hard for a manager to see which of their employees are getting their work done and which ones are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Posts like this make me wonder what exactly our workers are doing during telework. It also leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I also will be sure to look at school days off and telework requests. I hope OP is honest with her employer on her work life balances.

Yes, this is part of why we don't have a telework option - there is no way to deal effectively w/ those who abuse it without harming those who don't.

Says the person who is apparently on DCUM during the work day....

My mom ran a business out of our home while we were growing up. It took her twice as long to get her work done on days when we were home from school, but she got the damned work done, even if she had to stay up past midnight doing it, because that was how she put food in the table. I see no reason to just assume that OP isn't getting her work done or assume that her boss doesn't know the situation for this particular day, especially since she already stated that she is planning on working more later to get done what didn't get done during the day. And I don't see how it is that hard for a manager to see which of their employees are getting their work done and which ones are not.

+10 bazillion

It's a crime if OP multi-tasks from home but it's totally OK for the hall monitors to spend the entire day on DCUM since they're in an office, right? Unbelievable.