About to turn 50, want a newborn

[Anonymous]

Do you know any kids of older parents?

My hall mate was afraid to play catch with her dad - thought he would die. My best friend at 28 lost her dad two month after her wedding(lupus, 64). My college roommate lost her dad two week before freshman classes started(cancer 64). My cousin lost his dad his jr. year(cancer 58). I've got neighbor who adopted at 30ish, and she died when he was 18 (cancer), her son then OD'd within 3 years. My current neighbor is on dialysis and they adopted at 50 and their son 15 and in JuVy (early 60). I can go on.

But, most of these friends, there parents were well under 50 when they were "born".

[Anonymous]

Korea just changed its rules to allow waivers to be granted if one of the following is met:

1. Both applicants are Korean-American
2. At least one is a Korean adoptee
3. They have previously adopted from Korea

I don't believe they allow single parents though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Korea just changed its rules to allow waivers to be granted if one of the following is met:

1. Both applicants are Korean-American
2. At least one is a Korean adoptee
3. They have previously adopted from Korea

I don't believe they allow single parents though.

Sorry- meant to say for up to age 49.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any kids of older parents?

My hall mate was afraid to play catch with her dad - thought he would die. My best friend at 28 lost her dad two month after her wedding(lupus, 64). My college roommate lost her dad two week before freshman classes started(cancer 64). My cousin lost his dad his jr. year(cancer 58). I've got neighbor who adopted at 30ish, and she died when he was 18 (cancer), her son then OD'd within 3 years. My current neighbor is on dialysis and they adopted at 50 and their son 15 and in JuVy (early 60). I can go on.

But, most of these friends, there parents were well under 50 when they were "born".

not doing all the math - but the parents you name above don't sound like that were that old when they had their children. just sounds like life dealt them a bad hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any kids of older parents?

My hall mate was afraid to play catch with her dad - thought he would die. My best friend at 28 lost her dad two month after her wedding(lupus, 64). My college roommate lost her dad two week before freshman classes started(cancer 64). My cousin lost his dad his jr. year(cancer 58). I've got neighbor who adopted at 30ish, and she died when he was 18 (cancer), her son then OD'd within 3 years. My current neighbor is on dialysis and they adopted at 50 and their son 15 and in JuVy (early 60). I can go on.

But, most of these friends, there parents were well under 50 when they were "born".

not doing all the math - but the parents you name above don't sound like that were that old when they had their children. just sounds like life dealt them a bad hand.

+1 these are not great examples...not necessarily older parents.

[Anonymous]

Get a dog. In taking care of my newborn right now and every day I think to myself, I forgot how fucking hard a newborn is.

[Anonymous]

Do you want a child -- all 18 years worth, or are you just wistful for the smell of a baby's head?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Crazy? Single, make about $80,000, no family around, one child w mild special needs, own my own home, savings/retirement/504 not good or non existent.

You need to take care of yourself before thinking about a baby! Besides you are already a mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol. Just posting my reality. Poor, sick, lonely people have kids all the time.

You're right, it's called living on the dole. Just go all in, quit your job and start fostering or adopting. The sign up all the kiddies and you for benefits and vote democrat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you list all the things you don't have going for you and then ask this question unless you were just looking to start a nasty thread?

+1. I'm happy to see people calling nonsense on the crazy posts and the trolls on this site. There is wayyy too much negativity here, leading me to believe some regular visitors are just plain nasty, unhappy people. That, or some troll has taken this site on as his/her personal playground.

Ya' think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any kids of older parents?

My hall mate was afraid to play catch with her dad - thought he would die. My best friend at 28 lost her dad two month after her wedding(lupus, 64). My college roommate lost her dad two week before freshman classes started(cancer 64). My cousin lost his dad his jr. year(cancer 58). I've got neighbor who adopted at 30ish, and she died when he was 18 (cancer), her son then OD'd within 3 years. My current neighbor is on dialysis and they adopted at 50 and their son 15 and in JuVy (early 60). I can go on.

But, most of these friends, there parents were well under 50 when they were "born".

PP do you live in the Ozarks amidst coal miners and such? You're just living in a cancer cluster. It's got nothing to do with age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol. Just posting my reality. Poor, sick, lonely people have kids all the time.

You're right, it's called living on the dole. Just go all in, quit your job and start fostering or adopting. The sign up all the kiddies and you for benefits and vote democrat.

GET HELP.

[Anonymous]

If this is a real question (which I definitely doubt). I feel very very sorry for OPs special needs child. The way OP is talking, it sounds likely she'd essentially abandon her SN child just to dote on a newborn. This doesn't sound at all about the kids, not even the newborn. It's just about OPs whims. Emotional disaster in the making for both kids.

[Anonymous]

If you're too old to get pregnant naturally, then I'd say it's not a good idea. Figure out why the idea is appealing and try to meet your needs some other way, like people have suggested--being a babysitter, getting a puppy, etc.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am actually not one who thinks you are crazy at all. Natural pregnancy is not an option of course, and donor egg cut off is 50 so that is probably out too. If you can find anyone that allows 50 plus adoptions, I don't see a problem with it so long as you have a lot of love to give. You make enough $ to build a nice life for a child. You might want financial counseling though, to make sure you can retire and pay for the child's college too.