About to turn 50, want a newborn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, here are some good reasons:
1. Child will have sibling
2. I may get my finances in order this year or next year
3 If #2 happens, better to have newborn at 50 instead of 53
4. I'm a great mom
5 I'm open to moving where it's cheaper/where I can get support
6 DC wants a sibling

Are you saying that 53 year olds are too old to have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody should be an only

Great, we get to pit the older-mom haters against the only-child-parent haters. Fabulous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, here are some good reasons:
1. Child will have sibling
2. I may get my finances in order this year or next year
3 If #2 happens, better to have newborn at 50 instead of 53
4. I'm a great mom
5 I'm open to moving where it's cheaper/where I can get support
6 DC wants a sibling

Are you saying that 53 year olds are too old to have kids?

No, but the younger the better. Unfortunately I will never be younger than 50 (unless I do it right now)

[Anonymous]

I assume you know it's very unlikely you'll be able to get pregnant with your own eggs. Are you thinking of donor eggs or adoption?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume you know it's very unlikely you'll be able to get pregnant with your own eggs. Are you thinking of donor eggs or adoption?

I'm open to any route

[Anonymous]

Aspiring to be like the oldest Mom in the UK?

Yeah she died shortly there after of cancer. Good times.

[Anonymous]

Best thing I ever did: 56 year old mom enjoying my morning coffee on this chilly morning, cuddled in bed, listening to my now almost 6 yo chatting away in the magical enthusiasm that brightens my every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aspiring to be like the oldest Mom in the UK?

Yeah she died shortly there after of cancer. Good times.

50 js hardly the oldest mom out there. Back in the day people had babies at 50 all the time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best thing I ever did: 56 year old mom enjoying my morning coffee on this chilly morning, cuddled in bed, listening
to my now almost 6 yo chatting away in the magical enthusiasm that brightens my every day.

Really?! Tell me more!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assume you know it's very unlikely you'll be able to get pregnant with your own eggs. Are you thinking of donor eggs or adoption?

I'm open to any route

Unless you've got a ton of money, this is a theoretical discussion. You're not going to get pregnant with just donor insemination, and no one is going to give you a newborn. It's a challenge to find some place that will let you adopt at 40, really really hard to find someplace that let's you adopt at 45, and forget about it at 50.

That leaves donor eggs or surrogates, which you can't afford. If you think you will find the money somewhere, then you're doing a gross disservice to the child you already have by jeopardizing any financial security you may have.

[Anonymous]

I'm almost 50. I have a newborn - A newborn grandson. OP, it's great to "want" a baby. In many women that desire doesn't ever really go away. It is the epitome of selfish to purposely have a baby once you are older. I know people here do it all the time. That doesn't make it any less selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aspiring to be like the oldest Mom in the UK?

Yeah she died shortly there after of cancer. Good times.

50 js hardly the oldest mom out there. Back in the day people had babies at 50 all the time

[Anonymous]

My neighbor adopted her first at 50. Her second at maybe 52 and her third soon thereafter. All newborns. You'd never guess her to be that old. Then again, she isnt single. But they are not high income. They make it work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aspiring to be like the oldest Mom in the UK?

Yeah she died shortly there after of cancer. Good times.

No she didn't. She's alive and well.

[Anonymous]

Which countries allow adoption after 50?