What is your pool locker room policy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:[/b]Don't care what the policy is my DS won't be going alone into the men's locker room until 10[b]. I have family members in law enforcement. if you have heard the stories I have heard about child molestation you would be hesitant too!

What do you about re public restrooms then?

He cannot use the men's room alone. He goes with me in the women's room or goes to the men's if DH or another friend is with us.

Your poor kid. His friends see him a and he will be a laughing stock.

[Anonymous]

If someone brought a male over the age of 5 in a woman's locker room, I'd raise hell with the staff of the pool.

Same if someone tried to bring an 8yr-old into a woman's bathroom. Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

You people complaining about 7 and 8 yo boys in the women's room are NUTS.

Those boys do not have the SLIGHTEST prurient interest in your saggy old T&A.

So get over yourselves already.

My son is not going to get molested just so you can avoid stupid, childish feelings of discomfort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At Wilson Pool (public) in DC, boys over six I think cannot be in the women's room. I bring my eight year old nephew there a lot and am always nervous about him being in the men's room alone. He seems to handle it well, but I've stuck my head in there, and yes, I've seen some asses and junk of grown men. I don't care. My nephew's safety is paramount.

Wilson has family changing rooms. Why not use those? Also, I think anyone over 3 yo cannot be in the opposite sex locker room.

Because there are always larger families waiting to use those, with toddlers, etc. I feel it's inconsiderate just to have him be in there alone. He can handle himself in the men's changing room. I just want to make sure he's safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people complaining about 7 and 8 yo boys in the women's room are NUTS.

Those boys do not have the SLIGHTEST prurient interest in your saggy old T&A.

So get over yourselves already.

My son is not going to get molested just so you can avoid stupid, childish feelings of discomfort.

Well...8 seems kind of old, if only because they get a little immature about nudity at that age. As in making jokes, etc. Otherwise, I don't really have an issue with that either.

But up to 6 should be fine! And a 3 or 4 year old? Come on, people! So what if they see a naked person? Get over yourselves!

If a place doesn't have adequate family locker rooms, then they really should allow younger boys in the dressing room. Or be liable for any molestation that does happen when a 4 year old is in the mens room by himself (not that I think it would happen, but since they're cowing to the demands of crazy people here...)!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At Wilson Pool (public) in DC, boys over six I think cannot be in the women's room. I bring my eight year old nephew there a lot and am always nervous about him being in the men's room alone. He seems to handle it well, but I've stuck my head in there, and yes, I've seen some asses and junk of grown men. I don't care. My nephew's safety is paramount.

Why are you nervous about him being on the men's locker room alone?

There was a man trying to lure boys into the locker room.

Then they need to patrol for and arrest gay pedophiles. But I guess that is considered "intolerant" today.

[Anonymous]

Age three or four seems fine for child of the opposite sex to be in a mens or women's locker room. Eight is definitely not. Younger girls using the women's locker room shouldn't have to worry about having an older boy come in while they are changing. The choice is not between using the women's locker room or the men's. It is between using the men's or not using the locker room at all. If you are concerned for the boy's safety, don't use the locker room. My son is 6 and my daughter is 8. If both parents go to the pool, we use the appropriate locker rooms. If only one parent goes, we skip the locker rooms. No one is in danger, no one is uncomfortable. It might be less convenient but then I am not one to think it is always all about me and mine.

[Anonymous]

What if pools hired a same sex bathroom attendent? They could be responsible for cleaning the locker rooms, assisting children with heavy doors or providing directions, and of course would be able to call for help if needed. They would not be allowed to assist with the changing of a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Age three or four seems fine for child of the opposite sex to be in a mens or women's locker room. Eight is definitely not. Younger girls using the women's locker room shouldn't have to worry about having an older boy come in while they are changing. The choice is not between using the women's locker room or the men's. It is between using the men's or not using the locker room at all. If you are concerned for the boy's safety, don't use the locker room. My son is 6 and my daughter is 8. If both parents go to the pool, we use the appropriate locker rooms. If only one parent goes, we skip the locker rooms. No one is in danger, no one is uncomfortable. It might be less convenient but then I am not one to think it is always all about me and mine.

I guess it just feels like we are sexualizing 5 year olds when we group them in with 8, 10, 15 year olds who, I agree, shouldn't use the opposite gender locker room. In my mind, a 5 year old is like a 2 or 3 year old (and the Burke Racquet and Swim Club doesn't even let those toddlers in!). I honestly don't care what my 3 year old or 5 year old sees, and I don't see why other families get to go home dry in the winter just because they have kids of a different gender, and we have to go home soaking wet and freezing, especially in winter. It is completely ridiculous, and they need to rethink their policy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This gets discussed periodically and the outcome is always the same -- some mothers are going to take their sons into the woman's locker room regardless of the policy. People try to reason with them, but it is no use. They don't care about the comfort of your daughters.

What you mean is that you don't care about the safety of their sons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At Wilson Pool (public) in DC, boys over six I think cannot be in the women's room. I bring my eight year old nephew there a lot and am always nervous about him being in the men's room alone. He seems to handle it well, but I've stuck my head in there, and yes, I've seen some asses and junk of grown men. I don't care. My nephew's safety is paramount.

Why are you nervous about him being on the men's locker room alone?

There was a man trying to lure boys into the locker room.

Then they need to patrol for and arrest gay pedophiles. But I guess that is considered "intolerant" today.

Please don't merge the terms gay and pedophile. They are not connected to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Age three or four seems fine for child of the opposite sex to be in a mens or women's locker room. Eight is definitely not. Younger girls using the women's locker room shouldn't have to worry about having an older boy come in while they are changing. The choice is not between using the women's locker room or the men's. It is between using the men's or not using the locker room at all. If you are concerned for the boy's safety, don't use the locker room. My son is 6 and my daughter is 8. If both parents go to the pool, we use the appropriate locker rooms. If only one parent goes, we skip the locker rooms. No one is in danger, no one is uncomfortable. It might be less convenient but then I am not one to think it is always all about me and mine.

I guess it just feels like we are sexualizing 5 year olds when we group them in with 8, 10, 15 year olds who, I agree, shouldn't use the opposite gender locker room. In my mind, a 5 year old is like a 2 or 3 year old (and the Burke Racquet and Swim Club doesn't even let those toddlers in!). I honestly don't care what my 3 year old or 5 year old sees, and I don't see why other families get to go home dry in the winter just because they have kids of a different gender, and we have to go home soaking wet and freezing, especially in winter. It is completely ridiculous, and they need to rethink their policy.

I agree with you about a 5 yr old vs an 8 yr old. But it's their pool and they get to set their policies. No one says you have to take swim lessons there. That's your choice. You need to weigh the benefits of swim lessons at this location against their changing room policies.

[Anonymous]

community pool policy is 5 yrs and up use locker room that goes with their gender.

I don't think the policy is so much for the comfort of grown women, but also young girls as well. I can tell you that when I was 8 I would have been mortified if a boy from my class saw me naked. It is not appropriate for kids over 6 to be in the locker room of the opposite sex.

and every one freaking out over molestation... seriously? You kid is way more likely to be molested by a family friend or relative than some random person in the locker room. So get a grip!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This gets discussed periodically and the outcome is always the same -- some mothers are going to take their sons into the woman's locker room regardless of the policy. People try to reason with them, but it is no use. They don't care about the comfort of your daughters.

What you mean is that you don't care about the safety of their sons?

I fail to understand why some people feel that the rules do not apply to them. If you don't like the rules, find a facilities where you can abide by the rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At Wilson Pool (public) in DC, boys over six I think cannot be in the women's room. I bring my eight year old nephew there a lot and am always nervous about him being in the men's room alone. He seems to handle it well, but I've stuck my head in there, and yes, I've seen some asses and junk of grown men. I don't care. My nephew's safety is paramount.

Wilson has family changing rooms. Why not use those? Also, I think anyone over 3 yo cannot be in the opposite sex locker room.

Because there are always larger families waiting to use those, with toddlers, etc. I feel it's inconsiderate just to have him be in there alone. He can handle himself in the men's changing room. I just want to make sure he's safe.

You have no right to stick your head in a men's locker room. You are a creeper.