What is your pool locker room policy?

[Anonymous]

DS (4) just started swim lessons at Burke Racquet and Swim. Their locker room policy is that boys of any age cannot go into the women's locker room or vice versa. They have a family restroom, but it's just that - a restroom. There is room for one family at a time, and there ends up being a huge line. I would have no problem if there were actually a family locker room, one that is bigger than the size of a single restroom and allows multiple families to use it at the same time.

I have been to a lot of pools and gyms, and I have honestly never seen this policy. I can't take my child to the women's locker room?! The staff actually gave me the option to send him into the men's room on his own. Um...ok, I'll do that.

Am I out of the loop, or is this a ridiculous policy??

[Anonymous]

Probably done because women were bringing their much older boys into the women's locker room and people complained. I agree it is ridiculous, but can also see where it came from

[Anonymous]

At Wilson Pool (public) in DC, boys over six I think cannot be in the women's room. I bring my eight year old nephew there a lot and am always nervous about him being in the men's room alone. He seems to handle it well, but I've stuck my head in there, and yes, I've seen some asses and junk of grown men. I don't care. My nephew's safety is paramount.

[Anonymous]

My son was small for his age and I just kept taking him in with me (not the place you are talking about). I am not a rule flouter normally, but frankly I felt too nervous sending him into the men's room alone!

[Anonymous]

Most of the places I go are kids 6 and over must go in the appropriate sex locker room. I barely felt comfortable with that. There's no way I'd let a 4 year old go in by himself. I'd figure something else out and suggest to management that they consider a 6 and over rule instead.

[Anonymous]

Don't care what the policy is my DS won't be going alone into the men's locker room until 10. I have family members in law enforcement. if you have heard the stories I have heard about child molestation you would be hesitant too!

[Anonymous]

How does child molestation occur if the locker room is full of other men. Not saying id let my 4 year old go in alone,but have a friend who doesn't want her 8 year old going in and have yet to hear a valid concern.

[Anonymous]

We've always taken lessons there and I feel for the moms of boys there, but- it was unsettling for me when I had my 4 yo dd and 7 yo dd in there and a mom brought her 5 and 7 year old boys who know my daughters in there to change. My girls were naked and it just wasn't right - especially for my older daughter.

I agree, it would be nice if you all had another room, not just that one, but - the same thing happens at the Burke Centre pools for you too.

I would speak to management about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does child molestation occur if the locker room is full of other men. Not saying id let my 4 year old go in alone,but have a friend who doesn't want her 8 year old going in and have yet to hear a valid concern.

Obviously all the men circle around and watch because every man is a child molestor.

[Anonymous]

It's not just about molestation. Some of those locker rooms are huge and not easy to find the way out to the pool. Little kids can get really scared and panicky in those situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've always taken lessons there and I feel for the moms of boys there, but- it was unsettling for me when I had my 4 yo dd and 7 yo dd in there and a mom brought her 5 and 7 year old boys who know my daughters in there to change. My girls were naked and it just wasn't right - especially for my older daughter.

I agree, it would be nice if you all had another room, not just that one, but - the same thing happens at the Burke Centre pools for you too.

I would speak to management about it.

Why would that be unsettling? Isn't that just you projecting your issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've always taken lessons there and I feel for the moms of boys there, but- it was unsettling for me when I had my 4 yo dd and 7 yo dd in there and a mom brought her 5 and 7 year old boys who know my daughters in there to change. My girls were naked and it just wasn't right - especially for my older daughter.

I agree, it would be nice if you all had another room, not just that one, but - the same thing happens at the Burke Centre pools for you too.

I would speak to management about it.

Why would that be unsettling? Isn't that just you projecting your issues?

It was unsettling because dd who is 7, had a boy in her class see her completely naked in the locker room (where he wasn't supposed to be) If you can't understand that it was inappropriate for him to see her naked, then you have issues

[Anonymous]

Lifetime has this policy, but they also have a large family locker room.

[Anonymous]

I would shop around until you find a gym with a large family changing room. Fx. Co. has tons of rec centers and as PP mentioned, private options too. If not, then just have him wear his bathing suit to the pool under his clothing. For after swimming, perhaps dry him off with a thick towel on deck and put a warm sweatsuit on him with a hat to wear out to the car and have him shower and change at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At Wilson Pool (public) in DC, boys over six I think cannot be in the women's room. I bring my eight year old nephew there a lot and am always nervous about him being in the men's room alone. He seems to handle it well, but I've stuck my head in there, and yes, I've seen some asses and junk of grown men. I don't care. My nephew's safety is paramount.

. Would you be similarly nonchalant if a man was sticking his head in the woman's locker room and saw your tits and ass?