My husband is an asshole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, you both sound like assholes to me.

Yeah, one prick, one cunt. I don't see the asshole....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again....so this morning, he apologizes. He says that kind of conversation isn't productive and since we've been doing so much better, it's hard when talks like that happen. He said he was sorry for his part and that's not how he wants to live. I say I appreciate it and that I felt very disrespected last night. I said we need to work on communicating with respect. That I felt like I was being systematically taken down and not treated nicely. And he says, "Well I'm not trying to get into all that now.".!!!!!!!

The meat thing - yes, it's part of our religion. He knew it was a big deal to me as is to his own mother. He doesn't follow that part of our religion.

DD is a much better sleeper now. She had a rough week with a bad cough and throwing up from coughing. Rather than going in and having to clean it up every night, I would stay in her room and prevent her from throwing up. She normally doesn't wake up all the time but if she does wake up, she comes to our room and either stays there or asks to go back to her room. As far as I know, that is developmentally acceptable for a preschooler.

Get a better religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again....so this morning, he apologizes. He says that kind of conversation isn't productive and since we've been doing so much better, it's hard when talks like that happen. He said he was sorry for his part and that's not how he wants to live. I say I appreciate it and that I felt very disrespected last night. I said we need to work on communicating with respect. That I felt like I was being systematically taken down and not treated nicely. And he says, "Well I'm not trying to get into all that now.".!!!!!!!

The meat thing - yes, it's part of our religion. He knew it was a big deal to me as is to his own mother. He doesn't follow that part of our religion.

DD is a much better sleeper now. She had a rough week with a bad cough and throwing up from coughing. Rather than going in and having to clean it up every night, I would stay in her room and prevent her from throwing up. She normally doesn't wake up all the time but if she does wake up, she comes to our room and either stays there or asks to go back to her room. As far as I know, that is developmentally acceptable for a preschooler.

I'm hoping it's the lack of sleep this past week that is making you both testy. I hope you're not like that to each other all the time. DH apologizes but you just want to pick at the wound and then he starts yelling at you again. You deserve each other.
If your kid is going to kindergarten next year maybe you should start thinking about applying for jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again....so this morning, he apologizes. He says that kind of conversation isn't productive and since we've been doing so much better, it's hard when talks like that happen. He said he was sorry for his part and that's not how he wants to live. I say I appreciate it and that I felt very disrespected last night. I said we need to work on communicating with respect. That I felt like I was being systematically taken down and not treated nicely. And he says, "Well I'm not trying to get into all that now.".!!!!!!!

The meat thing - yes, it's part of our religion. He knew it was a big deal to me as is to his own mother. He doesn't follow that part of our religion.

DD is a much better sleeper now. She had a rough week with a bad cough and throwing up from coughing. Rather than going in and having to clean it up every night, I would stay in her room and prevent her from throwing up. She normally doesn't wake up all the time but if she does wake up, she comes to our room and either stays there or asks to go back to her room. As far as I know, that is developmentally acceptable for a preschooler.

Get a better religion.

Yeah, what religion are you, exactly. Is you husband religious too? Maybe a lot of the behavior of your husband is associated with his culture and religion, and to him, you are being disrespectful and bad mother. Keep in mind, on this board the majority of advice is going to be from liberal feminists, whose beliefs about family roles is quite different from those of many cultures. Not sure the whole story is out yet.