adoption and evil SIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:adult adoptee here. I would move to nip this behavior in the bud as soon as possible. I was never made to feel part of the family that I was adopted into, and as a result, I haven't had much to do with them after I graduated HS

Love to you
Two of our kids are adopted, and one is of a different race.

My children have endured this hateful behavior off and on for their entire lives.

Whenever the racism has been expressed, I have gone into shock. My husbands' family is so abusive it blows my mind....trying to create a strategy to separate. I feel desperately sorry that my adopted kids are singled out, left out and otherwise treated as not acceptable to those people.

I just want to say how very grateful I am to see the support for the OP here. Too bad my H never nipped this XXXX in the bud. Too bad his siblings, SILs and parents are such miserable, F-ing creeps.

This a strategy that many unhealthy mean spirited people use -- the adoption is just what they are using in your case. If your kids weren't adopted, they would find something else to be hurtful about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you adopt outside your race, you should expect this.

What trailer park did you crawl out of?

Foxall Rd., NW, DC, born and bred.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you adopt outside your race, you should expect this.

What trailer park did you crawl out of?

Foxall Rd., NW, DC, born and bred.

Stay klassy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you adopt outside your race, you should expect this.

What trailer park did you crawl out of?

Foxall Rd., NW, DC, born and bred.

The few people I know from Washington who think like this are all elderly. And even they are dignified and educated enough to keep their disgusting views private. You are an embarrassment. Please move and don't claim Washington as your home town anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you adopt outside your race, you should expect this.

What trailer park did you crawl out of?

Foxall Rd., NW, DC, born and bred.

The few people I know from Washington who think like this are all elderly. And even they are dignified and educated enough to keep their disgusting views private. You are an embarrassment. Please move and don't claim Washington as your home town anymore.

Ditto this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:adult adoptee here. I would move to nip this behavior in the bud as soon as possible. I was never made to feel part of the family that I was adopted into, and as a result, I haven't had much to do with them after I graduated HS

Love to you
Two of our kids are adopted, and one is of a different race.

My children have endured this hateful behavior off and on for their entire lives.

Whenever the racism has been expressed, I have gone into shock. My husbands' family is so abusive it blows my mind....trying to create a strategy to separate. I feel desperately sorry that my adopted kids are singled out, left out and otherwise treated as not acceptable to those people.

I just want to say how very grateful I am to see the support for the OP here. Too bad my H never nipped this XXXX in the bud. Too bad his siblings, SILs and parents are such miserable, F-ing creeps.

This a strategy that many unhealthy mean spirited people use -- the adoption is just what they are using in your case. If your kids weren't adopted, they would find something else to be hurtful about.

PP, thank you for your observation, which was a genuine consolation--even if it's just the internets!

[Anonymous]

Your obligation is to protect your child. Either SIL shuts up, changes, or you don't go. If you have other family members you can enlist (like MIL) to support you, do it.