Did you drive you Middle Schooler in to school today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i still remember the time my mom refused to drive me to school (she literally passsed my school on her way to work) when i missed the bus. i hadnt done anything different in my morning routine but i just missed the bus and she refused. she made me walk two miles with no sidewalks on busy roads to get to school. it was a super bitchy and selfish thing to do. as a parent, i wouldnt want to over coddle my children but i also dont want them to remember me as a selfish mother.

Sounds like you have some issues. I think she was trying to teach you a lesson about personal responsibility. Obviously, you're still learning it if you're stuck on her being "bitchy and selfish."

[Anonymous]

"OP here--I really, really don't think it was a mistake not to drive them--but I did feel guilty that they would be slopping around school in wet pants"

Oh, brother!

[Anonymous]

ALL of OP's kids refused to dress properly? Must be gifted ...

[Anonymous]

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also, if your kids call you for help and you deny them, they will remember that in the future when they need to call someone for help.

Right. Next time it's pouring down rain, and the OP reminds them to wear their boots and raincoat, and they don't, and they get drenched, they won't call her for help. That actually seems like a good outcome to me.

Ok....but what about when they are in HS and they sneak to a party that OP told them not to attend....party gets out of hand...still a good outcome that OP has her kids trained not to call her?

I am assuming that the OP's children are smart enough to recognize the difference between "I have to get out of here because there might be big trouble any minute" and "I'm wet, and I want to get driven to school".

Who knows/ Teens are not as smart as you think. Anyways, , you phrased it in such a way to make it obvious! But what if the message is "If you make a bad decision, you deal with it"? That is what I said in my earlier post that the OP should make sure that is not the message she is sending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"This stuff is complicated."

No, it's not.

hahahah, ha. Can't win with some people. Do you even have kids? And did you have them this century? Never mind. It always seems simple when it's not happening to you and your buttons aren't being pushed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"OP here--I really, really don't think it was a mistake not to drive them--but I did feel guilty that they would be slopping around school in wet pants"

Oh, brother!

Ok, Mrs. General Patton.

[Anonymous]

Our preschool went out and played in the rain and look for worms.

It is rain. Not a tornado. I am not saying don't ever drive them but if you said no and they didn't prepare, good for you for not giving in

We have a bus stop up the street any on days there is drizzle, 70% drive up 4-9 houses so their snowflakes can jump out of the car and onto the bus. Pathetic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i am with you, dress for the weather and you will be fine. How many of you had your parnets drive you to the metro today?

if they are smart enough to go inside a coffeee shop and call home they are smart enough to know how to dress for the weather and get to school on time.

+1

[Anonymous]

Not only that, but I'll pick him up too! It's pouring rain out and I don't want him to get soaked/sick.

Signed,
SAHM mom homeschooling younger DC

[Anonymous]

I'll be waiting at the bus stop this afternoon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not only that, but I'll pick him up too! It's pouring rain out and I don't want him to get soaked/sick.

Signed,
SAHM mom homeschooling younger DC

Lord have mercy! You do not get sick from getting wet. Seriously. What century is this?

[Anonymous]

We drove our high schooler. Took two full hours. DH has already left for pickup (3:40).

[Anonymous]

This is definitely a drive-your-kid-to-school day. I don't care how you dress, you will end up wet. I wouldn't want to spend all day like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand where you are going here with your tough love, and I do this myself (against the sea tide of Making Life Special and Sweet At All Times for the kids here in Ward 3).

I also live 1/2 mile from Deal and I would have driven my almost middle schooler today as a favor. Just as I would've driven my husband to the metro station at friendship heights as a one-off favor. Neither one will EVER get the rickshaw treatment from me -- I hate all the wussy, soft males in my zip code -- but once in a deluge is a nice gesture.

Maybe you and op should get together and carpool.

[Anonymous]

DH just called. He's on the G. Washington Parkway having come off the Beltway. He said "This must be a promotion for Noah" - lots of flooding, cars stranded, washouts, etc. Please take your time getting your kids.