Invited to Asian home for playdate-do I need to bring something?

[Anonymous]

I'm a no shoes in the house person but we also have enough clean slippers for guests. With all this talk of socks, do you guys expect guests to walk around in their socks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a no shoes in the house person but we also have enough clean slippers for guests. With all this talk of socks, do you guys expect guests to walk around in their socks?

Or bare feet? Their choice. Though, if they have athlete's foot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Playdate does not take place at meal time but both sets of parents will be present as both of our families are relatively new to the neighborhood and I think we are all thinking we'd like to develop the relationship. Should we bring something? A food gift? It's a morning playdate--our bagel place is closed on Saturday, I was wondering if we should go out to get doughnuts.

Some rice and a baby elephant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Clean socks

yes, do not leave your shoes on, even if they tell you it is ok. Lessons I learned from my Asian in-laws.

+ 100.

When they say "it's ok" they only mean that they don't expect you to do that if you are not used to it. They are being accomodating, but will appreciate if you do remove the shoes. Also line it nearer to the door, so your shoes looks neat and are out of the way.

A small gift of chocolate cookies etc., is all that is required. Something that can either be eaten later or shared with the kids. Or a small plant for the hostess. (something hard to kill like Pathos works great)

Yeah, we Asians find it hard to kill the White people Pathos.

[Anonymous]

Get your effin shoes off! Why do people wear shoes inside the house anyways????

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clean socks

yes, do not leave your shoes on, even if they tell you it is ok. Lessons I learned from my Asian in-laws.

+ 100.

When they say "it's ok" they only mean that they don't expect you to do that if you are not used to it. They are being accomodating, but will appreciate if you do remove the shoes. Also line it nearer to the door, so your shoes looks neat and are out of the way.

A small gift of chocolate cookies etc., is all that is required. Something that can either be eaten later or shared with the kids. Or a small plant for the hostess. (something hard to kill like Pathos works great)

Yeah, we Asians find it hard to kill the White people Pathos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clean socks

yes, do not leave your shoes on, even if they tell you it is ok. Lessons I learned from my Asian in-laws.

+ 100.

When they say "it's ok" they only mean that they don't expect you to do that if you are not used to it. They are being accomodating, but will appreciate if you do remove the shoes. Also line it nearer to the door, so your shoes looks neat and are out of the way.

A small gift of chocolate cookies etc., is all that is required. Something that can either be eaten later or shared with the kids. Or a small plant for the hostess. (something hard to kill like Pathos works great)

If Asian means from India and not China etc then check if they are vegetarian before bringing cookies with eggs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Korean here: a crisp $100 bill is standard. Oh and a jcrew gift card.

[Anonymous]

Hilarious.

I have people coming over all the time. Sometimes via invitation or just something spontaneous. I didn't know it was such a big production to go on a play date or have the kids play together while u gossip. I'm pretty social though and I don't have to plan or think these things out.

As for Asian homes... Some Asian Americans are just as white as your typical wasp. I'm married to a Korean American but we lived in Asia for many years. That said, we now live in american so we go by American customs. While in Asia, they did exchange gifts more frequently. But most Asian Americans aren't that Asian and have never even lived in Asia as an adult.

U will have a sorts of friends from various backgrounds. I'd just use ur basic social skills. It's not hard

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does being Asian have to do with anything?

I specifically mentioned this because I had the recent food at parties thread in mind. An Asian poster had said something about food being important and being scandalized at not being provided food. For the record, the neighbors are not Asian-American. They are Asian from abroad.

That poster was saying the host should provide food, nothing about the guest. Anyway, treat them like you'd treat an American family. No different.

Asians notice basic manners. And these mean that they will notice if you will remove shoes (hygiene), wash hands before touching food, and if you bring a small token gift when you come the first time for a playdate. A playdate is an informal gathering. Nothing big needs to be brought, just cookies or fruits etc, that people can snack upon. It just shows that you are participating and want to share. Not rocket science - sheesh!

Also - Americans - please blow nose in the powder room and not in front of people. Wash your hands after blowing your nose. Wash your hands after using the rest rooms. Make sure that you and your kid poops in your own house before you come to our house. That's all.

And what if they have to poop again? Do you show them the way to the backyard? Ridiculous.

Only for you

[Anonymous]

Please bring me a Hello Kitty back scratcher.

[Anonymous]

I wear shoes in the house. IDGAF.

[Anonymous]

bring some food. fruit is good.

[Anonymous]

Don't forget to point at their food and proclaim loudly "I
Love curry" while smacking your lips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I believe the politically correct term is "oriental".

And for the people who do not recognize your sarcasm, let me say that "oriental" is most definitely NOT the term to use. There are a lot of negative connotations associated with that term from a historical perspective and while many are neutral about it, many Asians and Asian Americans will be offended by it.

Thanks Mom. What would we do without you?!?!

LOL...this thread totally cracks me up. but i can't resist saying, in all seriousness.....please reserve the use of "oriental" for objects like rugs and lamps. do not use it to refer to a group of people.

ugh.

[Anonymous]

When visiting we take our slippers with us to wear. It's very rude to wear shoes in someone elses house. We are not Asian and we expect everyone to take off their shoes at the door. Most of our guests bring their slippers to wear.