Invited to Asian home for playdate-do I need to bring something?

[Anonymous]

+1 on the no shoes. Make sure you have socks you don't mind everyone seeing.

I am Asian and I would not care if you brought a gift or not. But it would be easy to bring a small back of clementines or something like that.

[Anonymous]

I;m gonna wager that they are a shoes off house so like PPs said, wear clean socks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt they are expecting you to bring anything. However, wear nice clean socks, in case they are a "no shoes in house" family. A lot of my Asian friends don't allow shoes to be worn in the house. Honestly, I love the idea, but my DH would never let me implement it in our house.

Good tip. I grew up without shoes in the house, and we implement the same thing today. Honestly, it grosses me out when people wear their outdoor shoes inside the home -- do you know how much crud you're tracking in on to your floors and rugs? Even Mr. Rogers changed from outdoor shoes to indoor shoes and he wasn't Asian

I know!! I've tried pointing this out to my husband, but alas, to no avail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I;m gonna wager that they are a shoes off house so like PPs said, wear clean socks.

^^ I'm Asian.

[Anonymous]

Yes, please bring something. We Asians expect only the most extravagant of gifts. I am kidding, by the way. We don't expect anything other than the kids having a good social experience. Taking shoes off is a plus, but it doesn't matter as much to me unless it was a rainy (muddy) day.

[Anonymous]

What if a person has smelly feet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if a person has smelly feet?

You mean the parent or the kid? If the former, drop-off play dates are preferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does being Asian have to do with anything?

+1

OMG, just do what you would do for anyone else. People here are so weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if a person has smelly feet?

Foot powder, good clean socks. You know you have issues so take steps to mitigate it. If you must keep your shoes on, bring booties. This can't be the first time you're facing this issue.

[Anonymous]

What country are they from? Please, please tell me they are actually from a different country, not Asian-American.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does being Asian have to do with anything?

I specifically mentioned this because I had the recent food at parties thread in mind. An Asian poster had said something about food being important and being scandalized at not being provided food. For the record, the neighbors are not Asian-American. They are Asian from abroad.

[Anonymous]

Op again, and also for the record, I can't believe the scorn for wanting to be culturally sensitive. Guess you can't win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does being Asian have to do with anything?

I specifically mentioned this because I had the recent food at parties thread in mind. An Asian poster had said something about food being important and being scandalized at not being provided food. For the record, the neighbors are not Asian-American. They are Asian from abroad.

That poster was saying the host should provide food, nothing about the guest. Anyway, treat them like you'd treat an American family. No different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op again, and also for the record, I can't believe the scorn for wanting to be culturally sensitive. Guess you can't win.

OP, I am all for being culturally sensitive. But there is no such thing as "Asian culture". There are many different cultures in Asia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clean socks

yes, do not leave your shoes on, even if they tell you it is ok. Lessons I learned from my Asian in-laws.

+ 100.

When they say "it's ok" they only mean that they don't expect you to do that if you are not used to it. They are being accomodating, but will appreciate if you do remove the shoes. Also line it nearer to the door, so your shoes looks neat and are out of the way.

A small gift of chocolate cookies etc., is all that is required. Something that can either be eaten later or shared with the kids. Or a small plant for the hostess. (something hard to kill like Pathos works great)