Invited to Asian home for playdate-do I need to bring something?
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Anonymous
| Playdate does not take place at meal time but both sets of parents will be present as both of our families are relatively new to the neighborhood and I think we are all thinking we'd like to develop the relationship. Should we bring something? A food gift? It's a morning playdate--our bagel place is closed on Saturday, I was wondering if we should go out to get doughnuts. |
Anonymous
| If they invited you, I don't think they will be expecting you to bring anything, but if you want to, that would be nice. I'd just make sure to reciprocate the playdate; I think that would be plenty. |
Anonymous
| What does being Asian have to do with anything? |
Anonymous
| I doubt they are expecting you to bring anything. However, wear nice clean socks, in case they are a "no shoes in house" family. A lot of my Asian friends don't allow shoes to be worn in the house. Honestly, I love the idea, but my DH would never let me implement it in our house. |
Anonymous
Clean socks 
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Anonymous
She's obviously checking to make sure it's not part of Asian culture to bring something. |
Anonymous
| The Asian part doesn't matter. But if you want to go the extra mile, a housewarming gift would be a nice gesture. |
Anonymous
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I would bring your passport, and some luggage. I can't be bothered to travel more than 10 minutes away for a playdate, impressive that you're going to Asia for one.
SMDH. |
Anonymous
| I always bring a small snack to share (bag of pretzels, goldfish, apples, blueberries, whatever I have around the house). It doesn't matter if the family is from Mars or Asia. |
Anonymous
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Are you asking whether an Asian family will be offended if you don't show up with something because of some cultural norm?
I am Asian and I will say that I was raised to bring something to people's homes when I visited or went over for dinner. I wouldn't bring something every single time I just hung out at someone else's house casually to play, but if it was my first time at that friend's house or if it was a bigger deal (like a sleepover or something), then yes, I brought something small for that friend's parents, like a food gift or flowers. And it's a practice that I still basically follow today when we go over to someone's place. That being said, in my household, I wouldn't be at all offended if someone came over for a playdate and did NOT bring a gift -- every one is different. If you did bring a gift, then I'd think it's nice, but I wouldn't at all think you were rude for failing to bring a gift. |
Anonymous
| Good question. I have been invited to the homes of a Jew and, separately, a Christian. I'd appreciate advice on what to bring them. |
Anonymous
LOL. And I don't even know what SMDH means. |
Anonymous
Good tip. I grew up without shoes in the house, and we implement the same thing today. Honestly, it grosses me out when people wear their outdoor shoes inside the home -- do you know how much crud you're tracking in on to your floors and rugs? Even Mr. Rogers changed from outdoor shoes to indoor shoes and he wasn't Asian
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Anonymous
yes, do not leave your shoes on, even if they tell you it is ok. Lessons I learned from my Asian in-laws. |
Anonymous
| What kind of Asian - short and diminutive features, or a larger type Asian - big bones, etc. |