A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!

[Anonymous]

My sister in law insisted upon bringing her dog much to my husbands and I's dismay and he ended up being so stressed by the new environment that he pee'd on my husbands brand new Persian rug in his office (6k) To this day despite many attempts the stain and reminder of that horrible incident remain. NEVER AGAIN.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't stand the smell of dogs. They will stink up your house and it's quite rude/entitled to think she can just bring a giant dog. As others have said...that is what hotels or kennels are for. I won't eat anything made by people who have dogs in their houses. They pet the dog, lick the bowl, and then offer you the cookies they made. Gross. Also hate how many people treat dogs better than their kids.

+100000 My sister brought their new little something dog to Thanksgiving - three nights, three bedroom, 15 people (yes, we are a close family and there were bodies sleeping everywhere). The stinky thing was ALWAYS on the furniture, which at night doubles as someone's bed. I generally have no opinion of other people's pets, but when they are putting their butt where my kid's head will be sleeping, that is where I draw the line.

OP, you are completely within your bounds to say no dog. It doesn't matter how big your house is if the dog is always going to be around people.

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Anonymous wrote:It is cruel to board a dog period. It has nothing to do with Christmas.

More cruel than transporting it to a strange place with limited areas for it to move around and the commotion of 11 extra people and expecting that not to stress an animal?

Oh and by the way . . . the dog has no idea it's Christmas.

Correct. That is why it has nothing to do with Christmas. If you care so much about this dog, pay for a dog sitter.

My dog is fine as long as he is with me. Boarding him is cruel. It stresses the dogs out immensely.

You sound like the kind of person who also has a house full of cats and no other family members (aka spouse and kids) its all bout you alone and your pets...creepy how you equate pets with humans.

OP its YOUR house, YOUR rules. Period. She was very nervy to assume that she could bring a pet goldfish much less a huge dog!

Ha ha. Husband and kids. Plus a dog. And I don't equate my dog with a human. But I also don't have fussy relatives, thank god. You all sound like so much fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister in law insisted upon bringing her dog much to my husbands and I's dismay and he ended up being so stressed by the new environment that he pee'd on my husbands brand new Persian rug in his office (6k) To this day despite many attempts the stain and reminder of that horrible incident remain. NEVER AGAIN.

What is I's dismay?

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Anonymous wrote:It is cruel to board a dog period. It has nothing to do with Christmas.

And this is why I don't own dogs. I also think its cruel to leave a dog alone all day while you go to work, but I see people do it all the time. Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:It is cruel to board a dog period. It has nothing to do with Christmas.

And this is why I don't own dogs. I also think its cruel to leave a dog alone all day while you go to work, but I see people do it all the time. Sad.

I agree. When I worked, my dog went to daycare and we had a dog walker.

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Some people don't have the lifestyles to handle dogs on a permanent basis but dogless friends or neighbors kids are often willing to help particularly over the holidays.

When I first started working we would "borrow" a friend's dog over the holidays while they went to Ohio. It was great. They didn't have to travel with the dog and we appreciated having "Rover" as part of the family. Too busy to do this now but I think it would appeal to some younger professionals who take time off over the holidays.

I say this as it was on my terms. I would absolutely hate it if I had guests and they wanted their dog to come with them.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister in law insisted upon bringing her dog much to my husbands and I's dismay and he ended up being so stressed by the new environment that he pee'd on my husbands brand new Persian rug in his office (6k) To this day despite many attempts the stain and reminder of that horrible incident remain. NEVER AGAIN.

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Are you the spelling police? I get what she said- let me guess your the same person who think dogs understand Christmas- haha

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is there a place near your house where she can board the dog? That way the dog comes along, maybe can come to your house for a couple of hrs or the family can visit the dog and take it for a walk throughout the day, but then it has a place to go that's away from your house and all the chaos.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister in law insisted upon bringing her dog much to my husbands and I's dismay and he ended up being so stressed by the new environment that he pee'd on my husbands brand new Persian rug in his office (6k) To this day despite many attempts the stain and reminder of that horrible incident remain. NEVER AGAIN.

What is I's dismay?

Are you the spelling police? I get what she said- let me guess your the same person who think dogs understand Christmas- haha

It's not spelling. It's halfway decent grammar police. They need to visit your house too.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised by all these people saying they don't allow dogs. I agree that OP should say no if she doesn't want dogs visiting, but I haven't encountered anyone who didn't want my dog visiting. All of our parents, grandparents and siblings welcome my dog.

Are you sure or are they just not telling you?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a small well behaved dog who travels with me and comes to relatives homes. I'm very sensitive to the fact that others don't like dogs, but I would never board him. I simply just don't stay with family who doesn't like/allow dogs. I think you'd need to make a choice- sister and dog or no sister for the holidays. Dogs are a part of many people's families and it's pretty cruel IMO to board a dog over Christmas. Besides, children love being with their pets over Christmas.

Is their dog bad? You didn't imply that it was a bad dog and you already own a dog, so how much work could one more dog be?

Sister needs to stay at a dog friendly hotel.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister in law insisted upon bringing her dog much to my husbands and I's dismay and he ended up being so stressed by the new environment that he pee'd on my husbands brand new Persian rug in his office (6k) To this day despite many attempts the stain and reminder of that horrible incident remain. NEVER AGAIN.

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Are you the spelling police? I get what she said- let me guess your the same person who think dogs understand Christmas- haha

You are = you're
Your = possessive

This is not spelling, either.

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What about allowing the dog but requiring that it go to daycare during the day? It will get the dog out of the house during the day and it will be very tired at night.

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I do take my dog with me. If he can't go/stay, neither do we. We used to board him with no issues. However, he is now old and has some health issues, and the vet said no more shots. No more shots = no kennel.

We have stayed home when we couldn't take him and had nobody to watch him. (FWIW, we trade dog sitting with friends when we need to. If they aren't available we don't go away)

OP, it's your home. Tell her no dog. She will have to understand.