Rudeness to Waiter Deal Breaker

[Anonymous]

You can change him, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP. You just got a unanimous vote to dump the loser, and you decide to keep dating the loser? You are in for a roller coaster, my dear. I feel sorry for you. He now knows he can disrespect you in public for some trivial bs. Well, I wish you all the best. You will surely need it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, dealbreaker.

Of course. 1- he's dumb. Who yells at somebody who is managing your food. I hope you didn't share a plate.
2- he yelled at you-

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can change him, OP.

Yes. Yes you can.
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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I had almost a week to process what happened. We are from a "loud" culture so yelling isn't a deal breaker. Treating a customer service person badly is a big red flag. I added a big tip (from his wallet) so I do think he understands he crossed the line and he apologized to me. I think I will watch us very carefully but this alone will not make me end it with him.

He gives you his wallet after a couple of months of dating?

I'd lose respect for someone who yelled at a waiter. He threw a temper tantrum in public, for a bullshit reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I had almost a week to process what happened. We are from a "loud" culture so yelling isn't a deal breaker. Treating a customer service person badly is a big red flag. I added a big tip (from his wallet) so I do think he understands he crossed the line and he apologized to me. I think I will watch us very carefully but this alone will not make me end it with him.

He gives you his wallet after a couple of months of dating?

I'd lose respect for someone who yelled at a waiter. He threw a temper tantrum in public, for a bullshit reason.

yes I have access to his wallet. he also gave me a set of keys to his house and his Mercedes Benz. I know it was a stupid temper tantrum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I had almost a week to process what happened. We are from a "loud" culture so yelling isn't a deal breaker. Treating a customer service person badly is a big red flag. I added a big tip (from his wallet) so I do think he understands he crossed the line and he apologized to me. I think I will watch us very carefully but this alone will not make me end it with him.

He gives you his wallet after a couple of months of dating?

I'd lose respect for someone who yelled at a waiter. He threw a temper tantrum in public, for a bullshit reason.

yes I have access to his wallet. he also gave me a set of keys to his house and his Mercedes Benz. I know it was a stupid temper tantrum

His house and his Mercedes Benz are his traps, OP. And the fact that you said "Mercedes Benz" instead of "car" means you are falling into them.

[Anonymous]

Falling into the trap? I'd say running. With eyes wide open. Some will put up with a lot for a money. But why even post?

[Anonymous]

Mercedes is shorthand for car we always say Mercedesike we say Beemer or whatever. autocorrect made its a Mercedes Benz I don't think it's a big deal. but angry childish man to yell at waiter

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Classic "Don't Ask a Question You Don't Want the Answer To" issue.

I do want to see your answers! My life, my choice but I do consider other peoples' responses. Like I said, I will go forward very cautiously.

It is quite a rare feat to get a unanimous response. Seriously, in all the posts there is rarely a time when posters come together to unite in one answer. This is one of those threads. Do not dismiss the calls to RUN for the hills. But then again, I bet you think you're one of those special people that will be able to change him. Yeah, that's it.

Oh ok, back into the dating pool I go. Who's going to date me now?

Is this you, OP? You think this jerk is your only option? Why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I had almost a week to process what happened. We are from a "loud" culture so yelling isn't a deal breaker. Treating a customer service person badly is a big red flag. I added a big tip (from his wallet) so I do think he understands he crossed the line and he apologized to me. I think I will watch us very carefully but this alone will not make me end it with him.

He gives you his wallet after a couple of months of dating?

I'd lose respect for someone who yelled at a waiter. He threw a temper tantrum in public, for a bullshit reason.

yes I have access to his wallet. he also gave me a set of keys to his house and his Mercedes Benz. I know it was a stupid temper tantrum

But, does he let you have access to the Porsche? A guy who only lets you drive the Mercedes is an asshole. Does he at least equally share the unicorn?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been dating a fellow for a couple of months. Last week he yelled at a waiter and got easily frustrated over a failure to get his order exactly right. When I tried to calm him down, he yelled at me too. And was petulant all evening. I left a 25% tip to the poor waiter. I went home instead of staying the night as I usually do. Is this a deal breaker? He is 39, never been married. I'm a 31 year old divorcee.

Not necessarily. I yell a lot. I'm female. DH works with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I had almost a week to process what happened. We are from a "loud" culture so yelling isn't a deal breaker. Treating a customer service person badly is a big red flag. I added a big tip (from his wallet) so I do think he understands he crossed the line and he apologized to me. I think I will watch us very carefully but this alone will not make me end it with him.

He gives you his wallet after a couple of months of dating?

I'd lose respect for someone who yelled at a waiter. He threw a temper tantrum in public, for a bullshit reason.

yes I have access to his wallet. he also gave me a set of keys to his house and his Mercedes Benz. I know it was a stupid temper tantrum

Hahahahahahaha! His Mercedes benz! Hahahahahahahaha! Your answer tells a lot about you. I think you are a perfect match.

[Anonymous]

Try dating outside your loud, materialistic culture. Opening up the dating pool will increase your chances of finding a nice, respectful guy.

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Anonymous wrote:You can change him, OP.

Yes. Yes you can.
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Perfect.

OP - I was sympathetic. Then I was concerned. Now I don't care. If you don't stay with this idiot you'll just go find another one just like him.