Rudeness to Waiter Deal Breaker

[Anonymous]

I've been dating a fellow for a couple of months. Last week he yelled at a waiter and got easily frustrated over a failure to get his order exactly right. When I tried to calm him down, he yelled at me too. And was petulant all evening. I left a 25% tip to the poor waiter. I went home instead of staying the night as I usually do. Is this a deal breaker? He is 39, never been married. I'm a 31 year old divorcee.

[Anonymous]

Yes, dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been dating a fellow for a couple of months. Last week he yelled at a waiter and got easily frustrated over a failure to get his order exactly right. When I tried to calm him down, he yelled at me too. And was petulant all evening. I left a 25% tip to the poor waiter. I went home instead of staying the night as I usually do. Is this a deal breaker? He is 39, never been married. I'm a 31 year old divorcee.

Deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

Oh hell yes. Why would you want to be with someone who yelled at "you?"

But to answer the question directly, I would never respect a man who treated any other human being like that and would not voluntarily be near him, much less sleep with him.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Huge deal breaker. I went 3rd date with this guy to a really nice restaurant. He treated the waitstaff like they were his personal servants. I should have ended the date when he started snapping his fingers at the waiter, but I stupidly had a drink at a nice bar with him after. After he repeatedly yelled "sweetheart" to the waitress to get her attention, I high tailed it out of there. UGH.

[Anonymous]

It would be for me. When someone shows you who they are...believe them. Oprah said that so it must be true

[Anonymous]

Run - this is a huge red flag. Especially since he yelled at you too. Not worth it.

[Anonymous]

A new date is typically going to be on his/her best behavior for a couple of months. If this is how he behaves right off the bat, what's in store later? People eventually will treat you as well or as badly as they treat others, so it's always important to pay attention to how they treat people that "don't matter."

Definite dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

I have the same problem, except the douchebag is my mom.

Run.

[Anonymous]

Runnnnnn! Don't listen to any excuses he gives you because there are NONE.

[Anonymous]

Deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

Do people really act that way towards waitstaff? I guess the people I go out and dine with aren't the type...

[Anonymous]

Absolute dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Runnnnnn! Don't listen to any excuses he gives you because there are NONE.

This.