My ex is an ass!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes it's a paid session 8 weeks so it's not pay as you go. He was my ex partner (boyfriend) for 7 years. He just thinks he controls everything and what he says goes this is why we aren't together and I declined his proposal.

So you never bothered to marry this "partner" of yours, after 7 years, and yet you went ahead and had a child with him. And now of course, you're separated, because "he is an ass." (your words) Yet you still think you have control over him, and his time with HIS child.

You sound like a real winner, OP. Please do yourself and your daughter a favor and get some therapy.

+1 OP is an ass. And all of the smart ass comments like "Duh", etc... reflect that. OP, funny how you're a genius now, but you didn't flex any of that cerebral prowess when you making stupid decisions like having a kid out of wedlock with an "ass". He may be an ass, but you've one-upped him by being a dumb ass!

I'm confused as to how op is a dumbass. Some if you are ridiculous with your comments. And the wedlock? Get over it. I know it's the norm here to be in unhappy marriages and just deal with it until kids are adults and cheat on the side, but we don't all want to live that way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm with you 100%, OP. I'm betting that the vast majority of those jumping on you are people who have not walked in these shoes. I thank you for this thread. I am divorcing now and had not considered what would happen when an activity falls on his weekend. I've added that to my very long list of things to include in the divorce agreement or decree.

Things to include in your divorce decree:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/190333.page

Thank you! That thread (and the one linked in there from a different site) is the reason my list is so long .

[Anonymous]

Divorced parent here.

OP, I 100% understand your annoyance. I also agree with the PP's who say that you should pick your parenting fights. As parents, you guys have a long road together. There will be many important decisions that will be made regarding DD. Just remember that DD is not "turf" to be defended. She has the right to have two parents who can communicate and who value their relationship with her.

Right now, I get the sense that feelings are still raw on both sides. Once things calm down, it is perfectly reasonable for y'all to have a conversation that sets forth expectation on both sides, including that DD will not be used to "get back" at each other.

In my case, this conversation happened about 6 months after the divorce was final and BOTH of us were in the wrong.

GL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes it's a paid session 8 weeks so it's not pay as you go. He was my ex partner (boyfriend) for 7 years. He just thinks he controls everything and what he says goes this is why we aren't together and I declined his proposal.

So you never bothered to marry this "partner" of yours, after 7 years, and yet you went ahead and had a child with him. And now of course, you're separated, because "he is an ass." (your words) Yet you still think you have control over him, and his time with HIS child.

You sound like a real winner, OP. Please do yourself and your daughter a favor and get some therapy.

+1 OP is an ass. And all of the smart ass comments like "Duh", etc... reflect that. OP, funny how you're a genius now, but you didn't flex any of that cerebral prowess when you making stupid decisions like having a kid out of wedlock with an "ass". He may be an ass, but you've one-upped him by being a dumb ass!

And my wedlock child is loved by both of her parents who are actively involved in her life. I"m sure your "marriage" if you are in one is just peaches and cream. Marriage does not dictate a child's future so you move on bitter dumb ass hater.

[Anonymous]

Ass