What kind of invitation is this anyways?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, some of you people are assholes.

Ooooooh, bring meat and a chair. SUCH a first-world problem. Only wealthy east coasters would be so fucking uptight as to view this as a dilemma worthy of an internet lynching.

I think we found OP's "friend". Hey- word to the wise, when you invite people over you do not ask them to bring their entire f-ing kitchens with me idiot.

Not the OP's friend; I live nowhere near the East Coast.

If your definition of your "entire f-ing kitchen" consists of meat and a chair, God help you.

Oh I guess they do not teach you to read where you live but the OP said it was meat, salad and/ or dessert as drinks. So yeah its basically the entire F-ing kitchen. And as another pp said, stop being such an old hag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, some of you people are assholes.

Ooooooh, bring meat and a chair. SUCH a first-world problem. Only wealthy east coasters would be so fucking uptight as to view this as a dilemma worthy of an internet lynching.

Oh, get your head out of your ass. We''re just having some fun. Only a yokel would take this so seriously.

That's kind of cute, but I don't buy it. Don't try to backpedal, it won't work. Some people actually are so uptight that they think an invite like this is an unforgivable sin. I'm glad I don't know any people who would be so anal.

Tell you what, go to the party and bring a great big scarlet "A" to hang around the host's neck. That'll teach 'em.

And some people think, "Hey, here's a goofy invitation! I think I'll post about it on DCUM."

"Goofy"? I honestly don't get this. It's not upper-crust material, but here's a shocker: a lot of people with limited means manage to live deeply-fulfilled lives surrounded by good and loyal friends who would think nothing at all about being asked to stop by to socialize without assuming they will be treated like royalty. And without getting their panties in a twist because they get to participate in the process of everyone having an evening to remember.

I knew it! This was inevitable that this poster would try and rear it's ugly head by bringing class into this innocuous thread! Now, watch how she will turn this into something totally unwarranted.

This thread isn't about classism. Don't go there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, some of you people are assholes.

Ooooooh, bring meat and a chair. SUCH a first-world problem. Only wealthy east coasters would be so fucking uptight as to view this as a dilemma worthy of an internet lynching.

Oh, get your head out of your ass. We''re just having some fun. Only a yokel would take this so seriously.

That's kind of cute, but I don't buy it. Don't try to backpedal, it won't work. Some people actually are so uptight that they think an invite like this is an unforgivable sin. I'm glad I don't know any people who would be so anal.

Tell you what, go to the party and bring a great big scarlet "A" to hang around the host's neck. That'll teach 'em.

And some people think, "Hey, here's a goofy invitation! I think I'll post about it on DCUM."

"Goofy"? I honestly don't get this. It's not upper-crust material, but here's a shocker: a lot of people with limited means manage to live deeply-fulfilled lives surrounded by good and loyal friends who would think nothing at all about being asked to stop by to socialize without assuming they will be treated like royalty. And without getting their panties in a twist because they get to participate in the process of everyone having an evening to remember.

Expecting that the host of the party involving food and drink will provide a meaningful part of the food and drink, as well as something to sit on, is "assuming they will be treated like royalty"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, some of you people are assholes.

Ooooooh, bring meat and a chair. SUCH a first-world problem. Only wealthy east coasters would be so fucking uptight as to view this as a dilemma worthy of an internet lynching.

Oh, get your head out of your ass. We''re just having some fun. Only a yokel would take this so seriously.

That's kind of cute, but I don't buy it. Don't try to backpedal, it won't work. Some people actually are so uptight that they think an invite like this is an unforgivable sin. I'm glad I don't know any people who would be so anal.

Tell you what, go to the party and bring a great big scarlet "A" to hang around the host's neck. That'll teach 'em.

And some people think, "Hey, here's a goofy invitation! I think I'll post about it on DCUM."

"Goofy"? I honestly don't get this. It's not upper-crust material, but here's a shocker: a lot of people with limited means manage to live deeply-fulfilled lives surrounded by good and loyal friends who would think nothing at all about being asked to stop by to socialize without assuming they will be treated like royalty. And without getting their panties in a twist because they get to participate in the process of everyone having an evening to remember.

I knew it! This was inevitable that this poster would try and rear it's ugly head by bringing class into this innocuous thread! Now, watch how she will turn this into something totally unwarranted.

This thread isn't about classism. Don't go there.

Agree. If this is the same poster, I've seen this happen repeatedly on other threads how a general topic is turned into an ugly debate on haves and have nots. I also hope this doesn't happen here. This thread was fun for awhile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, some of you people are assholes.

Ooooooh, bring meat and a chair. SUCH a first-world problem. Only wealthy east coasters would be so fucking uptight as to view this as a dilemma worthy of an internet lynching.

Oh, get your head out of your ass. We''re just having some fun. Only a yokel would take this so seriously.

That's kind of cute, but I don't buy it. Don't try to backpedal, it won't work. Some people actually are so uptight that they think an invite like this is an unforgivable sin. I'm glad I don't know any people who would be so anal.

Tell you what, go to the party and bring a great big scarlet "A" to hang around the host's neck. That'll teach 'em.

Please, you're the one being anal. No one thinks it's an unforgiveable sin but real class says since you're bringing all the stuff to our house and need to cook it yourself, we're going to provide desserts for the effort! Now, that's a class invite.

+10,000. With an invite like that, I would attend. It tells me that since you're going to lug everything to our house including a chair, we're going to sweeten the pot a little (pun intended). Now, that's classy!

[Anonymous]

Okay, so the invitation sounds tacky BUT

Why are pot lucks at someone's home okay but something like this not? What's the difference?

[Anonymous]

OP here - I agree if it was just bring a dessert OR salad OR drinks, I would have been so insulted, but the whole bring meat or fish to grill (the invite said "We will have SOME fish fillets on hand") and dessert/salad and BYOB and CHAIRS...plus the kicker for me was...If it rains, it is cancelled. To me, this was a big sign that "No one is allowed in the house!"

By the way, I have never been to their house before, but she has been to my house about 5 times for playdates (not BBQs, but playdates with snacks and I was very welcoming)

[Anonymous]

* would NOT have been

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - is there anyway for me to point this out to her without hurting her feelings???

She and her husband are in their 40's and have two kids ages 8 and 12.

Oh dear.

I would have thought just out of college.

Is it a block party perhaps?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, so the invitation sounds tacky BUT

Why are pot lucks at someone's home okay but something like this not? What's the difference?

Because when the guests are supposed to supply their own meat or fish AND salad or dessert AND beer AND chairs, what's the host supplying? A yard, and themselves to talk to?

[Anonymous]

OP here - I must be wearing a sign that says KICK ME because I am just remembering a Thanksgiving Dinner I was invited to once where the hostess seriously asked me to pay for 1/2 of the store-bought complete meal and I actually had to hand her a check when we arrived PLUS I brought other food (pies I think) and wine. Our friendship was never the same after that. It wasn't until later that I really thought about how mean that was. She had said, please come for Thanksgving but I don't have a lot of time to get ready and I told her about the store bought meal and she said, oh, do you want to go in on that with us?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, so the invitation sounds tacky BUT

Why are pot lucks at someone's home okay but something like this not? What's the difference?

Pot luck is usually one dish already prepared. However, I guess if you did not want to grill or feel like cooking beforehand, you could bring some KFC. I think the invite should have just read pot luck, period. It would have made all the difference in the world on that invite. I think the host could at least provide drinks and not necessarily booze. A 24-bottle package of non-brand bottled water is only $3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I must be wearing a sign that says KICK ME because I am just remembering a Thanksgiving Dinner I was invited to once where the hostess seriously asked me to pay for 1/2 of the store-bought complete meal and I actually had to hand her a check when we arrived PLUS I brought other food (pies I think) and wine. Our friendship was never the same after that. It wasn't until later that I really thought about how mean that was. She had said, please come for Thanksgving but I don't have a lot of time to get ready and I told her about the store bought meal and she said, oh, do you want to go in on that with us?

Yikes, OP! You've got some unusual friends there, my friend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, so the invitation sounds tacky BUT

Why are pot lucks at someone's home okay but something like this not? What's the difference?

Pot luck is usually one dish already prepared. However, I guess if you did not want to grill or feel like cooking beforehand, you could bring some KFC. I think the invite should have just read pot luck, period. It would have made all the difference in the world on that invite. I think the host could at least provide drinks and not necessarily booze. A 24-bottle package of non-brand bottled water is only $3.

And that's a ridiculously overpriced Whole Foods and at Costco, CVS, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, so the invitation sounds tacky BUT

Why are pot lucks at someone's home okay but something like this not? What's the difference?

Pot luck is usually one dish already prepared. However, I guess if you did not want to grill or feel like cooking beforehand, you could bring some KFC. I think the invite should have just read pot luck, period. It would have made all the difference in the world on that invite. I think the host could at least provide drinks and not necessarily booze. A 24-bottle package of non-brand bottled water is only $3.

And that's a ridiculously overpriced Whole Foods and at Costco, CVS, etc.

*at* Whole Foods.