Mother of slain children - pregnant

[Anonymous]

Is it a single poster posting all those nasty comments?

This couple lost two children in tragic circumstances and were in the news all over the country. I understand DCUM is judgement central but can we just lay off this couple? We never know how we would deal with crushing grief until we are there. Lets just be thankful none of us posters are in that situation.

How they deal with their lives in none of our business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is totally common. My great-grandmother lost 9 children to illness, all within the span of a week. She had three more after that, and that is why I am here today.

Ok. Are you from the Ozarks? Or Utah? Or the 1930's dust bowl?

Nope. This was a foreign country. Their standard of living and medical technology was probably 30 years or so behind America at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is like a treatise on Humanae Vitae.

Until a couple generations ago, sex was universally understood as being unitive and possibly procreative. Everyone knew that children could result from sex, which was supposed to be an act of love.

Now that procreation has been so thoroughly removed from sex, children are a commodity, a means to an end. You CHOOSE to ACQUIRE a child for some purpose, rather than just opening yourself up to the possibility of new life.

Maybe this couple simply loves one another, and a result of their love is children.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

I don't think is is strange at all. Especially since her children are young and she is clearly still in "child bearing years."

Is is actually the only reservation I have about DH's vasectomy that's coming up in a few weeks. I am 100% content with my family size as-is, but God forbid something were to happen to any of my children, I'm almost sure I'd want at least 1 more.

[Anonymous]

This takes the cake. How is the fact that this couple is having another child even remotely controversial?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor got pregant when her 2-year-old daughter was in the final stages of a brain tumor. She was 4 months pregnant when her daughter passed away. While I can't imagine wanting to have sex while going through a traumatic experience (death of a child, terminal illness of a child, etc), I don't think anyone can say for sure how they would react until it happens to them.

I totally agree. I couldn't imagine even trying to sleep with the horrific scene that Marina Krim saw. I personally would have no interest in getting naked so soon afterward. The grief would be too much. She got pregnant very soon afterwards.

I think it's great they want more children. I don't judge them on that.
Personally, when dealing with grief, I don't want to be having fun in the bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor got pregant when her 2-year-old daughter was in the final stages of a brain tumor. She was 4 months pregnant when her daughter passed away. While I can't imagine wanting to have sex while going through a traumatic experience (death of a child, terminal illness of a child, etc), I don't think anyone can say for sure how they would react until it happens to them.

I totally agree. I couldn't imagine even trying to sleep with the horrific scene that Marina Krim saw. I personally would have no interest in getting naked so soon afterward. The grief would be too much. She got pregnant very soon afterwards.

I think it's great they want more children. I don't judge them on that.
Personally, when dealing with grief, I don't want to be having fun in the bedroom.

STFU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor got pregant when her 2-year-old daughter was in the final stages of a brain tumor. She was 4 months pregnant when her daughter passed away. While I can't imagine wanting to have sex while going through a traumatic experience (death of a child, terminal illness of a child, etc), I don't think anyone can say for sure how they would react until it happens to them.

I totally agree. I couldn't imagine even trying to sleep with the horrific scene that Marina Krim saw. I personally would have no interest in getting naked so soon afterward. The grief would be too much. She got pregnant very soon afterwards.

I think it's great they want more children. I don't judge them on that.
Personally, when dealing with grief, I don't want to be having fun in the bedroom.

"having fun in the bedroom"? You are very simplistic in your thinking, so much so that I don't have the energy to share a different perspective with you.

[Anonymous]

What could be more life affirming than having another child, and what a wonderful experience for their surviving child, to have a baby arrive. How can any one of you know how you'd feel if you were in their shoes? I can't begin to know. Some people survive by building new lives. It's beautiful that they were young and healthy enough to make another human being. I wish them well.

[Anonymous]

Not the same but Jennifer Hudson got pregnant soon after her family tragedy, right?

[Anonymous]

This has changed my opinion of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has changed my opinion of her.

You are creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd. Like replacing something that clearly not be replaced.

Are you a parent?
If I lost 2 children, I would want to have another child. I don't think it's odd.

Yes, I am a parent. I could not imagine explaining to the child conceived out of tragedy that the only reason s/he exists is due to the deaths of other children. IMO it doesn't honor the memory of the dead. It's a bandaid for incredible pain and puts a child in a position, to be seen as 'replacement.'

My parents had a stillborn and my older sibling was born 17 months later. My sibling and I have never thought we were 'replacement' children. For my mom though, it was healing for her to go on and have healthy children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was IVF, no sex with that.

You dont really believe that stupidity do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is an attention whore.

Yes she is and it's all about her.