Mother of slain children - pregnant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor got pregant when her 2-year-old daughter was in the final stages of a brain tumor. She was 4 months pregnant when her daughter passed away. While I can't imagine wanting to have sex while going through a traumatic experience (death of a child, terminal illness of a child, etc), I don't think anyone can say for sure how they would react until it happens to them.

I totally agree. I couldn't imagine even trying to sleep with the horrific scene that Marina Krim saw. I personally would have no interest in getting naked so soon afterward. The grief would be too much. She got pregnant very soon afterwards.

I think it's great they want more children. I don't judge them on that.
Personally, when dealing with grief, I don't want to be having fun in the bedroom.

What is so sacrilegious about nakedness and sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What could be more life affirming than having another child, and what a wonderful experience for their surviving child, to have a baby arrive. How can any one of you know how you'd feel if you were in their shoes? I can't begin to know. Some people survive by building new lives. It's beautiful that they were young and healthy enough to make another human being. I wish them well.

Yes, every baby brings joy to the parents and new hope for humanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So if my husband was brutally murdered by a nanny it would be ok for me to get remarried within a year?

Ha? How? Random guy off the street?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it was 2 years later I wouldnt think twice about it.
I just can't believe she was into getting randy within just a couple of months after the brutal murders of her children.

She must be divorced from her feelings or avoiding them.

Also, I don't blame her at all for leaving her kids with a nanny. I am disgusted by people who blame her for that. However I would think she would maybe blame herself as most people in her situation do. I would think that alone would make her not want to have so much sex.

Couple months?

Do the math, they were murdered end of Oct.
She is due in the fall, which could be Sept and which would mean 2 months after. Oct would be about 3 months after. You ge the idea. Hey announced it mid May, but I bet she was 3-4 months when they announced it. I am sure they waited until things were "safe" to announce.

Actually they also announced she's having a boy. That is a minimum of 4 months, more likely at least 5 months, so yeah.

You are really out of touch with modern science.
CVS or M21 - you can find out the sex in the first trimester.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously, I never lost any children but I have lost loved ones unexpectedly. I was unable to sleep for months. I was down, not clinically depressed though. I just can't imagine wanting sex while my kids were newly dead. I would be too disturbed for that.

Why don't you tell us how you feel when your child dies. When my child died, I wanted to get pregnant ASAP and did and it was the best thing that ever happened to us.

This was posted multiple pages back. But, in typical DCUM fashion, we have to keep judging and speculating and slamming Mrs. Krim rather than listening to somebody who ACTUALLY KNOWS WHAT SHE IS TALKING ABOUT!

Thank you, PP, for sharing this perspective. I am so sorry to hear about your loss, and I sort of hope you are not still reading this thread because it is cruel and crazy town.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I lost a child in a tragedy like that, I don't think I could ever attempt to "replace" him/her.

That's what they're doing.

never a fan of hers to begin with, however

What do you mean you were never a fan of hers? She is a mom whose kids were brutally murdered .... what on earth do you judge her for? Some of you people are souless and crazy.

I 100% agree with PP. Just stunning, the criticism and condemnation of a woman who's responded to horrible trauma in an admirable and courageous way.

[Anonymous]

Yes, please let the poor family live THEIR life, and let this thread die.

[Anonymous]

Let's end this appalling thread, please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it was 2 years later I wouldnt think twice about it.
I just can't believe she was into getting randy within just a couple of months after the brutal murders of her children.

She must be divorced from her feelings or avoiding them.

Also, I don't blame her at all for leaving her kids with a nanny. I am disgusted by people who blame her for that. However I would think she would maybe blame herself as most people in her situation do. I would think that alone would make her not want to have so much sex.

Couple months?

Do the math, they were murdered end of Oct.
She is due in the fall, which could be Sept and which would mean 2 months after. Oct would be about 3 months after. You ge the idea. Hey announced it mid May, but I bet she was 3-4 months when they announced it. I am sure they waited until things were "safe" to announce.

So they were doing it even sooner than to months, holy moly.
Actually they also announced she's having a boy. That is a minimum of 4 months, more likely at least 5 months, so yeah.

[Anonymous]

i am sure the previous posters crazy and inhumane judgments are the least of ms. krimm's worries or concerns. so y'all should just stuff it. here is a woman who lost the most precious things in her life. she is surviving, as humans are built to do. all other opinions are a waste of hot space. i feel sorry for you guys. you are so out of touch with reality and basic decency.

all the best to the krimm family.

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting Jeff hasn't deleted this thread yet.

When the NY mom aborted her baby at 33 weeks and died from complications a couple days later, Jeff deleted a thread where people made similar off-base judgments about her. At least that thread had a different overall topic--this one seems to have been created specifically so people could make bizarre, cruel comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting Jeff hasn't deleted this thread yet.

When the NY mom aborted her baby at 33 weeks and died from complications a couple days later, Jeff deleted a thread where people made similar off-base judgments about her. At least that thread had a different overall topic--this one seems to have been created specifically so people could make bizarre, cruel comments.

Did you report the thread and ask that it be deleted?

[Anonymous]

Why delete the thread?
Nothing crossed the line.
You just don't like the others have different opinions.
Or that they are surprised that mom who saw two of her children dead, stabbed to death in a bathtub was in the mood for having sex just two months after the atrocity.

[takoma]

I just came upon this thread and do not feel like going back through all eight pages, but I want to add my voice to those who pointed out that sex can be loving, tender, and healing.

On another point. I am constantly amazed at which topics turn out to go on for pages. I would have thought this would get a couple of "I'm glad for her" postings and peter out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting Jeff hasn't deleted this thread yet.

When the NY mom aborted her baby at 33 weeks and died from complications a couple days later, Jeff deleted a thread where people made similar off-base judgments about her. At least that thread had a different overall topic--this one seems to have been created specifically so people could make bizarre, cruel comments.

Did you report the thread and ask that it be deleted?

No. I disagreed with him deleting the other thread. I just wonder why he deleted that thread, and not this one.