Manners...ever feel like your are out of date?

[Anonymous]

PP here - just need to clarify. My friends and family don't call me "Dr", I meant the "hey" part is okay.

[Anonymous]

hey, Krystal, WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does "that sucks" actually mean?

Well, now it's used casually to mean that something is awful, but when I was a teen in the 80's, if something was really bad, people would say 'that sucks di*k', so that's what I've always thought of when someone says it.

Yes, this is the etymology of "that sucks."

[Anonymous]

Wassup? that is What's up? New greeting and people are so proud of it, but really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree about "no problem" replacing "you're welcome."

Using cell phones to text while having a meal with me or someone else. Seems to be no big deal among most of my younger coworkers.

Sitting on couches with feet up on coffee tables, or curling legs under oneself while sitting. I do this in my home with my family, but would never dream of doing so in the company of others.

Using the word "suck" or "sucks" and not feeling it's crude or inappropriate. I was raised to consider this almost a swear word, but I don't think younger people tend to view it that way anymore.

For the record, I'm in my early 50s.

I agree with all of this and would only add that table manners don't seem to exist much anymore.

Like you, I am in my early 50's.

In my 40s, and I agree with all PP's comments, but will add that I think table manners are going by the wayside, at least in this area, in part because if you live in DC, in a condo, with a child/children, it's often hard to find space for everything, and lots of parents (myself included) give up the dining table.

This is how my household has been set up previously, and I've been trolling craiglist the last few weeks trying to find a good table/set of chairs, as I'm realizing my 3-yr old DD doesn't have table manners in part because of our casual eating environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree about "no problem" replacing "you're welcome."

Using cell phones to text while having a meal with me or someone else. Seems to be no big deal among most of my younger coworkers.

Sitting on couches with feet up on coffee tables, or curling legs under oneself while sitting. I do this in my home with my family, but would never dream of doing so in the company of others.

Using the word "suck" or "sucks" and not feeling it's crude or inappropriate. I was raised to consider this almost a swear word, but I don't think younger people tend to view it that way anymore.

For the record, I'm in my early 50s.

I agree with all of this and would only add that table manners don't seem to exist much anymore.

Like you, I am in my early 50's.

In my 40s, and I agree with all PP's comments, but will add that I think table manners are going by the wayside, at least in this area, in part because if you live in DC, in a condo, with a child/children, it's often hard to find space for everything, and lots of parents (myself included) give up the dining table.

This is how my household has been set up previously, and I've been trolling craiglist the last few weeks trying to find a good table/set of chairs, as I'm realizing my 3-yr old DD doesn't have table manners in part because of our casual eating environment.

PP here, meaning, she doesn't know how to set the table, fold her napkin, which utensils to use, etc, not that she spits food on the table or anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree about "no problem" replacing "you're welcome."

Using cell phones to text while having a meal with me or someone else. Seems to be no big deal among most of my younger coworkers.

Sitting on couches with feet up on coffee tables, or curling legs under oneself while sitting. I do this in my home with my family, but would never dream of doing so in the company of others.

Using the word "suck" or "sucks" and not feeling it's crude or inappropriate. I was raised to consider this almost a swear word, but I don't think younger people tend to view it that way anymore.

For the record, I'm in my early 50s.

I agree with all of this and would only add that table manners don't seem to exist much anymore.

Like you, I am in my early 50's.

In my 40s, and I agree with all PP's comments, but will add that I think table manners are going by the wayside, at least in this area, in part because if you live in DC, in a condo, with a child/children, it's often hard to find space for everything, and lots of parents (myself included) give up the dining table.

This is how my household has been set up previously, and I've been trolling craiglist the last few weeks trying to find a good table/set of chairs, as I'm realizing my 3-yr old DD doesn't have table manners in part because of our casual eating environment.

Where do you eat, if not at the table? I live in a condo, as do most of my friends, and of course we eat at the table!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree about "no problem" replacing "you're welcome."

Using cell phones to text while having a meal with me or someone else. Seems to be no big deal among most of my younger coworkers.

Sitting on couches with feet up on coffee tables, or curling legs under oneself while sitting. I do this in my home with my family, but would never dream of doing so in the company of others.

Using the word "suck" or "sucks" and not feeling it's crude or inappropriate. I was raised to consider this almost a swear word, but I don't think younger people tend to view it that way anymore.

For the record, I'm in my early 50s.

I agree with all of this and would only add that table manners don't seem to exist much anymore.

Like you, I am in my early 50's.

In my 40s, and I agree with all PP's comments, but will add that I think table manners are going by the wayside, at least in this area, in part because if you live in DC, in a condo, with a child/children, it's often hard to find space for everything, and lots of parents (myself included) give up the dining table.

This is how my household has been set up previously, and I've been trolling craiglist the last few weeks trying to find a good table/set of chairs, as I'm realizing my 3-yr old DD doesn't have table manners in part because of our casual eating environment.

Where do you eat, if not at the table? I live in a condo, as do most of my friends, and of course we eat at the table!

Large storage ottoman, on trays, sometimes picnic on the floor.

[Anonymous]

We eat on the couch. Scotch Guard!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a minor one, but wearing pantyhose seems out of date. I see younger women bare-legged even in cool weather. As alternatives, it seems most go with high boots, tights, or just pants instead of dresses or skirts.

I'm 47 and have pantyhose on today.

In your defense, PP, it's pretty chilly today.

I am 39 and I am wearing bare legs with heels and a pencil skirt today.

40, bare legs dress with boots. Don't tell my mother.

[Anonymous]

I think every older generation throughout history has been judgmental of how younger parents teach their children manners. This topic brings on the "when I was a kid" discussion! Remember that!

[Anonymous]

"I'm sorry to hear that" is like "I'm sorry you feel that way".
We could make if more human by saying, "wow, you must feel....."
Same thing "I'm sorry you feel that way". This expression reminds me of what a husband would say to his wide after she found out he was having an affair.
These things are age neutral.

[Anonymous]

When I am at the ATM, reading the prompts, and the last one is "I'm done!" We were taught that people are finished, roast is done.

Me too! My mother - "Cakes are done. Pies are done. Young ladies are finished."

I was raised by a very old south mother. I catch myself saying the same things o my children.

[Anonymous]

Dressing down at an expensive resort? Everytime I go to an expensive resort (+$350/day), I am amazed that the other people there, particularly young couples are dressed in their cargo shorts, t shirts, flip flops and the kids are in their destroyed jeans, T shirts. People do not dress up for anything anymore? Am I just very outdated?

[Anonymous]

You know what is weird? I have a friend that accuses a mutual friend of chewing with her mouth open. She also happens to accuse that same friend of having a drinking problem. Neither are true. People sure get weird and tell strange stories if they are jealous of someone.

The moral is: if someone tells you that someone else does not have this or that manner, or does this or that supposed bad thing, verify it for yourself before you accuse anyone.

THAT is good manners.