How do I pull us out of our sexless rut?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I could do more chores but I'm not sure that would automatically mean I'm getting some... I feel like it's weird that he's the one with the low drive and wanted to know if there are others like me out there. He does not seem to be into porn, I think he would rather sleep or watch sports or drink or something. Maybe he's not sexually attracted to me anymore. He says he is, but he could be just saying that to be nice. Fwiw I'm back to pre baby weight tho it's sitting a little differently. I would like to both spice things up by being the direct initiator, but I'd also like to "inspire" him to initiate too.

This was me and my husband and then it turned out he was an alcoholic. He's been sober for almost a year now and things are finally starting to turn around, though I'm still always the one initiating and get turned down more often than not. Just not every. single. time. And when he does take me up on it, he actually enjoys it rather than just doing it because I made him. Something to think about.

[Anonymous]

New poster here, and I honestly can't remember the last time my husband and I had sex. I have stopped initiating because it just makes me so depressed when he gives me the "i'm tired" sigh. Yeah, I know he's tired, he's in his mid-40s, he's overweight, he probably resents me for hundreds of reasons I'll never know because our communication is for shit, and I get that these things can kill a person's sex drive. But it is getting unbearable. Our daughter is 2 and I know the day she was conceived, and I can count on two hands the number of times we've had sex since then. Another poster said if she had the opportnity to cheat she would, and I am in the exact same boat. I don't want to go looking for a fling, but if one happened to cross my path I would cry for joy. This is kind of a shitty way to live, eh?

[Anonymous]

PP what do you look like??

[Anonymous]

meet me at the next intersection