Do more attractive women go into "less difficult" careers?

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Beauty fades. Dumb is forever.

True but dumb can be covered up by a combination of being articulate, having people skills and being popular. Works well for many.

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"True but dumb can be covered up by a combination of being articulate, having people skills and being popular. Works well for many."

So very true.

(Average looking person who is unable to magnify her pretty.)

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Anonymous wrote:"True but dumb can be covered up by a combination of being articulate, having people skills and being popular. Works well for many."

So very true.

(Average looking person who is unable to magnify her pretty.)

Being articulate requires some level of intelligence. You must read on a high level to gain vocabulary and use it well and properly. Otherwise, when you use "big words" in the wrong context, you just end up sounding like a dingbat.

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Plenty of beautiful women in my medical school class. Even more beautiful women at Duke Law school where I was doing additional training ( in the medical center) and where I had friends in the Law school. Bright women probably know that relying on their looks alone limits their choices in the long run and therefore chose to make use of their intelligence.

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of beautiful women in my medical school class. Even more beautiful women at Duke Law school where I was doing additional training ( in the medical center) and where I had friends in the Law school. Bright women probably know that relying on their looks alone limits their choices in the long run and therefore chose to make use of their intelligence.

I find this very, very difficult to believe.

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Anonymous wrote:There is an element of truth to it. Women who grow up "pretty" generally are socialized not to try as hard because their good looks directly and many times, in subtle ways opens doors for them.

In your "hard field", how many drop dead gorgeous women do you know or have you seen? I don't come across a lot in the legal field, and I work in BigLaw.

This is patently untrue. My sister and I were/are beauty queen level beautiful and our parents raised and treated us no differently than our brother. We all had to mow the lawn, etc. We were taught that we should never rely on a man to support us. Education and brains were valued. We also were all serious athletes as well. If you raise your girls right- you won't let "pretty" get in the way. The best compliment I've received is "she has no idea how beautiful she is".

And she's modest too, folks!

It's an anon board, freak.

She's also a really nice person who doesn't call people names.

Obviously you do, or else you wouldn't have used it as "evidence" to support your claim that ". . . you won't let pretty get in the way."

a bit of irony here, folks

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Anonymous wrote:"True but dumb can be covered up by a combination of being articulate, having people skills and being popular. Works well for many."

So very true.

(Average looking person who is unable to magnify her pretty.)

Being articulate requires some level of intelligence. You must read on a high level to gain vocabulary and use it well and properly. Otherwise, when you use "big words" in the wrong context, you just end up sounding like a dingbat.

Some people pick up on vocabulary quickly and mimic how it is used. It's like acting. Memorize but not necessarily absorb.

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Many of the most beautiful, thoughtful and well educated women I know are SAHMs. They matriculated at Ivy League universities, chose demanding career paths, married men with equal ambition and eventually chose to become head of household realizing that both partners can’t work 80 hour weeks and raise a family. These women truly amaze me.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the most beautiful, thoughtful and well educated women I know are SAHMs. They matriculated at Ivy League universities, chose demanding career paths, married men with equal ambition and eventually chose to become head of household realizing that both partners can’t work 80 hour weeks and raise a family. These women truly amaze me.

Why couldn't the men they married have chosen to become head of household and become SAHDs since both partners can't work 80 hour weeks and raise a family?

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the most beautiful, thoughtful and well educated women I know are SAHMs. They matriculated at Ivy League universities, chose demanding career paths, married men with equal ambition and eventually chose to become head of household realizing that both partners can’t work 80 hour weeks and raise a family. These women truly amaze me.

How are they more amazing than any other SAHM?

Does it take an Ivy degree to develop compassion and patience for raising a family?

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the most beautiful, thoughtful and well educated women I know are SAHMs. They matriculated at Ivy League universities, chose demanding career paths, married men with equal ambition and eventually chose to become head of household realizing that both partners can’t work 80 hour weeks and raise a family. These women truly amaze me.

How are they more amazing than any other SAHM?

Does it take an Ivy degree to develop compassion and patience for raising a family?

Why would they amaze you? Seems like they have choices that others don't. They don't seem amazing, they just seem fortunate.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the most beautiful, thoughtful and well educated women I know are SAHMs. They matriculated at Ivy League universities, chose demanding career paths, married men with equal ambition and eventually chose to become head of household realizing that both partners can’t work 80 hour weeks and raise a family. These women truly amaze me.

How are they more amazing than any other SAHM?

Does it take an Ivy degree to develop compassion and patience for raising a family?

Why would they amaze you? Seems like they have choices that others don't. They don't seem amazing, they just seem fortunate.

Maybe it is the Ivy League degrees that are amazing. Yes, that must be it.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the most beautiful, thoughtful and well educated women I know are SAHMs. They matriculated at Ivy League universities, chose demanding career paths, married men with equal ambition and eventually chose to become head of household realizing that both partners can’t work 80 hour weeks and raise a family. These women truly amaze me.

Why couldn't the men they married have chosen to become head of household and become SAHDs since both partners can't work 80 hour weeks and raise a family?

+1

b/c gender roles will never disappear

As women, we can claim that we're educated, that we once had a demanding career, that we made a good salary to support ourselves when we were single. But when marriage and children come along, we're the first to state that we're the better person to raise the kids and to run the household.

It's the rare husband/wife TEAM who will flip roles and be proud of the fact that this arragement is equitable.

And why should the Harvard grad earn more respect for staying home than the administrative assistant making 1/3 of her salary? FWIW, I would look at the Ivy grad and think, "huh . . . you spent hundreds of thousands on your degree and barely used it."

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Sure, the DH could have stayed at home - although less socially acceptable (let's be honest).

Why are these women more amazing to me? Because they were accepted and graduated from top-notch universities which I would presume means they have a passion for studying something above and beyond home econmics. These aren't women looking for paychecks. Sorry - ladies. Get annoyed with me. These women deserve a gold star.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the most beautiful, thoughtful and well educated women I know are SAHMs. They matriculated at Ivy League universities, chose demanding career paths, married men with equal ambition and eventually chose to become head of household realizing that both partners can’t work 80 hour weeks and raise a family. These women truly amaze me.

Why couldn't the men they married have chosen to become head of household and become SAHDs since both partners can't work 80 hour weeks and raise a family?

+1

b/c gender roles will never disappear

As women, we can claim that we're educated, that we once had a demanding career, that we made a good salary to support ourselves when we were single. But when marriage and children come along, we're the first to state that we're the better person to raise the kids and to run the household.

It's the rare husband/wife TEAM who will flip roles and be proud of the fact that this arragement is equitable.

And why should the Harvard grad earn more respect for staying home than the administrative assistant making 1/3 of her salary? FWIW, I would look at the Ivy grad and think, "huh . . . you spent hundreds of thousands on your degree and barely used it."

MRS degree only now it is postponed until after choosing a demanding career path.