Issue with friend's toddler

[Anonymous]

OP, did you go back to the park and find them? Or call the park authority to see if anyone turned them in?

[Anonymous]

This is what happens when you are busy socializing during a playdate. Four adults should be able to keep children away from ledges and keys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, did you go back to the park and find them? Or call the park authority to see if anyone turned them in?

Also curious what the end result is and whether they were found.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No. It is your responsibility to manage your child. If you cannot manage your child, then you can ask me to take whatever items I have out of your child's reach and I can comply or otherwise take responsibility for those items. But you have the first and foremost responsibility to either keep an eye/hand on your child and if you cannot keep them from taking/touching someone else's things, to remove your child from the temptations.

In this case it was especially egregious because there were four adults for two toddlers. I understand toddlers can get into everything, but why was OP's DH the only one to notice that the friends' toddler was getting into the diaper bag and at the keys? If he was busy wrangling OP's difficult child, who was watching the other toddler? I can understand the problem when the children outnumber the caregivers, but when the parents outnumber the children 2:1, then there should be at least one parent per child monitoring.

Yes, it's my responsibility to manage my child, but if you and I are sitting there - and my kid constantly is reaching in your open bag - and I am constantly pulling him away - and you are constantly ignoring it and leaving your bag there - then at some point it's your responsibility to watch your own stuff. It's similar to if you're on the metro (or some other public place) and you leave your purse and wallet open and on an empty seat near you and you aren't watching it - and someone steals your money - you are to blame for not closely watching your stuff.

I'm not saying I'm not managing my kid - because I am - but after several attempts with you not even making an effort to protect your own stuff - I'm done protecting it too.

Agree with PP. Of course parents must "manage" their children, but if you are visiting with the parent of a toddler, please have the common sense and common courtesy to secure your stuff or keep it out of reach, so that the parent isn't engaged in a constant battle with the child.

Did you read the original note? Four parents, two toddlers go to a park. Car keys are in the diaper bag, which is in a stroller. Only one adult seems to be paying attention. OP's DH sees the key problem, takes them away and puts them back in the diaper bag and then has to go and wrangle his own toddler at the park. Why are there three other adults, none of whom seems to see a toddler go into a stroller that is not her family's and take keys out of a diaper bag a second time? Who was watching child #2? As I said, if there were more children than adults, I can definitely understand the need for someone to take their possessions out of range of the child, but clearly with three adults, ONE of them (including two, who were this child's parents) should be watching the child. It takes cihldren 2 seconds to get into things. Why were they not paying attention?

[Anonymous]

This is why I keep keys and cards zipped inside the purse or bag in the interior zip/button/magnet compartments.

[Anonymous]

please come back OP and tell us what happened? did you find the keys?

(I don't know why I care, but I am curious!)