A question for men only, about looks

[Anonymous]

TheManWithAUsername wrote:This time bomb thread is ticking away, but I'll pick it up anyway.

Anonymous wrote:I really just want to know the truth about what men find attractive.

The range may be bigger than you think. I've been very surprised by what some men like.

Anonymous wrote:It's not that I'm losing my looks per say, just my youthfulness. Which is I think such a key element in attractiveness to men. Is this true?

"Youthfulness" - hmm...It's hard to say, but what I think strikes me as more attractive about younger women is skin & body tone and perkiness. The perkiness isn't terribly meaningful - doesn't do more for me than attract my attention.

Anonymous wrote:Men, do you REALLY find older women attractive, or if given the choice, would you prefer youth if no other factors were involved (cultural perception, etc.)?

If you're asking whether the average woman is more physically attractive when she's younger, of course. So I guess that younger women are generally more attractive, but that's a pretty broad brush.

Younger women tend to be more attractive for the obvious reasons, but those factors aren't everything. There are lots of women I couldn't stand talking to long enough to get naked. And once I've been intimate (even kissing), those impressions and experiences tend to dominate. My DW doesn't look much like a porn star, but she's almost all I fantasize about.

I like you. Your wife is lucky!

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Anonymous wrote:30 year old dad again. I had to RSS this thread. Love it. Look she asked what men look for and I gave her my list. I should also add a natural looking tan (non jersey shore), a good sorority and preferably she went to an SEC school. That's what I and all my buddies liked and married. Don't believe me? Ask any young associate living in glover park. I can't help it if I'm not attracted to less than hot women that went to uppity New England all girls schools.

Also I must add my personal fetish is a hot black woman. Think Kerry Washington. I would sleep with her in our bed. I've met black women in LA who are really hot. The ones in DC are like their white liberal counterparts.

No way a dude wrote this. Too many disingenuous phrases like "natural looking tan," "good sorority," "young associate," and "uppity" girls school. What guy uses the word "uppity"?

[Anonymous]

Go shove a Confederate flag up your ass, Southern Douche!

[Anonymous]

I knew I shouldn't have taken the bait. I'm now going to waste precious billable hours going back and forth. The OP asked a simple question, and she wanted a mans opinion. I'm sorry if my views (and I know it's not a limited one) on what the ideal woman looks like doesn't fit into your box. Different strokes. But to now blame me for everything under the sun including the recession and remake of Charlies Angels is quite sad. If you want a different view poll guys from U Street.

I can see why my wife is addicted to this site. The drama does not end. TNT

[Anonymous]

OP, I apologize for posting as a woman, but this is a sensitive subject for me, and I just wanted to share a couple thoughts.

Yesterday, when I brought my 14 and 13 year old daughters to the orthodontist to get their braces on, the receptionist thought I was there to get MY braces on. It took a bit before I could convince her I was their mother. The waiting room had a good laugh, especially because I'm pregnant, though I don't think she could see my tummy under the counter.

I am always carded hard, always mistaken for the babysitter. I've never worn sunscreen or makeup in my life, and I'm not in perfect shape. I just look young.

But I'm 35 now, and I had a hard time on my birthday, because it hit me that I was AMA now. I will get old. I will not always have babies.

As a military wife, I could recount dozens and dozens of conversations with other military wives who were spending deployment pay on plastic surgery. These were women in their 20s and early 30s, getting breast enlargements and tummy tucks with their husband's enthusiastic approval. I bit my lip and thought, "Don't these men know THEY are going to get old, too?"

I don't understand this whole issue, though becoming AMA gave me a tiny hint as to why this might be so upsetting to some people. Maybe it's our porn-saturated society, I don't know. I do know this, OP. What is important is love. Think of Mother Teresa's ancient face, and how people raved about the aura of peace and love around her. That is all you need to focus on.

I mean, if "30 year old dad" is not a parody, which I doubt, think of how goofy he comes across? Are those kinds of mindless, ridiculous, downright silly perspectives going to inform your actions AT ALL? I hope not!

[Anonymous]

Is OP single, and worrying that as she ages she will be less likely to attract a mate? Or is she married and just worried that some random frat boy like Glover Park dude won't want to bang her (boo hoo)? If it is the latter, it is kind of sad. I didn't marry until I was over 40. In fact, I didn't date much until I turned 35, and stopped chasing frat boys. Not all men are looking for the same thing. And what they are attracted to for a one night stand is not the same thing they are attracted to for a life partner.

[Anonymous]

Woman here. My mom is drop-dead gorgeous (as in supermodel looks) and always dressed up to the nines and even in my early twenties (early fifties for her) men hardly holder than me would hit on her. Not sure whether they realized she was old enough to be their mom.

The funniest one was one time when we were walking down the street in a European city and a young guy in a Porsche pulled up alongside us, rolled down his window and asked her if she would have dinner with him. When she laughed and politely declined, he continued to follow us around at 2 miles an hour for a while and trying to convince her with a variety of arguments.
(I was dressed in grungy clothes so he must have thought I was the maid, to the extent he even noticed I was there).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go shove a Confederate flag up your ass, Southern Douche!

LMAOF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me a little sad. I am 10 years older than you OP. I was a very beautiful girl, always the prettiest one in the room. I'm still attractive but it's not the same. I know how shallow and stupid it is to lament getting old but life is so golden for a pretty girl. People are so nice to pretty people. Funny thing is I didn't realize why people were always so nice to me until the attention stopped. I miss it. I would never admit this to anyone in real life.

You had your day, now it is someone else's turn.

I was a model in NYC and did my rounds all over the globe from 17-22 and I definitly come from a place where looks matter. However, at the ripe old age of 23, I had to move over and let the youger crowd have their time in the spotlight.

What is important is that you take care of yourself, your skin (which really needs to start in your teens by staying OUT of the sun), exercise, keep your weight in check, and age with GRACE. Grace is not only a look, but an attitude and the way you carry yourself. The worst thing you can do is try to look at act like a 20 something, which translates into desparation.

Oh and, BTW, women in their late 30s can look amazing. Sophia Varga? Hello! If you are a hetro man of any age and don't think this is hot, then I question your sexual preference
http://www.tmz.com/2011/10/24/sofia-vergara-bikini-mexico/

[Anonymous]

Man here.

Well, what I do NOT find attractive on older women is bulging neck veins or age spots. If you are lucky enough to avoid those, and you're cute, then you'll still get my attention.

[Anonymous]

Oh yea, and for Sophia, she has one child and is a cancer survivor, thyroid, which puts a real stress on your thyroid. I bet she is militant about her diet and exercise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

Well, what I do NOT find attractive on older women is bulging neck veins or age spots. If you are lucky enough to avoid those, and you're cute, then you'll still get my attention.

Are bulging hand veins okay? Because I just looked down at the backs of my hands and . . . uh oh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me a little sad. I am 10 years older than you OP. I was a very beautiful girl, always the prettiest one in the room. I'm still attractive but it's not the same. I know how shallow and stupid it is to lament getting old but life is so golden for a pretty girl. People are so nice to pretty people. Funny thing is I didn't realize why people were always so nice to me until the attention stopped. I miss it. I would never admit this to anyone in real life.

You had your day, now it is someone else's turn.

I was a model in NYC and did my rounds all over the globe from 17-22 and I definitly come from a place where looks matter. However, at the ripe old age of 23, I had to move over and let the youger crowd have their time in the spotlight.

What is important is that you take care of yourself, your skin (which really needs to start in your teens by staying OUT of the sun), exercise, keep your weight in check, and age with GRACE. Grace is not only a look, but an attitude and the way you carry yourself. The worst thing you can do is try to look at act like a 20 something, which translates into desparation.

Oh and, BTW, women in their late 30s can look amazing. Sophia Varga? Hello! If you are a hetro man of any age and don't think this is hot, then I question your sexual preference
http://www.tmz.com/2011/10/24/sofia-vergara-bikini-mexico/

for somebody in their 40s--J-LO doesn't appear to have aged at all. Of course, the southern-soroity blonde lover won't like her. I also think Julia Marguiles is stunning and ageless as well.

[Anonymous]

J-Lo's secret sauce is her skin. WOW, that woman has amazing skin and I'd argue that she has gotten much more attractive as she has gotten older, though that probably has more to do with cosmetic procedures and her weight loss. Being just a tad overweight can really pack on the years, especially if you collect around your belly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew I shouldn't have taken the bait. I'm now going to waste precious billable hours going back and forth. The OP asked a simple question, and she wanted a mans opinion. I'm sorry if my views (and I know it's not a limited one) on what the ideal woman looks like doesn't fit into your box. Different strokes. But to now blame me for everything under the sun including the recession and remake of Charlies Angels is quite sad. If you want a different view poll guys from U Street.

I can see why my wife is addicted to this site. The drama does not end. TNT

Second 8:46 - PP, you are a woman.