Annoying Things My Mother says...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You really should watch Glenn Beck. Finally, someone who speaks the truth about our country!"

OMG. I don't think I could take this, I'm so glad my mom doesn't watch TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I had my first miscarriage, mom turned to DH (they were both at hospital waiting for me to come out of surgery) and told him she was glad this was happening because I was getting "too fat."

Wow. How did your husband respond??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As they get older it gets worse. It's like the toddler who says, "why is that lady fat?" with the volume on 10. Both DD and I are always prepared to slink down like we don't know my mom when we are in public with her. It's actually pretty hilarious after a while, but not if her comments are racial or hypercritical of people around her, including us!

That's my mom.

Best (worst) yet, we were in a mall and she said loudly to no one in particular: "It's so NICE to see a black man taking an interest in his children!" When I dressed her down (after fleeing the scene) she said "What?!? I said it was nice!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I had my first miscarriage, mom turned to DH (they were both at hospital waiting for me to come out of surgery) and told him she was glad this was happening because I was getting "too fat."

Wow. How did your husband respond??

He was completely dumbstruck and too worried about me to respond.

[Anonymous]

When I had my first miscarriage, mom turned to DH (they were both at hospital waiting for me to come out of surgery) and told him she was glad this was happening because I was getting "too fat."

I"m so sorry. It's so strange. Is she like that a lot? Sometimes my mom comes out with wildly inappropriate, painful, hurtful comments at odd times and then denies that she ever has said them, she would never say anything so awful, etc.

Anyway, as I've gotten older, my relationship with my mom has gotten better. And this thread has helped me appreciate some things about her--like how she's become a raging liberal since 2000, joined Dailykos and gets involved in politics to a rather annoying degree.

Racism: she absolutely believes she has not a racist bone in her body, but will say things like "oh, so and so is black but so educated and accomplished."


"I guess you haven't had time to work out lately."

"You're not really going to eat french fries, are you??"


to a friend of mine, at her wedding, when I was 27 "Well, I'm so happy for you. Its clear that [my daughter] will never find a husband. It's all her father's fault, too"

and maybe my favorite "So and SO, who is really fat, just got engaged to a doctor. What does she have that you don't?"

after finishing my PhD "Finally! Now you can work on getting married, though its probably too late for kids" ( I ended up having 2, at 38 and 40 after which she said that I got my fertility from her).

after learning I was engaged to my now husband (who was divorced and has a s.n. child) "Well, you always were a glutton for punishment."

to my husband when he put on a slighly ripped pair of jeans and t-shirt to do some gardening: "wow, auditioning for a part as a homeless person?"

to me, whenever she asks if my son does XYZ yet and if I say no she says that I knew my colors by a year, had a 50 word vocabulary at a year, was speaking complete sentences at 18 months, my brother knew the alphabet at a year, etc and then says "but of course, I spent all my days working so hard to teach you and your brother, whereas your son goes to a daycare where they barely speak english, so that's probably why he's delayed." (its bilingual and he's in no way delayed).....

oh, the list could go on and on.....

[Anonymous]

My mom has some great things she likes to say, but I want to put in a shout-out for my dad, who looked at DH in the hospital after my son was born and said "that's great, I was worried he was going to be an ugly baby like your niece"

[Anonymous]

You know, these passive aggressive f*cks really count on us being shocked by their behavior. I would love a good book/class/whatever to put them in their place. Rather than having to waste any other time (say, years) having to learn.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the laughs everyone!

My mom is a doozy too, but at least now I don't feel like I'm all alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I occasionally complain about life or a relationship annoyance, she immediately dismisses it and says:

"Why are you letting this person (thing) have power over you?" Argh!! I'm not letting anyone have "power" over me. I am venting a frustration. Something that she does to me ALL the time. Almost daily.

Other gems:

"Don't let anyone have control over your mental health."
"Why do you have to be so logical about everything?"
"I wish you would go to church. You need to have more faith about things."

I realize that these many not be irritataing to others, but it drives me crazy.

Wow, I understand because that's exactly the kind of thing my mom does that drives me nuts. It's a different kind of annoying than the other commentors deal with. Other peoples moms on here say and do extreme things but our mothers are EXTREMELY preachy people.

Have you ever seen that movie "The Legend of Bagger Vance" where Will Smiths characters always had something deep to say? That's how my mom thinks she has to be. Nothing is ever lighthearted or meaningless. She finds a way to turn every conversation into a religious sermon or moral of day story. And when you don't act like this, she accuses you of not being religious enough, spiritual enough etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

When I had my first miscarriage, mom turned to DH (they were both at hospital waiting for me to come out of surgery) and told him she was glad this was happening because I was getting "too fat."

I"m so sorry. It's so strange. Is she like that a lot? Sometimes my mom comes out with wildly inappropriate, painful, hurtful comments at odd times and then denies that she ever has said them, she would never say anything so awful, etc.

Anyway, as I've gotten older, my relationship with my mom has gotten better. And this thread has helped me appreciate some things about her--like how she's become a raging liberal since 2000, joined Dailykos and gets involved in politics to a rather annoying degree.

Racism: she absolutely believes she has not a racist bone in her body, but will say things like "oh, so and so is black but so educated and accomplished."


"I guess you haven't had time to work out lately."

"You're not really going to eat french fries, are you??"


to a friend of mine, at her wedding, when I was 27 "Well, I'm so happy for you. Its clear that [my daughter] will never find a husband. It's all her father's fault, too"

and maybe my favorite "So and SO, who is really fat, just got engaged to a doctor. What does she have that you don't?"

after finishing my PhD "Finally! Now you can work on getting married, though its probably too late for kids" ( I ended up having 2, at 38 and 40 after which she said that I got my fertility from her).

after learning I was engaged to my now husband (who was divorced and has a s.n. child) "Well, you always were a glutton for punishment."

to my husband when he put on a slighly ripped pair of jeans and t-shirt to do some gardening: "wow, auditioning for a part as a homeless person?"

to me, whenever she asks if my son does XYZ yet and if I say no she says that I knew my colors by a year, had a 50 word vocabulary at a year, was speaking complete sentences at 18 months, my brother knew the alphabet at a year, etc and then says "but of course, I spent all my days working so hard to teach you and your brother, whereas your son goes to a daycare where they barely speak english, so that's probably why he's delayed." (its bilingual and he's in no way delayed).....

oh, the list could go on and on.....

Wow, I'm impressed that you ladies can put up with this kind of crap. My mom says these kinds of things all the time and I haven't spoken to her in years because I just couldn't take the constant barrage of criticisms anymore. How do you tolerate it??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As they get older it gets worse. It's like the toddler who says, "why is that lady fat?" with the volume on 10. Both DD and I are always prepared to slink down like we don't know my mom when we are in public with her. It's actually pretty hilarious after a while, but not if her comments are racial or hypercritical of people around her, including us!

That's my mom.

Best (worst) yet, we were in a mall and she said loudly to no one in particular: "It's so NICE to see a black man taking an interest in his children!" When I dressed her down (after fleeing the scene) she said "What?!? I said it was nice!"

Hilarious!!!!!

[Anonymous]

A minute on your lips, forever on your hips.

Put on some lipstick.

You're wearing that?

Refers to the tv as "the boob tube"

Still love her to pieces

[Anonymous]

It's a beautiful house you bought, well, except of course for the front door.

thanks mom, I'm sure it will be no problem to just change our front door to appease you.

Are you going to leave those rocks in the garden where they are?

Of course not, DH and I need the exercise and it shouldn't be a problem to move 200 lb plus rocks in a manner that suits you.

Oh I see you have gained weight.

yes mom, this seems to happen when I'm pregnant.

We decided that a play kitchen is more for older kids so we are going to get the twins something else.

Oh thanks mom, it was no trouble looking at 50 plus amazon links to different play kitchens sent out in individual emails over a two week period after YOU asked us what the twins wanted for their birthday. For the record I told her anything she got would be great. ...sigh...

[Anonymous]

oh 21:51 here,

to commiserate with the other poster who had a miscarriage.

My mother's first words upon hearing the news? "well, that's not really a miscarriage".

thanks for the support....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oh 21:51 here,

to commiserate with the other poster who had a miscarriage.

My mother's first words upon hearing the news? "well, that's not really a miscarriage".

I've got one of those! My mother told me for YEARS about how she was sorry she wasn't really there for me when I was young, because she "lost a baby" and it was terribly hard on her. (It was an ectopic pregnancy.) When I had bleeding early in pregnancy, she said *shrug* "you can always just try again. It's no big deal at this stage."