To the parents at my daycare center...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's just me or someone else finds funny when daycare staff call themselves teachers?

Did they take the Praxis? Do they have a license to teach?

Are YOU a teacher, OP? I am. My children attendd preschools with certified teachers. They never attended a daycare when they were younger b/c we were lucky to have family step in.

However, it's your condescending attitude that just cheapens what we - as educators at ALL levels - do. And sometimes experience trumps educational courses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Or because they took 1 CD class at community college they are experts in children.

And b/c you popped one out of your vagina, you're an expert, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's just me or someone else finds funny when daycare staff call themselves teachers?

Did they take the Praxis? Do they have a license to teach?

If our government would step up and institute a nationalized subsidized early childcare system, or if parents were willing to pay more for childcare, maybe the professional standards for childcare workers would raise and then they would be paid more. But neither of these things is likely to happen in our backward country. So just cut them slack and give them some dignity by calling them teachers. Their job is hard enough, don't you think? We entrust our children to them, don't we?

Same goes for nannies, babe.

[Anonymous]

You grammar is of the utmost concern because you are teaching my child. My 5th grade teacher used to say, "It's nice to know our multiplication tables but you will be judged by how well you speak English."

Then put an "r" after you in the first sentence above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Or because they took 1 CD class at community college they are experts in children.

And b/c you popped one out of your vagina, you're an expert, too.

This.

[Anonymous]

Some schools like CCBC have very strict guidelines on just saying "your child is developmentally delayed." There is a whole process that must be followed first, including contacting the director and possibly having an evaluation by Ivymount, in many cases BEFORE a parent is notified. So it may take several weeks before a decision is reached, if at all, to notify a parent that a child is developmentally behind. I am sure children can fall through the cracks in this process or not be reevaluated until months later when the institution finally deems it okay to notify parents. No school wants to be liable for that kind of misinformation.

[Anonymous]

"are not reevaluated..."

[Anonymous]

NP here.

OP and 8:00 - you are on the money. I have seen enough to know that too many parents are in denial.

I have seen a parent or two send their child to school vomiting, only to try to turn it around and say the center's toys are not clean. On top of that, they wanted someone else to clean the toys they were complaining about - which were NOT the issue at all! Not to mention, the toys were perfectly clean (another post entirely).

In addition, I have seen a parent or two completely in denial about their own children, whom they should know relatively well, but are too afraid of what others think. The child consequently does not get the help they need.

Ignore the attackers. They don't want to hear it because they fear they will be found out. They should spend more time parenting and less time covering up. Clearly they are not fooling anyone. Least of all themselves.

Just curious, how do you handle the creepy dads? Stop making eye contact because they won't grow up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Or because they took 1 CD class at community college they are experts in children.

And b/c you popped one out of your vagina, you're an expert, too.

Actually, I had a c-section and I have a masters in child development. So yes, I would call myself somewhat of an expert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here.

OP and 8:00 - you are on the money. I have seen enough to know that too many parents are in denial.

I have seen a parent or two send their child to school vomiting, only to try to turn it around and say the center's toys are not clean. On top of that, they wanted someone else to clean the toys they were complaining about - which were NOT the issue at all! Not to mention, the toys were perfectly clean (another post entirely).

In addition, I have seen a parent or two completely in denial about their own children, whom they should know relatively well, but are too afraid of what others think. The child consequently does not get the help they need.

Ignore the attackers. They don't want to hear it because they fear they will be found out. They should spend more time parenting and less time covering up. Clearly they are not fooling anyone. Least of all themselves.

Just curious, how do you handle the creepy dads? Stop making eye contact because they won't grow up?

Yes, but I've been to centers who allow sick kids to stay (even against policy).

[Anonymous]

How can the daycare workers have no opportunity to tell parents that the child is not meeting the milestones as his/her peers do? My child's daycare gives him "report cards" every six month stating whether he is never, always, or sometimes able to meet different milestones (saying more than 5 words regularly etc.). It doesn't state whether he is delayed overall, but it would raise a red flag if he was never able to meeet most of the goals.
I am also confused by the parents who claim that they would have no way of knowing that their child was delayed except for a daycare provider telling them. Babycenter and many other sites have information telling you what babies and toddlers should be able to do for each month of their development.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here.

OP and 8:00 - you are on the money. I have seen enough to know that too many parents are in denial.

I have seen a parent or two send their child to school vomiting, only to try to turn it around and say the center's toys are not clean. On top of that, they wanted someone else to clean the toys they were complaining about - which were NOT the issue at all! Not to mention, the toys were perfectly clean (another post entirely).

In addition, I have seen a parent or two completely in denial about their own children, whom they should know relatively well, but are too afraid of what others think. The child consequently does not get the help they need.

Ignore the attackers. They don't want to hear it because they fear they will be found out. They should spend more time parenting and less time covering up. Clearly they are not fooling anyone. Least of all themselves.

Just curious, how do you handle the creepy dads? Stop making eye contact because they won't grow up?

this is something that bothers me -- what is considered sick? i don't think my child's running nose should require me to take a day off work. also, my dc has eczema and scratches a lot especially when he gets tired. he goes to the doctor regularly -- they say he is fine. i believe the daycare workers should get over it


Yes, but I've been to centers who allow sick kids to stay (even against policy).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked in as a daycare teacher right out of college for several years. OP is spot on.

*I have had dads attempt to flirt with us at pickup. Most teachers did not attempt to flirt back.

*Center policies -especially chain centers - prohibit teachers from telling parents directly that their child is "delayed" as the teacher is not normally a medical or developmental specialist and can not make that call.

*Parents can become defensive about *anything* and everything including if you ask them to bring a different brand of sippy cup (some are better at not leaking).

*I have seen delayed children, who do get diagnosed, but their parents refuse services because they don't want to face the truth that their child may have issues. It's neither a lack of resources or money in many cases but rather a case of denial.

This is completely correct. I also worked in a daycare center for several years after college. And to be completely honest, my experience was that most working parents were simply too busy to care. There was a world of difference in teaching in a daycare as compared to a part-time preschool program.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's just me or someone else finds funny when daycare staff call themselves teachers?

Did they take the Praxis? Do they have a license to teach?

It depends. I have worked with some daycare “teachers’ who were licensed and degreed teachers and most definitely had taken the PRAXIS. There are also many daycare teachers who have degrees in fields outside of the expected childhood development/education realm and then take a few of those classes in order to teach – it used to be 18 credit hours or roughly 6 classes.

Most jurisdictions do require that daycare “teachers” have a four year degree OR can substitute years of experience and a CDA.

[Anonymous]

You grammar is of the utmost concern because you are teaching my child. My 5th grade teacher used to say, "It's nice to know our multiplication tables but you will be judged by how well you speak English." You are teaching my children and I expect you to speak and write correctly. Otherwise, I will have complaints about you.

NP here. PP, you are a jerk and an idiot. My son goes to an in home daycare center where his provider's native language in Farsi. She speaks English quite well, but still gets some words mixed up and some sayings wrong. By 23 months, he was speaking in full sentences like "Mommy, I don't want that banana for lunch." So the occasional typo, accented speaking, or garbled saying has NO IMPACT on a child's ablity to speak english correctly. And, if that is really what you expect, I imagine you are paying $$$$ for a British nanny so you can teach the Queen's English in your home. I don't know very many daycare providers in the DC area that speak English as a first and only language. You get what you pay for. And judging by your post, your parents must have paid a lot of money for you to be such an ass.

OP, I totally get where you are coming from. My mom worked at a large daycare center as a teacher for 10+ years. The stories she would tell about some of the parents and some of the things that went on there would make my skin crawl! There was one baby that at 11 months still could not even sit up on its own or roll over on its own. My mother had mentioned to the parents that the baby wasn't meeting milestones, and they told her off, saying that she was just a babysitter and not a doctor, and then they complained to the director about her! The director just said "We are obligated to tell you if we see something unusual developmentally" and left it at that.

My mom ended up leaving the center and starting her own in-home daycare business. She's much happier now that she can pick her own clients and set her own schedule. And she makes TONS more money - almost double what she was making at a center. She also only accepts children of school teachers - that way, she gets summers off.