To the parents at my daycare center...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked in as a daycare teacher right out of college for several years. OP is spot on.

*I have had dads attempt to flirt with us at pickup. Most teachers did not attempt to flirt back.

*Center policies -especially chain centers - prohibit teachers from telling parents directly that their child is "delayed" as the teacher is not normally a medical or developmental specialist and can not make that call.

*Parents can become defensive about *anything* and everything including if you ask them to bring a different brand of sippy cup (some are better at not leaking).

*I have seen delayed children, who do get diagnosed, but their parents refuse services because they don't want to face the truth that their child may have issues. It's neither a lack of resources or money in many cases but rather a case of denial.

HAHA sure, you're not a fool. He's just flirting, who would want to flirt back and be dumped after a one time thing...

On the Special Needs, I believe your center has a policy also on how to address the issue if you're not allowed to tell them on their faces. Do you mind sharing what the policy is.

Um, I am not sure what you are "HAHA" ing about because it doesn't really make sense. Most teachers were not looking for a new husband so those who flirted back where most definitely looking for a one time thing.

On the "special needs", I no longer work for a center. When I did, the policy of the center was that teachers were not able or capable of making medical diagnosis. Teachers were expected to provided standard developmental guidelines, provide accurate observations and reports of a child's behavior in writing and encourage parents to seek the advice of their pediatrician if they had specific concerns and as the teachers, and the center, we would be supportive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you are in the wrong line of work, OP. It sounds like you have a lot of resentment toward the parents and a lot of unnecessary interest in their personal lives. I can't help but think that must spill over into how you deal with the kids. Our daycare providers are very open with us and vice versa, and it works great.

Also, it's "wandering," not "wondering." And "we teachers," not "us teachers."

Angry grammar police officer.

OP is a teacher and should be able to use correct English.

I am the OP and yes, I speak English, and yes it is my first and only language. I made simple typos. I really do not think that my grammar is what should be of concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked in as a daycare teacher right out of college for several years. OP is spot on.

*I have had dads attempt to flirt with us at pickup. Most teachers did not attempt to flirt back.

*Center policies -especially chain centers - prohibit teachers from telling parents directly that their child is "delayed" as the teacher is not normally a medical or developmental specialist and can not make that call.

*Parents can become defensive about *anything* and everything including if you ask them to bring a different brand of sippy cup (some are better at not leaking).

*I have seen delayed children, who do get diagnosed, but their parents refuse services because they don't want to face the truth that their child may have issues. It's neither a lack of resources or money in many cases but rather a case of denial.

HAHA sure, you're not a fool. He's just flirting, who would want to flirt back and be dumped after a one time thing...

On the Special Needs, I believe your center has a policy also on how to address the issue if you're not allowed to tell them on their faces. Do you mind sharing what the policy is.

Um, I am not sure what you are "HAHA" ing about because it doesn't really make sense. Most teachers were not looking for a new husband so those who flirted back where most definitely looking for a one time thing.

On the "special needs", I no longer work for a center. When I did, the policy of the center was that teachers were not able or capable of making medical diagnosis. Teachers were expected to provided standard developmental guidelines, provide accurate observations and reports of a child's behavior in writing and encourage parents to seek the advice of their pediatrician if they had specific concerns and as the teachers, and the center, we would be supportive.

I am the OP, and she is completely correct. I have followed the guidelines, given developmental handouts that are appropriate for the child's age and have talked to my center director. If the parents do not see a concern and the director does not as well, I can not push the topic any further than what I have done.

[Anonymous]

can you tell a parent to bring some pull-ups? or is that against guidelines too. i am all for venting about jobs or whatever, but some of the issues can be addressed and taken care of immediately. if the child is not actually potty trained -- tell them to bring some pull-ups.

[Anonymous]

Regarding the child who talks about murder, I'm sure the OP has advanced degrees which help her decided between normal repetition from TV and true disturbing behavior. Right "teacher"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the child who talks about murder, I'm sure the OP has advanced degrees which help her decided between normal repetition from TV and true disturbing behavior. Right "teacher"?

If you read the original post, it mentions that it was brought to the parents attention and yes, it is disturbing behavior, "parent."

[Anonymous]

NP here. And a parent.

To OP: ignore all the angry bashing. the idea that one shouldn't come to DCUM to vent is ludicrous. I'll just give those posters the benefit of the doubt and assume they haven't spent much time here yet.

I also agree that I would want any developmental issues brought to my attention, and that those issues actually aren't that obvious to parents, especially first time parents, as our 'norms' are generally based on what we see with our own children. But it seems like you are doing what you can, and that your frustration stems from wanting to help a child and feeling powerless to do so. Totally understandable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the child who talks about murder, I'm sure the OP has advanced degrees which help her decided between normal repetition from TV and true disturbing behavior. Right "teacher"?

If you read the original post, it mentions that it was brought to the parents attention and yes, it is disturbing behavior, "parent."

No it does not.

[Anonymous]

It's just me or someone else finds funny when daycare staff call themselves teachers?

Did they take the Praxis? Do they have a license to teach?

[Anonymous]

Agreed. Or because they took 1 CD class at community college they are experts in children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's just me or someone else finds funny when daycare staff call themselves teachers?

Did they take the Praxis? Do they have a license to teach?

If our government would step up and institute a nationalized subsidized early childcare system, or if parents were willing to pay more for childcare, maybe the professional standards for childcare workers would raise and then they would be paid more. But neither of these things is likely to happen in our backward country. So just cut them slack and give them some dignity by calling them teachers. Their job is hard enough, don't you think? We entrust our children to them, don't we?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's just me or someone else finds funny when daycare staff call themselves teachers?

Did they take the Praxis? Do they have a license to teach?

If OP is not a teacher, why would you want her to diagnose developmental delays in your child? Can't have it both ways, can you?

Bunch of hypocrites here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's just me or someone else finds funny when daycare staff call themselves teachers?

Did they take the Praxis? Do they have a license to teach?

Early Childhood Education...............hmmmmm, wonder why they call it that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's just me or someone else finds funny when daycare staff call themselves teachers?

Did they take the Praxis? Do they have a license to teach?

Many of the teachers in the esteemed private schools that DCUMers bicker over haven't taken Praxis and/or don't have a license.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you are in the wrong line of work, OP. It sounds like you have a lot of resentment toward the parents and a lot of unnecessary interest in their personal lives. I can't help but think that must spill over into how you deal with the kids. Our daycare providers are very open with us and vice versa, and it works great.

Also, it's "wandering," not "wondering." And "we teachers," not "us teachers."

Angry grammar police officer.

OP is a teacher and should be able to use correct English.

I am the OP and yes, I speak English, and yes it is my first and only language. I made simple typos. I really do not think that my grammar is what should be of concern.

You grammar is of the utmost concern because you are teaching my child. My 5th grade teacher used to say, "It's nice to know our multiplication tables but you will be judged by how well you speak English." You are teaching my children and I expect you to speak and write correctly. Otherwise, I will have complaints about you.