Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food

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Anonymous wrote:I was going to invite people over for fondue, but I guess that would mean they would be making their own food and someone would post on DCUM about it.

Fondue isn't nearly as labor intensive as making your own pizza. But I would let everyone know. We're having a fondue party and would love for you to join us.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m older but I just enjoy being invited and enjoying food and time with friends. I’m even fine with water to drink. It’s about the company.

I'm older too and I'd much rather stay at home, eat what I want and drink my good wine. I don't enjoy the company of cheap skates. To each her own.

Homemade pizzas like this aren't cheap. And their labor intensive for the host: making the dough (or buying and dividing the dough); making the sauce(s); cutting up all the toppings; investment in the oven and the accessories and the fuel. This sort of meal is akin to raclette or fondue. It's a social meal.

But I don't enjoy being around people so narrow-minded about experiences so I'd be thankful you won't be coming.

I'm sorry, I'm so very confused. I was under the impression that the host CHOSE to do pizza and not tell any of the guests beforehand.

Your attempt to shame me for YOUR lack of manners is not working on me. You can keep your pizza. I'm perfectly happy without people like you in my life.

You sound rigid and joyless, so same.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Friends invited us to their house Sunday for what I thought was a dinner party. After an hour, the wife puts pizza dough in front of us and says “now you can make your own pizzas and cook them yourselves.”

Not sure if it was a play date or what but it was very strange.

Oh and only one glass of wine per guest

What is wrong with you? It is a fun activity and you can make your pizza how you see fit. We have both hosted and attended dinner parties where this happened and it's a lot of fun.

People will complain about anything, I swear.

No one is disagreeing that it can be a fun party. It's not letting the guests know beforehand what kind of a party it is that's the problem. I don't get how so many of you (really just one of you) repeatedly can't get that through your heads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was going to invite people over for fondue, but I guess that would mean they would be making their own food and someone would post on DCUM about it.

This is more like inviting someone over for fondue and then handing them a loaf of bread and raw veggies to cut up to eat with it.

[Anonymous]

I've had so many issues with friend's kids not eating food that a pizza party is something I would do. Pizza is always a hit. I have a pizza oven outside too.

I had a family over for a BBQ recently and the guest asked what I was making for the kids. I said chicken kabobs and cheeseburgers. He was like "oh no- my kids won't eat that!" His kids wouldn't eat chicken! That's insane to me. I even had a kabob with no marinade (the others were just a teriyaki pineapple marinade). I thought all kids ate chicken. My dh ran out to the store in the middle of the party and bought hot dogs.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m older but I just enjoy being invited and enjoying food and time with friends. I’m even fine with water to drink. It’s about the company.

I'm older too and I'd much rather stay at home, eat what I want and drink my good wine. I don't enjoy the company of cheap skates. To each her own.

Homemade pizzas like this aren't cheap. And their labor intensive for the host: making the dough (or buying and dividing the dough); making the sauce(s); cutting up all the toppings; investment in the oven and the accessories and the fuel. This sort of meal is akin to raclette or fondue. It's a social meal.

But I don't enjoy being around people so narrow-minded about experiences so I'd be thankful you won't be coming.

I'm sorry, I'm so very confused. I was under the impression that the host CHOSE to do pizza and not tell any of the guests beforehand.

Your attempt to shame me for YOUR lack of manners is not working on me. You can keep your pizza. I'm perfectly happy without people like you in my life.

You sound rigid and joyless, so same.

You sound like you were raised by wolves. No manners whatsoever.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun. One glass is plenty.

OP sound like an ungrateful lush.

No, but you sound like an uncultured swine.

Oh, my sweet, summer child. I have more culture in my pinky than you do in your entire body.

[Anonymous]

You are so rude!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP's balking is weird (who doesn't enjoy homemade pizza?!) but this is why I always run menu plans past guests - to rule out surprises, allergy/dietary issues, etc.

DP. This isn't about not enjoying pizza. The etiquette misstep on the part of the host was not to inform the guests about the "theme" of the night, which included making their own meal. That is a theme. That is not a dinner party, where one assumes one gets to go and relax and enjoy themselves, not have to work for their dinner.

I don’t really think putting sauce and toppings on the pizza dough is that much work to warrant a complaint? And it’s not like you’re stoking a wood stove to cook it in. It would only take 2 minutes to put the toppings on. Then into the oven.
Now, if the host is require you to make the sauce yourself and dice up all of the vegetables - I would understand the complaint.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m older but I just enjoy being invited and enjoying food and time with friends. I’m even fine with water to drink. It’s about the company.

I'm older too and I'd much rather stay at home, eat what I want and drink my good wine. I don't enjoy the company of cheap skates. To each her own.

Homemade pizzas like this aren't cheap. And their labor intensive for the host: making the dough (or buying and dividing the dough); making the sauce(s); cutting up all the toppings; investment in the oven and the accessories and the fuel. This sort of meal is akin to raclette or fondue. It's a social meal.

But I don't enjoy being around people so narrow-minded about experiences so I'd be thankful you won't be coming.

This is so weird. No one is saying it's a bad party. (Well, maybe the one person who doesn't seem to like people anyway.) It's about doing something that is labor intensive, like a game, that not everyone wants to do on their Saturday night after a long week. Maybe they do. Maybe they don't. They just need to know what they're getting into and get to make a choice as to how they spend their night out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friends invited us to their house Sunday for what I thought was a dinner party. After an hour, the wife puts pizza dough in front of us and says “now you can make your own pizzas and cook them yourselves.”

Not sure if it was a play date or what but it was very strange.

Oh and only one glass of wine per guest

What is wrong with you? It is a fun activity and you can make your pizza how you see fit. We have both hosted and attended dinner parties where this happened and it's a lot of fun.

People will complain about anything, I swear.

No one is disagreeing that it can be a fun party. It's not letting the guests know beforehand what kind of a party it is that's the problem. I don't get how so many of you (really just one of you) repeatedly can't get that through your heads.

OP. For one thing, know that sock-puppeting will get you banned here. I'm happy to report your posts. For another, you're the only one with the perspective you're putting forward. Multiple people here have called you out for being rigid, ungrateful, dependent on alcohol, cheap, and any number of accurate things that came across clearly in your original post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was going to invite people over for fondue, but I guess that would mean they would be making their own food and someone would post on DCUM about it.

Fondue isn't nearly as labor intensive as making your own pizza. But I would let everyone know. We're having a fondue party and would love for you to join us.

I really don’t understand how putting sauce and toppings on a pizza is harder than fondue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've had so many issues with friend's kids not eating food that a pizza party is something I would do. Pizza is always a hit. I have a pizza oven outside too.

I had a family over for a BBQ recently and the guest asked what I was making for the kids. I said chicken kabobs and cheeseburgers. He was like "oh no- my kids won't eat that!" His kids wouldn't eat chicken! That's insane to me. I even had a kabob with no marinade (the others were just a teriyaki pineapple marinade). I thought all kids ate chicken. My dh ran out to the store in the middle of the party and bought hot dogs.

I would never tell the host "my kids won't eat that." That's incredibly rude. My kid is super picky and there were plenty of times he just had a bun or whatever side was offered. I also always check with people if they are bringing kids about what they actually do eat to avoid this exact scenario.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP's balking is weird (who doesn't enjoy homemade pizza?!) but this is why I always run menu plans past guests - to rule out surprises, allergy/dietary issues, etc.

DP. This isn't about not enjoying pizza. The etiquette misstep on the part of the host was not to inform the guests about the "theme" of the night, which included making their own meal. That is a theme. That is not a dinner party, where one assumes one gets to go and relax and enjoy themselves, not have to work for their dinner.

I don’t really think putting sauce and toppings on the pizza dough is that much work to warrant a complaint? And it’s not like you’re stoking a wood stove to cook it in. It would only take 2 minutes to put the toppings on. Then into the oven.
Now, if the host is require you to make the sauce yourself and dice up all of the vegetables - I would understand the complaint.

I've been to a make your own pizza party. We know going in. It was a lot of fun, but it is a lot of work even with the dough ready to go. Also, baking all the pizza takes a lot of time and coordination. There is nothing relaxing about that kind of night.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was going to invite people over for fondue, but I guess that would mean they would be making their own food and someone would post on DCUM about it.

Fondue isn't nearly as labor intensive as making your own pizza. But I would let everyone know. We're having a fondue party and would love for you to join us.

I really don’t understand how putting sauce and toppings on a pizza is harder than fondue.

Rolling out pizza dough is kind of a PITA. But it's unclear from the OP if that's what was required of them.