Stepford Parents

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Anonymous wrote:They are like this about everything. I went on a Caribbean weekend with a bunch of moms and I thought they’d finally loosen up and speak honestly about a few things. Nope. As we are sitting poolside with drinks they conversed about how: The school is perfect, their husbands are perfect, their children are all perfect (brilliant, athletic, popular, well behaved), their neighborhood is perfect, their entire extended families are perfect. Another lady and I had to escape because we couldn’t believe what we were hearing.

Sounds like a stepford wives vacation.

This sounds like an episode of the white lotus!

I said that when I was there! They kept using the adjectives amazing, phenomenal, unbelievable in rotation when describing the above. It was like listening to Trump bragging.

That’s the kind of social interaction I have with parents at my school. Maybe is part of the problem when the private school system is hyper competitive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Ok, then send that tuition invoice and the many requests for donations to the kids. Let me know how weirdly that pans out.

Or better yet, just put your kids in one of the many excellent public schools in the DMV and walk away from all the bullshit.

NP. Where kids are getting jumped in the bathroom and there is daily violence and other incidents? No thank you. We see what happens around our public school when the kids get out and it is quite concerning. There are two public schools near us and the kids have been involved with many illegal incidents ie: stealing from the store, fighting, and sadly gun incidents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a wealth/class thing in that it’s tacky to complain. In smaller spaces with people you know well, sure. But a large social event? It’s bad manners.

Yes, it's a very bad reflection on the complainer. Especially if you don't know the people well you're complaining to. That will be all they know of you. You become an energy vampire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am wondering if anyone else feels that some private school parent communities can start to feel like The Stepford Wives. Everyone is smiling, over-performing, praising everything, and pretending the school is flawless, even when the experience is clearly mixed.

There is very little room for honest discussion. If you raise a concern, people act as if you are being negative rather than simply describing reality. It sometimes feels less like a school community and more like a social performance.

Is it the same in your school?

If they are nice I don't mind positive people. It is much better than a group of cliquey mean moms that sit around and talk badly about other people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Ok, then send that tuition invoice and the many requests for donations to the kids. Let me know how weirdly that pans out.

Or better yet, just put your kids in one of the many excellent public schools in the DMV and walk away from all the bullshit.

NP. Where kids are getting jumped in the bathroom and there is daily violence and other incidents? No thank you. We see what happens around our public school when the kids get out and it is quite concerning. There are two public schools near us and the kids have been involved with many illegal incidents ie: stealing from the store, fighting, and sadly gun incidents.

Families have a couple of options which are equally valid: switch your kid to a better public school (move) or switch to a good private school. Sadly, there are also private schools that have the same issues you just mentioned. It’s not that it only happens in public schools and private schools are perfect. Some are good, but not all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am wondering if anyone else feels that some private school parent communities can start to feel like The Stepford Wives. Everyone is smiling, over-performing, praising everything, and pretending the school is flawless, even when the experience is clearly mixed.

There is very little room for honest discussion. If you raise a concern, people act as if you are being negative rather than simply describing reality. It sometimes feels less like a school community and more like a social performance.

Is it the same in your school?

If they are nice I don't mind positive people. It is much better than a group of cliquey mean moms that sit around and talk badly about other people.

Agree, fake but nice is not too bad. I prefer genuine and nice though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Ok, then send that tuition invoice and the many requests for donations to the kids. Let me know how weirdly that pans out.

Or better yet, just put your kids in one of the many excellent public schools in the DMV and walk away from all the bullshit.

NP. Where kids are getting jumped in the bathroom and there is daily violence and other incidents? No thank you. We see what happens around our public school when the kids get out and it is quite concerning. There are two public schools near us and the kids have been involved with many illegal incidents ie: stealing from the store, fighting, and sadly gun incidents.

Yeah, some of this also happens at top privates. All you have to do is read this forum and you find out about all of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Ok, then send that tuition invoice and the many requests for donations to the kids. Let me know how weirdly that pans out.

Or better yet, just put your kids in one of the many excellent public schools in the DMV and walk away from all the bullshit.

NP. Where kids are getting jumped in the bathroom and there is daily violence and other incidents? No thank you. We see what happens around our public school when the kids get out and it is quite concerning. There are two public schools near us and the kids have been involved with many illegal incidents ie: stealing from the store, fighting, and sadly gun incidents.

Yeah, some of this also happens at top privates. All you have to do is read this forum and you find out about all of it.

Have had kids in top dc privates for 20 plus years and never once have we had an experience of violence at school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Ok, then send that tuition invoice and the many requests for donations to the kids. Let me know how weirdly that pans out.

Only rape and child molestation. That’s not a troll comment but actual data on cases from private schools. Just google the cases in Maret and NCS just to mention a few.
Or better yet, just put your kids in one of the many excellent public schools in the DMV and walk away from all the bullshit.

NP. Where kids are getting jumped in the bathroom and there is daily violence and other incidents? No thank you. We see what happens around our public school when the kids get out and it is quite concerning. There are two public schools near us and the kids have been involved with many illegal incidents ie: stealing from the store, fighting, and sadly gun incidents.

Yeah, some of this also happens at top privates. All you have to do is read this forum and you find out about all of it.

Have had kids in top dc privates for 20 plus years and never once have we had an experience of violence at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Ok, then send that tuition invoice and the many requests for donations to the kids. Let me know how weirdly that pans out.

Or better yet, just put your kids in one of the many excellent public schools in the DMV and walk away from all the bullshit.

NP. Where kids are getting jumped in the bathroom and there is daily violence and other incidents? No thank you. We see what happens around our public school when the kids get out and it is quite concerning. There are two public schools near us and the kids have been involved with many illegal incidents ie: stealing from the store, fighting, and sadly gun incidents.

Yeah, some of this also happens at top privates. All you have to do is read this forum and you find out about all of it.

Have had kids in top dc privates for 20 plus years and never once have we had an experience of violence at school.

Well, there cases of molestation publicly disclosed in Maret and NCS. So yes, unfortunately violence can also happen in top dc privates.