Stepford Parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds awful OP and I hope your child is having a great experience otherwise you should get out of there. We are at a top private and I feel like I can be honest and open in sharing concerns and vulnerabilities about school and life. Pretty key part of community building IMO.

Good for you. What we experience in our school is borderline gaslighting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS attends a Stepford like school with a mean girl contingent. I still show up and volunteer for things even though I'm sure some grade moms are peeved that I as a URM took "Their spot." I'm not unpleasant to anyone but do my own thing. Luckily it seems easier on the boys than the girls - my DS gets along with everyone as he is a sporty, friendly, upbeat dude who does well academically.

Why are you so sure?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Agree. But parents get soooo involved.

Even I, a private school parent, think this is odd! On one hand, we pay a lot of money and deserve to be involved. On the other hand, the environment feels like preschool or a weird club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Agree. But parents get soooo involved.

Even I, a private school parent, think this is odd! On one hand, we pay a lot of money and deserve to be involved. On the other hand, the environment feels like preschool or a weird club.

Because you think you deserve to be involved. You are the problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Ok, then send that tuition invoice and the many requests for donations to the kids. Let me know how weirdly that pans out.

Or better yet, just put your kids in one of the many excellent public schools in the DMV and walk away from all the bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Agree. But parents get soooo involved.

Even I, a private school parent, think this is odd! On one hand, we pay a lot of money and deserve to be involved. On the other hand, the environment feels like preschool or a weird club.

That’s totally true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope, WIS parents are genuinely really interesting and chill people. I'm repulsed by the idea of people sending their kids to a school to improve their own personal social standing in any way, but I am genuinely enjoying the new people it has brought into my life. Such a breath if fresh air after a lot of my close circle moved away with Covid and I was struggling to meet new friends with my attention mostly on the little one in my arms.

One of my super rich friends with a big family legacy of sending their kids to Sidwell + the likes sent her own kids to WIS They loved it.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think this is specific to school. DD is currently in private but we’ve done public and are going back for HS after 5 years.
My private isnt like this.
I do feel like that at some events though. Her soccer team has mostly down to earth parents. Some of the other teams we’ve played though are not. All dressed identically, same hair style, same Stanley’s….I kid you not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is specific to school. DD is currently in private but we’ve done public and are going back for HS after 5 years.
My private isnt like this.
I do feel like that at some events though. Her soccer team has mostly down to earth parents. Some of the other teams we’ve played though are not. All dressed identically, same hair style, same Stanley’s….I kid you not.

That’s exactly what I am talking about. I think to some extent many parents are self conscious and want to project the best image of themselves (that’s always a good idea in a

[Anonymous]

….job environment) but can be stressful if you also have to do it all the time in a social setting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, WIS parents are genuinely really interesting and chill people. I'm repulsed by the idea of people sending their kids to a school to improve their own personal social standing in any way, but I am genuinely enjoying the new people it has brought into my life. Such a breath if fresh air after a lot of my close circle moved away with Covid and I was struggling to meet new friends with my attention mostly on the little one in my arms.

One of my super rich friends with a big family legacy of sending their kids to Sidwell + the likes sent her own kids to WIS They loved it.

This is one of the significant reasons we chose WIS. And it's not just for DH and me. We prefer not having our kids surrounded by kids who are being raised by Stepford parents!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, WIS parents are genuinely really interesting and chill people. I'm repulsed by the idea of people sending their kids to a school to improve their own personal social standing in any way, but I am genuinely enjoying the new people it has brought into my life. Such a breath if fresh air after a lot of my close circle moved away with Covid and I was struggling to meet new friends with my attention mostly on the little one in my arms.

One of my super rich friends with a big family legacy of sending their kids to Sidwell + the likes sent her own kids to WIS They loved it.

This is one of the significant reasons we chose WIS. And it's not just for DH and me. We prefer not having our kids surrounded by kids who are being raised by Stepford parents!

+1 Good for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Schools are for kids. Not parents. That's the weirdest part of the private school thing.

Nailed it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are like this about everything. I went on a Caribbean weekend with a bunch of moms and I thought they’d finally loosen up and speak honestly about a few things. Nope. As we are sitting poolside with drinks they conversed about how: The school is perfect, their husbands are perfect, their children are all perfect (brilliant, athletic, popular, well behaved), their neighborhood is perfect, their entire extended families are perfect. Another lady and I had to escape because we couldn’t believe what we were hearing.

Sounds like a stepford wives vacation.

This sounds like an episode of the white lotus!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are like this about everything. I went on a Caribbean weekend with a bunch of moms and I thought they’d finally loosen up and speak honestly about a few things. Nope. As we are sitting poolside with drinks they conversed about how: The school is perfect, their husbands are perfect, their children are all perfect (brilliant, athletic, popular, well behaved), their neighborhood is perfect, their entire extended families are perfect. Another lady and I had to escape because we couldn’t believe what we were hearing.

Sounds like a stepford wives vacation.

This sounds like an episode of the white lotus!

I said that when I was there! They kept using the adjectives amazing, phenomenal, unbelievable in rotation when describing the above. It was like listening to Trump bragging.