Devastating NYT article - please vaccinate your kids

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up unvaccinated in the 1980s-90s. Before you all freak out, I got myself fully vaccinated as an adult and my kids have been vaccinated on schedule. I think that what my parents did with my and my brother's healthcare was reckless, dangerous, and misguided. ...And, it wasn't malicious. So often these conversations devolve (understandably) into finger pointing about how stupid and evil these antivax parents are, how they should be criminally prosecuted or shipped off to an antivax commune.

First, these parents usually not evil. They've usually fallen prey to misinformation about scary-sounding things, like autism or the blood-brain barrier and heavy metals, or even real, but rare side effects. Stack up pseudoscience and statistically-small chances vs. a disease they haven't seen before (because, hey, vaccines worked to make them rare), and it's not necessarily surprising that their risk-reward calculation is off. My parents thought they were doing the right thing, sparing me the pain of a shot and avoiding potential autism/side effects, and it would be fine because nobody gets measles anymore anyway, and certainly healthcare had advanced since measles was prevalent, so if I did get it, I would be fine, right? Most parents want what's best for their kid and want their kid to be healthy. We're not going to change their minds by yelling louder about how we're right and they're wrong.

When I was a kid, my mom taught me not to tell anyone I wasn't vaccinated, because then their parents might not let me play with them anymore. She obviously didn't intend for me to internalize the message that it was dangerous to be unvaccinated or that I should be ashamed, but that conversation was part of why I eventually got myself vaccinated. Anyway, if my family had been shunned, I wouldn't have been presented with so many healthy, vaccinated friends to counter the narrative that vaccines could damage children. Nor would I have had my annual visit to the school nurse (back when they used to vaccinate kids in school) to hear her argue with my mom about getting vaccinated. Our pediatrician was "vaccine friendly" so I wasn't going to hear vaccine information from him.

When I had kids of my own, I did ask their daycare about vaccine requirements, because I don't want my kids around unvaccinated kids either, so I understand the impulse to shun these families. It just hurts me for the kids, because I know what it's like to be that kid who didn't choose this for themselves and can't do anything about it. And I don't think that shunning the parents is going to make them rethink their decision.

For a long time, I didn't talk about growing up unvaccinated or about why I am so passionate about vaccines. Mostly, I didn't think my story was that interesting or consequential. Most of the pro-vaccine stories you see from people who were unvaccinated are about some horrible disease they contracted and the life-altering complications of it. But my childhood wasn't a horror story of disease; I never got a vaccine-preventable illness and my parents weren't crunchy health nuts in other aspects of our lives. It wasn't until I was much older that I realized that my story is important too: sometimes unvaccinated kids are perfectly fine and nothing goes wrong and the choice works out. Not every parent who chooses not to vaccinate is going to have to rush their kid to the hospital with measles and learn sign language because their child goes deaf. The choice about vaccinating is not a binary between doing nothing on the one hand and hospitalization or death on the other, and when we present it that way, it comes off as fear-mongering, even when those are real possible outcomes.

What makes the most difference is having someone the person knows and trusts deliver a consistent message with love. With my parents, talking head-on about vaccines never worked, because they got defensive and I got angry about my childhood and it always ended in a fight. When I had my own kids, my mom tried again to share some of her "research" and I shut it down by telling her we were going to take our advice from our pediatrician. I then spent years sending pictures of my happy kids after their shots, along with an update about their overall health, which shots they had received, and what we did after the visit (napped, played, got ice cream, etc). Basically, I started normalizing it for my parents and demonstrating that it wasn't a big deal to my kids. I didn't get preachy about protecting our community from disease or anything, just shared it like I would share any other normal milestone. My consistent positivity about vaccines laid the groundwork for my parents to be open to vaccines. When my daughter was born, they refused to get a whooping cough booster, but just a few years later, they both got the Covid vaccine and I think they're also getting annual flu shots now.

TLDR: Antivax parents are human; they make mistakes - sometimes misinformed, dangerous mistakes with life-altering consequences - but they're not malicious. The impulse to shun them is natural, but if you can be a trusted source of pro-vaccine information for someone in your life, I urge you not to cut them out and try to leave judgmental attitudes at the door when engaging them (vent your judgments here, instead). And for everyone else, just normalize getting your kids vaccinated. Share it like you share your kid's latest extracurricular accomplishment or that funny thing they said. You don't need to be an expert in vaccines (clearly the people spreading antivax lies aren't experts in health) to talk about why it's important to you.

When you were growing up vaccination rates were much higher than they are today. You were protected by all the other families who chose to vaccinate. It's much scarier now for families with newborns too young for certain vaccines or those who are immunocompromised. It's also possible for an unvaccinated child to get a mild version of a vaccine-preventable illness--so their family shrugs it off--but then they pass it along to someone else who gets much, much sicker. That may well have been what happened to the little girl in this article.

Yes, I was lucky to grow up at a time when my parents were in a severe minority and I benefited from community immunity. As that erodes and outbreaks become more common, I worry for today's unvaccinated kids (and for the infants and immunocompromised people around them). My point was more that the overwhelming narrative about not vaccinating your kid is the worst-case-scenario narrative of illness and death. Instead of just trying to combat fear of vaccine misinformation with fear of vaccine-preventable diseases, we need to also share stories like mine where nothing bad happened and I still chose to catch up on my vaccines and get my kids vaccinated, because it demonstrates the different risk assessments and the positive emotion that go into the decision. Reinforcing the vaccine choice as something proactive, not negative. I didn't choose to get vaccinated because of a bad experience with illness, but because of a positive choice to improve/maintain my health through vaccines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up unvaccinated in the 1980s-90s. Before you all freak out, I got myself fully vaccinated as an adult and my kids have been vaccinated on schedule. I think that what my parents did with my and my brother's healthcare was reckless, dangerous, and misguided. ...And, it wasn't malicious. So often these conversations devolve (understandably) into finger pointing about how stupid and evil these antivax parents are, how they should be criminally prosecuted or shipped off to an antivax commune.

First, these parents usually not evil. They've usually fallen prey to misinformation about scary-sounding things, like autism or the blood-brain barrier and heavy metals, or even real, but rare side effects. Stack up pseudoscience and statistically-small chances vs. a disease they haven't seen before (because, hey, vaccines worked to make them rare), and it's not necessarily surprising that their risk-reward calculation is off. My parents thought they were doing the right thing, sparing me the pain of a shot and avoiding potential autism/side effects, and it would be fine because nobody gets measles anymore anyway, and certainly healthcare had advanced since measles was prevalent, so if I did get it, I would be fine, right? Most parents want what's best for their kid and want their kid to be healthy. We're not going to change their minds by yelling louder about how we're right and they're wrong.

When I was a kid, my mom taught me not to tell anyone I wasn't vaccinated, because then their parents might not let me play with them anymore. She obviously didn't intend for me to internalize the message that it was dangerous to be unvaccinated or that I should be ashamed, but that conversation was part of why I eventually got myself vaccinated. Anyway, if my family had been shunned, I wouldn't have been presented with so many healthy, vaccinated friends to counter the narrative that vaccines could damage children. Nor would I have had my annual visit to the school nurse (back when they used to vaccinate kids in school) to hear her argue with my mom about getting vaccinated. Our pediatrician was "vaccine friendly" so I wasn't going to hear vaccine information from him.

When I had kids of my own, I did ask their daycare about vaccine requirements, because I don't want my kids around unvaccinated kids either, so I understand the impulse to shun these families. It just hurts me for the kids, because I know what it's like to be that kid who didn't choose this for themselves and can't do anything about it. And I don't think that shunning the parents is going to make them rethink their decision.

For a long time, I didn't talk about growing up unvaccinated or about why I am so passionate about vaccines. Mostly, I didn't think my story was that interesting or consequential. Most of the pro-vaccine stories you see from people who were unvaccinated are about some horrible disease they contracted and the life-altering complications of it. But my childhood wasn't a horror story of disease; I never got a vaccine-preventable illness and my parents weren't crunchy health nuts in other aspects of our lives. It wasn't until I was much older that I realized that my story is important too: sometimes unvaccinated kids are perfectly fine and nothing goes wrong and the choice works out. Not every parent who chooses not to vaccinate is going to have to rush their kid to the hospital with measles and learn sign language because their child goes deaf. The choice about vaccinating is not a binary between doing nothing on the one hand and hospitalization or death on the other, and when we present it that way, it comes off as fear-mongering, even when those are real possible outcomes.

What makes the most difference is having someone the person knows and trusts deliver a consistent message with love. With my parents, talking head-on about vaccines never worked, because they got defensive and I got angry about my childhood and it always ended in a fight. When I had my own kids, my mom tried again to share some of her "research" and I shut it down by telling her we were going to take our advice from our pediatrician. I then spent years sending pictures of my happy kids after their shots, along with an update about their overall health, which shots they had received, and what we did after the visit (napped, played, got ice cream, etc). Basically, I started normalizing it for my parents and demonstrating that it wasn't a big deal to my kids. I didn't get preachy about protecting our community from disease or anything, just shared it like I would share any other normal milestone. My consistent positivity about vaccines laid the groundwork for my parents to be open to vaccines. When my daughter was born, they refused to get a whooping cough booster, but just a few years later, they both got the Covid vaccine and I think they're also getting annual flu shots now.

TLDR: Antivax parents are human; they make mistakes - sometimes misinformed, dangerous mistakes with life-altering consequences - but they're not malicious. The impulse to shun them is natural, but if you can be a trusted source of pro-vaccine information for someone in your life, I urge you not to cut them out and try to leave judgmental attitudes at the door when engaging them (vent your judgments here, instead). And for everyone else, just normalize getting your kids vaccinated. Share it like you share your kid's latest extracurricular accomplishment or that funny thing they said. You don't need to be an expert in vaccines (clearly the people spreading antivax lies aren't experts in health) to talk about why it's important to you.

When you were growing up vaccination rates were much higher than they are today. You were protected by all the other families who chose to vaccinate. It's much scarier now for families with newborns too young for certain vaccines or those who are immunocompromised. It's also possible for an unvaccinated child to get a mild version of a vaccine-preventable illness--so their family shrugs it off--but then they pass it along to someone else who gets much, much sicker. That may well have been what happened to the little girl in this article.

Yes, I was lucky to grow up at a time when my parents were in a severe minority and I benefited from community immunity. As that erodes and outbreaks become more common, I worry for today's unvaccinated kids (and for the infants and immunocompromised people around them). My point was more that the overwhelming narrative about not vaccinating your kid is the worst-case-scenario narrative of illness and death. Instead of just trying to combat fear of vaccine misinformation with fear of vaccine-preventable diseases, we need to also share stories like mine where nothing bad happened and I still chose to catch up on my vaccines and get my kids vaccinated, because it demonstrates the different risk assessments and the positive emotion that go into the decision. Reinforcing the vaccine choice as something proactive, not negative. I didn't choose to get vaccinated because of a bad experience with illness, but because of a positive choice to improve/maintain my health through vaccines.

Of course many unvaccinated kids will be fine. That's not news, it's not important at all, frankly, and that's not the point. The point is other children won't be fine. They will be hurt or die from preventable disease because of people like your parents. I DO NOT REALLY CARE that they are not trying to be malicious. They are being RECKLESS with the lives of other people. Maybe they aren't evil, but they are still to blame. They are responsible for the outcomes of their decisions and their decisions are selfish and stupid. We don't let people drive drunk or people die. We can't let these people continue to be accommodated. They could be responsible for the death of someone they will never know and their kids might be fine, but what about someone like the mother who wrote the article. She will never be the same, her life is altered irrevocably. And it was entirely preventable and unnecessary.

So, nope, don't care about their motivations. They can't be allowed to keep this crap up.

I appreciate the vaccine scientist's perspective and agree that yelling at them won't help. But as a whole community, we must work to get these people on board. The price if we don't is too damn high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate both the utterly heartbreaking NYTimes story and the comment from the poster above who was unvaccinated as a child.

I am a public health scientist with a specific focus on vaccines and vaccine messaging. Many parents who do not vaccinate their children genuinely believe that they are preventing a horrendous outcome for their children like the one mentioned in the NYT article - that is, they possess an unshakeable, visceral, underlying belief that their kid could end up paralyzed or even dead from a vaccine. The terror is all-consuming, even if it is not grounded in the evidence. (There are also more moderate types of parents who opt out of specific vaccines, but I’m thinking less about them here since the public ire is more often directed at the former, and the former is more likely to truly endanger kids by forgoing *all* vaccines).

I make a point not to cut off people close to me when I hear them expressing doubts or fears about vaccines. I say something along the lines of “I know you’re the kid’s parent, and I cannot decide for you. I hear your fears. But I am going to tell you my strong opinion - and also my real-life actions - based on the decades I have spent *actually doing the research* on this. Please consider it.”

I also acknowledge real areas of disagreement or uncertainty in vaccine science and explain how we’ve arrived at current recs based on those. Frankly some vaccines are much more effective than others. I universally emphasize how critical the measles vaccine is given how unbelievably contagious measles is and the strong safety track record of the vax.

Much of my previous work on stories of change re: vaccine perceptions has found that people are much more likely to actually change their *views* when exposed to peer pressures from trusted people (family, friends, elders) in their immediate circles, from listening to their doctors, or from having a scary personal firsthand experience with an illness. Mandates are an important and crucial enforcement mechanism but actually changing minds and having conversations with people is a whole other thing.

I am a physician and a parent and I appreciate your work. I’m sure the irony is not lost on you that our world needs both scientists like yourself and public health efforts to make vaccines more widely available to receptive populations in third world countries. Even those efforts have a murky history (rotavirus).

For parents who feel a genuine fear of horrendous outcomes after vaccination, I wish there was a Hollywood blockbuster or alsome way to aptly describe the absolute terror that parents felt in the 50’s, at the height of polio infections in the U.S., and the worry that pregnant women faced in the 60’s, at the height of miscarriages due to rubella and congenital rubella syndrome.

The U.S. decision to mandate rubella vaccination is something that would have never happened today. A disease that was mild in children and adults and was asymptomatic half the time, and otherwise lasted just a few days with a low fever and a rash, would be scoffed at by the current administration. But if a pregnant woman catches rubella in the first trimester, she has a high chance of miscarriage. And if she doesn’t miscarry, her child has a high chance of congenital rubella syndrome, which causes cognitive and sensory defects.

Can you imagine, we were once a country that decided to protect a vulnerable segment of our population enough to mandate vaccination against an otherwise harmless disease? I miss that country.

[Anonymous]

I bet there is much more vaccine hesitation after the "forced" covid vaccines... I have always taken vaccines and had my kids vaccinated without question, but after covid, with the rhetoric of take the untested vaccine or be placed in camps, I'm a bit more leery. Am I still for vaccination, yes I am, am I skeptical about the actual need (and ROI) for some of them, also yes.

[Anonymous]

(flame away)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet there is much more vaccine hesitation after the "forced" covid vaccines... I have always taken vaccines and had my kids vaccinated without question, but after covid, with the rhetoric of take the untested vaccine or be placed in camps, I'm a bit more leery. Am I still for vaccination, yes I am, am I skeptical about the actual need (and ROI) for some of them, also yes.

Can you at least admit out loud to yourself and the rest of this that this is purely an irrational and emotional reaction? Maybe if you start looking at the real reasons you feel this way, you can talk yourself back to a place of sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet there is much more vaccine hesitation after the "forced" covid vaccines... I have always taken vaccines and had my kids vaccinated without question, but after covid, with the rhetoric of take the untested vaccine or be placed in camps, I'm a bit more leery. Am I still for vaccination, yes I am, am I skeptical about the actual need (and ROI) for some of them, also yes.

Absolutely. I am very pro-vaccine, including the Covid vaccine and annual flu shots for my family. But the damage done by what the pp describes above is huge. Many, many more people are now rejecting routine vaccines than they were before Covid. (It wasn’t just the vaccines… there were other aspects of how the pandemic was handled that eroded public trust re: health.).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet there is much more vaccine hesitation after the "forced" covid vaccines... I have always taken vaccines and had my kids vaccinated without question, but after covid, with the rhetoric of take the untested vaccine or be placed in camps, I'm a bit more leery. Am I still for vaccination, yes I am, am I skeptical about the actual need (and ROI) for some of them, also yes.

Turn off Fox. This never happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet there is much more vaccine hesitation after the "forced" covid vaccines... I have always taken vaccines and had my kids vaccinated without question, but after covid, with the rhetoric of take the untested vaccine or be placed in camps, I'm a bit more leery. Am I still for vaccination, yes I am, am I skeptical about the actual need (and ROI) for some of them, also yes.

Absolutely. I am very pro-vaccine, including the Covid vaccine and annual flu shots for my family. But the damage done by what the pp describes above is huge. Many, many more people are now rejecting routine vaccines than they were before Covid. (It wasn’t just the vaccines… there were other aspects of how the pandemic was handled that eroded public trust re: health.).

Covid was traumatic for everyone. How could it not be. There were some mistakes made, especially with messaging.

But if this far out people can't see that they are having an emotional reaction here, you need to stop and think. What the F did some of you think would happen in the midst of a once-in-a-lifetime (hopefully for our sakes) GLOBAL PANDEMIC with a NOVEL VIRUS. That everything was going to just roll smoothly. That all messaging would be perfect? FFS what the hell is wrong with you people.

It is rational to look at the mistakes made and talk about what went well and what didn't. It is rational to try and look at how we can approach new vaccines, roll out, messaging etc in the future. With critical thinking and clear heads. It is not rational to have a knee-jerk reaction regarding ALL VACCINES, especially ones in use for decades whose efficacy and risks are well known.

I just can't with all the idiots. I just can't. People need to grow up and gets heads out of butts. If we have another pandemic, we a F-d, because so many people think they know better than people who have studied medicine and viruses and vaccines for their entire professional lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a physician and I’m at work crying over this article in the NYT (gift link copied below).

Please vaccinate your kids.

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/04/21/opinion/measles-child-britain-vaccination.html?unlocked_article_code=1.clA.E_EP.ZoH0C6Di0dxJ&smid=url-share

Did you push the covid vaccine on kids? If so, you're part of the problem. Every person I know who has become an anti-vaxxer (I am not one) did so because they lost all faith after the lies and gaslighting about the covid vaccine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a physician and I’m at work crying over this article in the NYT (gift link copied below).

Please vaccinate your kids.

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/04/21/opinion/measles-child-britain-vaccination.html?unlocked_article_code=1.clA.E_EP.ZoH0C6Di0dxJ&smid=url-share

Did you push the covid vaccine on kids? If so, you're part of the problem. Every person I know who has become an anti-vaxxer (I am not one) did so because they lost all faith after the lies and gaslighting about the covid vaccine.

No. Antivaxers ate the problem. Why would you forgo vaccines that have been around for a long time about which so much is known over one event with a novel vaccine?

Please detail the lies and gaslighting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so wrong. Why are we not criminalizing this?

Who are you going to charge? The baby was too young to be vaccinated when she contracted the measles that eventually killed her.

Our Health Secretary RFK Jr appointed by our President Trump spreads lies about vaccines on a daily basis paid for by us taxpayers.

Every single parent who refuses to vaccinate their kids, that's who. We don't need to wait until someone dies.

I don't want them treated like criminals. I don't want to be around them. I don't want them in any kind of publicly-funded schools and private schools should refuse them too. Health insurance should also deny them coverage.

This is of course REAL medical reasons to not vaccinate, which are very limited and could be documented.

Go live on a compound with other people like you and deal with your own medical issues since you're so much smarter than doctors and scientists.

There are very few reasons children can't be vaccinated... and the parents' make sure the other kids in the family are vaccinated, to protect that medically-ineligible child...

[Anonymous]

Gift article, we all need to work together on this.

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/04/25/opinion/measles-vaccines-rfk-jr.html?unlocked_article_code=1.dlA.29m0.Kp92_mMVcLsp&smid=url-share

[Anonymous]

So horrible. That poor child and her family.

Anti-vaxxers are some of the worst, most selfish people among us.

It was a huge relief when my youngest turned one and could get an MMR vaccine. Between my oldest and youngest children, there has been so much more vaccine skepticism. I actually vaccinated my youngest for MMR at 9 months old before we took her on an airplane at her doctors suggestion - this was only seven months ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet there is much more vaccine hesitation after the "forced" covid vaccines... I have always taken vaccines and had my kids vaccinated without question, but after covid, with the rhetoric of take the untested vaccine or be placed in camps, I'm a bit more leery. Am I still for vaccination, yes I am, am I skeptical about the actual need (and ROI) for some of them, also yes.

Turn off Fox. This never happened.

+1. The only administration since WWII putting people in camps is Trump's.